What are the top 10 things guys should know about a girls?

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I'm talking about either in a relationship, a fling, a friendship with "benefits", or just in general, or in any other common situation you can think of. YOU CHOOSE THE SITUATION and then write the top 10 things you think a guy should know about a guy. These are things that guys usually just seem to NOT know.

LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE. One thing I hear from girls about what guys SHOULD know is how girls wish guys would be a little more assertive in general, that girls like that? I don't know though some girls don't like guys "coming on too strong" so everyone, give their input... Let's see what we can learn. loll.

xomellll10x3 · Accepted Answer

1. Not all girls expect guys to make the first move. Some girls like making the first move, and doing some of the chasing, especially if they really, REALLY like that person and want to be with them.

2. Being shy is okay, many girls, including me, LIKE that in a guy. Don't get that confused with being a pushover, because that's not attractive, but a guy being shy can make girls like them even more, believe it or not.

3. If a girl honestly looks you in the eyes and smiles, even if just for a second, she likes you or at least finds you attractive/wants to know more about you.

4. PLEASE if you like a girl, or as long as you don't find her totally repulsive, answer her texts. In my case, I hate texting probably just as much as you do, because it sucks as a real way to communicate. But seriously, if a girl texts you, (especially if she likes you) it probably took a ton of courage and she was probably thinking about you.

5. This goes along with #4: If you're really busy or just don't want to text at that moment, please text or tell the girl SOMEHOW that you got her text, and why you didn't answer. And if you didn't answer because you didn't want to, then tell her! It will at least make her stop wondering and beating herself up about it.

6. It's okay to show emotion and open up to us or to other people. It doesn't make you weak or less masculine, it makes you human and it makes you really relatable and that much easier to be friends with and like.

7. If a girl asks you to hang out and you're busy, say so. If she asks you to hang out and you don't want to FOR WHATEVER REASON, tell her. Girls are sensitive and easily hurt, so even if you don't care for a girl as more than a friend, don't snub her or make her wonder.

8. If we like you, you could come up to us and talk to us about dryer lint and we won't care! Just talking to you most likely will make our day.

9. Girls only put a ton of effort into their appearances because they think you want them to. Translation: Don't put such high expectations on girls for their appearances, and maybe they won't be high maintenance.

10. Overall, just open up to us, regardless if you like us as more than a friend or not. Be expressive in your texts and conversations, and if you for some reason let a girl down, PLEASE don't hesitate to apologize or at least clarify your reasoning behind it. It causes a girl's mind and heart to be under SO MUCH LESS pressure and less turmoil.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't have top 10 things I think a guy should know about a girl. But I wish to bring certain awareness to guys about relationship and break-ups with a girl:

In very very general terms, guys within the 18-24 age group don't usually REALLY care about how a girl feels (assuming she's a decent girl), especially when it comes to breaking up. Guys tend to be more self-centered, or in better words, take their own interest way more than the girl. Not suggesting this is a bad thing, but I do wish guys will be more considerate and less selfish if they ever get into a serious relationship with a girl. It's very inconsiderate, selfish for guys to have this temporary adrenaline rush, wanting to get into a relationship with a girl, leading her on, then telling that you wanna break it up due to reasons such as fear of commitment etc.. Guys may be able to say many things to comfort a girl, but the fact is most guys don't exactly understand how a girl feel, and most probably don't REALLY care how her life is gonna be after that. In fact, guys feel but don't feel as much as girls (generally...but not saying everyone). It's a pain really. And sadly, this is just life and fact of life.

