In the first week, I asked him to think about it and he said he was going to analyze things and talk to people and see what he could do. He said he thought about it and came to the same conclusion.
So, for about 5 weeks, I did the beg and cry and "convince" thing. He just kept saying the same thing over and over. About a week and a half ago, we had a talk.we cried and he said he was sorry but just felt he was doing the right thing. I asked him if I should just leave him alone for a few weeks. He said I could do that, but he didn't know that it would change anything. He also said that my "begging" made matters worse because it made him feel like we were still arguing like we did before.
Well, we work together, so it's been hard to give him 'space', but this past week, he went to the beach with his family. He got back yesterday and I saw that he was online, so I sent him an IM and asked how his trip was.we talked for a little bit and then I said "I'm glad you had fun. I guess I will just see you on Tuesday".he proceeded to say "It was weird without you there. It was lonely. And yes, I missed you"".then he said that he had mentioned me a few times and that just because he didn't write/call, doesn't mean he didn't think about me or miss me. Then we said goodbye and that was it.
I guess what I am trying to figure out, is why he told me that. I know he's probably hurting too.but if he doesn't call because he doesn't want me to be upset and feel like he's giving me "false hope", then why tell me THOSE things?
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