To summarize it, only consider getting into a relationship with a girl if you know both of you are serious about it and matured enough to handle the situation, and take responsibility in both of you, and be considerate with a girl's feelings. As for break-ups, please please please break up for the right reason, and ideally, at the right time. My ex had to break the news to me before my exams, without even giving signals that he was gonna break-up before this at all. Despite being sad, I was extremely pissed off with him no matter how nice a guy he is because I had a lot at stake with my studies this year and he couldn't even care less. I can play the understanding role considering that it's his first time and he had no idea what to do, but no one can help me in getting the good grades that I needed real badly, when he's happily focusing and not worrying about his career. Also, usually guys are able to concentrate and focus a lot better than girls after an emotional break-down or break-up with girlfriends. It takes a lot more for girls to recover, and usually guys are not aware and don't even care.

P.S.: Not putting full blame on my ex, but no decent girl deserves this, especially she took the trust and evaluated that he will be fine in the relationship.

blufrenzy93 · Accepted Answer

I love assertive guys, but not when they come on too strong. An example of being assertive--when we're on a date and everything went extremely well. Come time for us to go home and the guy leans in for a kiss :]

An example of coming on too strong would be the guy expecting you to call him every minute or he calls every minute of the day confessing his "dying love" for you...

Anyway, my list is as followed:

1. Do NOT compare us to your ex ! ugh...you wouldn't like it if we did the same to you.

2. Girls love to feel special, even though they might not show it.

3. Confidence goes a long way.

4. Don't say you have feelings/strong feelings if you don't mean it.

5. NO means NO, not "oh, she said no so I'll try again in two minutes."

6. Don't expect to get your hoodie or other pieces of clothing you lent us back.

7. You're dead meat if you can't get along with our pets, parents, and especially best friends. Be prince charming to our friends, Mr. Polite to our parents, and nice to our animals.

8. If something or someone is bothering us, stick up for us ! or just be there...

9. Don't make plans with us and completely forget about them later.

10. If we are feeling insecure, make us feel like the beautiful women we are :]

TheGodEmperorLeto · Accepted Answer

Am I the only guy who is annoyed with girls constantly expecting us to do all the work? Seriously, almost every girl here seems to have this mindset that the guy must:

- Always tell the girl first how they feel

- Always be confident

- Always be strong

- Always having their back

etc. So unrealistic lol. Now, if you girls don't really feel that way, at least make point that out. Guys like being chased/told first too. It gives us the same "feel good feeling" you get. We can't always be strong and confident, the world is a bitch. We will try to stay strong and confident, but there are times we're going to be down, we like it when you are confident and strong too, but I don't recall a guy expecting a girl to be that 24/7. And having their back? Well ya, of course, but sh*t happens, we can't be there for every little problem and it's annoying if we do have to solve them all.

Ah well.

jacquesvol · Accepted Answer

Here are a number of things guys should avoid:

Bethany94 · Answer

(In no real order)

1. Never assume anything. Always communicate and be honest with us.

2. Not all girls can be generalized, not all of us are the same.

3. Don't say anything along the lines of "are you on your period or something?" just because we snap at you. That will only make us madder, especially if we aren't. Or are. We can be mad for lots of reasons.

4. When we tell you a problem, we generally don't want a solution. Unless we ask for one, keep your mouth shut and just comfort us. Women and men are different. Women like to talk about their problems while men like to fix them.

5. Never pretend to listen to us. If you find yourself zoning out, ask if you could talk later, because you're distracted. Possibly change the topic to something that interests you more.

6. Never be unfaithful in a relationship. There is never, ever a reason for that. Even if you're just f*** buddies with a girl, tell her if you'll be going on an honest date with a girl, and break it off with your f*** buddy if you get in a serious relationship unless things are very open and all parties are aware that they're free to see whoever they want.

7. Most girls like to be reasured of themselves. Whether it's about their place in your life, whether or not you find them attractive, or if they make you happy. If a girl means something to you, tell her (that is, assuming you're already in some kind of established relationship.)

8. Good personal grooming is good. Not saying that you have to look ready to go to court, but clean hair, fresh breath, and decent nails are always nice.

9. If you like a girl, just tell her. If you can't get a reading on her either way, just take the plunge. If you get rejected it's not that big of a deal. No matter what you do in life, you're going to have to get over rejection one way or another.

10. If you can't act yourself around a woman that you're in a relationship with, it's time to leave the relationship. You should always be yourself and be able to be happy while doing it. This rule works both ways, and I don't know if some guys realize that they can be in an emotionally abusive relationship with women just because they don't think they'll be able to get anyone else. People can end up hating themselves from being in a bad relationship.

bananagirl · Answer

just in general :

1. we are just as confused about you guys as you are about us girls.

2. wed rather be called beautiful than hot or sexy

3. don't make up stories about your self to make you sound better to us, we are women, we WILL figure out the truth.

4. brush your teeth, a guy with bad breath is terrible to be around.

5.be straight forward with us... if you like us, tell us... if those feelings fade, be sure to tell us that too. be the MAN in the relationship.. we like it better when you make the moves, and we don't have to .

6. when we say we're cold, we want you to warm us up... either by hugging us or giving us your

coat... act on that.. and push through when we say no to your coat... we really do want it,

7. we don't do our hair, and makeup for no reason, if it looks good, comment on it, play with our hair if you wish, just don't mess it up beyond repair, girls love when guys make cute remarks. :)

8. Take care of your self, if your in good shape, you'll be self confident, and that makes us like you more... don't put yourself down.

9. we think of more things than just sex, so pick other things to talk about sometimes too .

10. movies and bowling are so cliche... use your imagination and make the night one to remember :) that doesn't mean sex. that means have a good time.

Phoma21 · Answer

1 Be more subtle with how you touch her. That way you won't be coming on too strong and make her uncomfortable.

2 Make it seem like you are there for her and not just her body, I can't tel you how bad that feels to think a guy only cares about you because of your body.

3 When a girl is looking at your lips during a pause kiss her.

4 Don't tell a girl how you love how a celebrity looks unless she asks, otherwise she's gonna feel like she needs to look like that celebrity to get your attention

5 Hug her just to be close. Show her that you care about just being with her

6 If you see her crying, just hug her. Hold her and ask quietly what's wrong. if she talks listen to her no matter what. If she's screaming don't freak, let her vent. If she won't talk, just hold her until she needs to be let go of.

7 Don't critisize her for how she looks unless it is asked for even then be gentle. Girls have enough cultural influences that make her worry about how she looks.

8 When you like a girl and you see her showing interest in you, go talk to her! if she feels like you don't like her back at the time she likes you, she'll move on since she may not feel like wasting effort on a guy whom she believes inst into her

9 Some girls are gonna need convincing about why you're with her. For a lot of girls there are really deep issues conscerning confidence that we were ingrained with while younger because we didn't look like the models on tv. Help make her believe that she is worth your time

10 WHOO FINALLY. Don't lie, it hurts more than just her, it hurts the guys that will come after you (if there will be any) It makes a girl distrustful in other relationships because of guys lieing. I'm not talking about little things like why the food didn't get put in the oven but big stuff like why you love her or why you're with her. You have to give the truth if you want her to feel like she needs to tell you the truth.

DishLady · Answer

Girls want guys who are:

-- trustworthy enough to handle a few cheerful/tearful stories, to know and understand us (even when we're surfing the crimson wave), to want to be with us whether we're in calm or turbulent waters.

-- trusting enough not to tailgate at parties, shadow us on FB, etc. (While I know some guys get crazy with jealousy, it's really not flattering for the girl AND it's not healthy for the guy!)

-- honest/direct, even if the news is rough. Seriously.

-- assertive/confident enough about who they are and what their goals are that they will be able to speak easily about a variety of topics, ask us out, etc.

-- sexy enough to make us think of you while were sitting around whiling away the hours till quitting time, to make us feel like superstars (so we're inspired to reciprocate).

-- faithful... oh, faithful. (There's a real shortage there -- yes, the same goes for girls.)

Girls want guys who have:

-- a sense of humor and positive attitude. (Of course, not every day is sunshine and rainbows and you should be comfortable sharing that with your girl, but if you're always Eeyore with the rain cloud hovering overhead, no one will want to be with you for too long.)

-- good manners. (1) We want to be treated like ladies. (2) We want to be around gentlemen.

-- a consistent attitude about things (mental stability).

-- a steady job with a five-year professional plan. (No, we don't want you to get distracted from your plan by helping us with our plan. There's a wonderful feeling that comes from earning your own way.)

-- the ability (or consistency) to follow through with things (whether it's a date, a promise to fix something, a visit to your mom, etc.).

-- the ability to look at us with eyes that make our hearts melt. ;-)

Well, I think the list is long enough for now. The rest is a little too rich for you young-uns to handle, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

kinda like what other people said but ill say what I think or do. not what every girl does. but most do.

1. I like a guy who is different. he is not to shy but not to crazy. just a little:)

2.we watch you and see what you are up to like the other girl said. but not stalkerish we just want to see what you are into and what you are doing.

3. I like a nice body. oh and we fantasize about it:)

4. we want you to stand up for us and your self. be confident

5. DON'T LIE TO ME!i want to be able to trust my guy friends or bf.

6.dont walk with your pants around your ankles and don't talk like you have never talked berfore for example. ay gur wazzzz uppp. dat, dis, da. most annoying thing ever!

7. you don't have to bring me gifts all the time like I read before but when its my bday or Xmas or something inside joke gifts are always awesome!

8. smile but don't over do it and be creepy

9. don't talk about sex all the time. I want to have sex but I don't want to hear you talk about it all the time

10 . don't say babe. I hate that. like "hey babe what's up?" umm I'm not dating you why are you calling me babe. that is for my boyfriend to call me.

texasgurl123 · Answer

If your trying to flirt with a girl or get into a relationship with one...

1) We want you to flirt back!

2) Smile at us, it makes us feel pretty.

3) We want you to text first. As cliché as this sounds... its the truth.

4) We are watching you. Not to sound stalkerish, but most girls who are interested in a guy will check his facebook and watch him when they're in the same area. So yes, we did see the flirty post on your "best friends" wall.

5) If your sitting next to us, touch us and acknowledge us. If your sitting close to us we want you to (most likely) touch us. As in brush up against us or sit with your leg touching ours.

6) Don't act any differently around your friends. As in #4, we are watching you. Its not cool to act sweet and flirty with us then be a jerk to your friends, because to girls, this reflects your true personality.

7) It's the little things that count. Like holding the door open or smiling at us for no reason that really catch our attention.

8) Call us beautiful not sexy or hot.

9) Compliment us. From the new hairstyle to the new body spray, everything. It lets us know your really paying attention.

10) Be sincere. This is the most important one of all. Girls hate to be led on or "played". It leaves heartbreak and low self-esteem. You either like us or you don't. No in between.

I hope this is what you were looking for :)

Anonymous · Answer

*We like it when you smile

*We like it when you act protective of us

*We like it when you work out and take care of your body

*We like it when a man shows ambition and responsibility, and is career oriented

*We want a man by our side, not a boy who runs and hides.

*We love it when a man acts sweet and polite and also chivalrous. Chivalry is so not dead. In fact, it's hot

*We love it when you respond to our texts. If a girl is texting you, it usually means she's interested in you. If you don't feel the same way, don't just ignore her. Text her back saying you only want to be friends but you're flattered that she took interest in you. Simple.

*We love it when you call us

*We love it when you make us laugh

*We love it when you're not afraid of anything

*We love it when you say these 6 words:

"Babe, I'll take care of this."

*We like it when you make the first moves in the relationship and aren't shy

*We love it when you LISTEN

*Communicate with us...if something's just not right, tell us. Tell us how you feel. We want to know.

*We love it when you don't make up stupid lies. We're not dumb...we know they're lies. Don't try to impress us. Be yourself.

* We love it when you do what you say you're gonna do

*We love it when you don't cheat on us or flirt with other girls in front of us

*When your girl/crush says "I'm cold"...that's your signal.

*Take her shopping. Not all the time, but every once in a while.

**When you take her on a date, be the leader. Pick the venue and construct the itinerary. Don't ever tell her to choose unless she insists. It shows that you're bold and willing to take charge. It's masculine. We think that's sexy. Surprises are even sexier.

fooledbythenight · Answer

Every girl is going to be a bit different in what they like or don't like so you're best off just taking educated guesses by their personality and any hinting they may give you.

buuut my 10 things are:

1. don't just ASSUME we're attracted to you because we're nice to you. it's both creepy and conceited.

2. if you like us, f'ing tell us! We're not mindreaders and girls often don't like to make 'the first move'

3. what blufrenzy said about getting along with pets parents and friends. I won't go near a guy if my big brothers don't approve of him :3

4. pay attention, even if we're talking about girl stuff and it's boring you to death. it just means a lot to know you listen.

5. DON'T BUY FLOWERS! This might just be my own little hangup, but seriously, however thoughtful it may be, it's just the worst gift ever to me. So expensive and smelly (not in the good way) and they last for like 2 days. I'd prefer something more thoughtful, the money doesn't really matter. For example, if you met a girl by talking about a book you both liked, buy her the book and write a cute little note on the inside.

6. be honest. if you're lying about things that don't need to be lied about (things like your taste in music or your views on politics) it just makes you look really sketchy, when little things like that won't be as big of a deal as you think they will most of the time. you'll avoid a lot of bumps in the road.

7. don't assume we're angry with you when we're not talking as much as usual. just ask us what's wrong. we might have just had a bad day and don't want to talk, if so, we'll tell you. But if we say 'nothing' then you've probably done something wrong :P

8. don't act different towards us in front of your friends. that HURTS!

9. hugs. we love hugs. maybe throw in a kiss on the forehead.

10. last but not least, don't wear cologne. Like, at all. It makes me not want to be near you, put your natural showery man smell to good use. :P

Anonymous · Answer

1. Girls want to be thought of as desirable, pretty, the best at what ever, its why they spend so much time on their appearance

2. They dig confidence, insecure girls want someone to protect them and make them feel more confident, and confident girls want someone who is not intimidated by them

3. Girls love the chase, but even better they want to feel chased AFTER you make yourself hard to attain, make it seem that your commitment to her is genuine, and rare, she must feel special

4. Don't start playing games, she's a lot more sneaky, will over think things, and everything will be messed up, if she plays games see how intense it is, end it if its weird

5. Laugh at her jokes, she's laughing at yours

6. Yeah, come on strong, but don't be easy, yeah some guys are too easy, huge turn off, be masculine tough and manly, not another girlfriend obcessive crush

7. Be yourself with a mysterious flair, pick a unique cologne

8. Girls are easily seduced by eye contact, never part her gaze first, that is if you WANT her to know you liker her, the elongated gaze with give her butterflies, shell look down and to the left or right if it worked

9. Please don't ignore her of she waves

10. GIRLS LIKE GUYS WHO ARE NICE BUT NOT FAKE

Kattrain · Answer

1. The good morning/goodnight text, even if we weren't talking that day, make us smile!

2. Nice =/= Like

3. Don't be overly mushy with us too fast

4. Don't call us hun/hunny/baby/babe if you're not dating us yet. Just... don't.

5. Girls are not all the same.

6. Honesty hurts less then us finding out about the lies.

7.If you don't like us, don't lead us on to 'not hurt out feelings'.

8. That jacket you're wearing? Uh, we want to wear/smell it.

9. Surprise us and just grab our hand one day, it's cuteeee.

10.Hug us tightly, it reminds us how strong and manly you are

glitterberryalisa · Answer

1) guys should make the first move, because most girls are shy about it, at least I am

2) We barely ever know what we want

3) Compliment us :)

4) The littlest things can make our day

5) Don't act like a totally different person around your friends

6) PLEASE don't be a "one-worded" texter, its so annoying, make conversation!

7) Don't play hard to get, at least with me, I just wanna get to the point

8)surprise us!

9) never diss our friends

10) yes we get moody, and so do you so suck it up, we're all human:)

ladylex930 · Answer

1. We like romance

2. romance doesn't equal spending a lot of money

3. We like it when you know when to be a man, when to be our boyfriend and when to be our friend

4. we like p*rn too

5. sometimes we want you to take charge in the bed room

6. it doesn't hurt if you cook and clean while we watch TV every once in a while

7. we do need space and our own lives

8. we still wonder why you love us so much

9. we like holding hands in publlic and PDA

10. we love you including all your flaws and everything you do to drive us crazy

Anonymous · Answer

1. We love being called beautiful.

2. Texting us good morning and goodnight, or even first makes our day.

3. We love wearing your hoodies.

4. We love it when you plan romantic dates (could be going out or staying in with a movie).

5. We love cuddling and having your arms around us.

6. Neck kisses turn us on, a lot.

7. We don't mind if you play video games as long as you're not doing it when we're naked in front of you.

8. We like time to ourselves too, time to time to hang out with the girls.

9. We aren't all clingy and desperate and overly emotional.

10. We love, love.

brunettebelle · Answer

1. Girls may be more open about their emotions but not all are emotional

2. When a girl is mad don't assume that she is on her period.

3. We love affection but don't give off too much, have a balance.

4. When she says no she means it.

5. Don't prevent her from hanging from her friends.

6. Don't allow her to let herself go but also don't cause to become anorexic either.

7. Text first but at times let her do it. Don't call too much

8. Not all are big on gifts so give little sweet thoughts - she will like that.

9. Don't ignore her when you are with her friends.

10. Don't dominate her and don't be submissive, have things equal - this attains to everything you do other than sex.

naima17 · Answer

1. we tend to overanalyze everything from text messages to chat messages, and actions

2. we are sensitive

3. we expect guys to put as much into arelationship and we put in it

4. we like you to laugh at our (corny) jokes

5. we like to laugh

6. we don't like when guys are to cocky(ego)

7. we want you to treat uslike we are the only ones you want to be with

8. we absolutle (a least me) hate it when guys only flirt and want to go out wth only to hit "a home run", then leave

9. we love surprises (keeps us entertained)

10. we love a sincere/somewhat sensitve guy (hes not afraid to cry in front of us)

Hot4Alyssa · Answer

1) We often don't know what we want

2) We are pretty sensitive

3) We appreciate the little things

4) We want to make you happy

5) We appreciate the words "thank you" & "I'm sorry"

6) We only get jealous because we love you

7) We want to spend time with you

8) We want true love

9) We love romantic movies, but we don't want you to change

10) We love you!

starinseat · Answer

1) Smile, be kind and warm

2) Tell a girl you like her, don't leave her guessing

3) Make her laugh and laugh at her jokes.

4) Don't poiint out our flaws All girls have them, but we don't need to hear it from you

5) Cuddle, most girls like cuddling.

6) Send cute text messages and give her something to wake up to

7) Respect her

8) Give her your jacket if its cold

9) Give her small gifts that are inside jokes

10) Write her a poem from your heart

TheCheshireCat · Answer

1) They are complex

2) Sometimes they just need to vent

3) They like to touch you, it doesn't mean they are clingy

4) They often lead with their heart

5) They just want to make you happy, but don't know how

6) They respect you more if you respect yourself

7) They want you to stick up for yourself

8) They want you to have their back

9) They want you to be the "man" in the relationship

10) They like compliments, but don't kiss their butt

josesmaf · Answer

Here's about 1000.

freewill10 · Answer

That you can screw up a good situation, if your not sensitive, because we are very sensitive.

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