Why do guys masturbate when they have someone they can have sex with?

I woke up right after my boyfriend got in the shower and I decided to make breakfast so I knock on the bathroom door a few times but I guess hi didn't hear me so I decided to open the door and there he was about to bust. he saw me and turned around. He completely ignored the fact that I saw him so I got very upset, specially when he lied about masturbating. Don't get me wrong, I love masturbating but I believe that if you have a naked chick in your bed why not do her instead of your own hand? any who, I guess I would like to know why do guys prefer masturbating versus having sex with a girl, specially in the mornings?
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  • This really annoys me too, and I still don't really get it on a personal level. I mean, I used to masturbate a lot when I was single, because I simply didn't have anybody! I always prefer to have sex with my man rather than masturbate. When I finally got with him, I thought "Great! I don't ever have to masturbate again!" LOL

    However, this is what my guy told me, and it does make sense, even though it still irritates me. LOL He says that--especially in the morning--he just gets the urge and needs to have an orgasm. He just needs the relief, and since he knows how to please himself just right, he can satisfy himself really quickly and be done with it. I can understand this to some degree, because I can give myself an orgasm a lot quicker and easier than he can. You know yourself best, right?

    With sex, it's not that it's not as good, it just takes more time, and sometimes (again, especially in the morning), he just needs to relieve himself. This is especially true when he gets up to get ready for work. It's just quicker and easier for him to take care of himself (otherwise he'd be late for work LOL).

    This may not be true for all guys, but I've just had to learn that--for my man at least--he essentially has two separate needs: the need for sex and intimacy with his woman, and the very simple need to relieve himself through orgasm. The latter is like a basic daily function for him, just like getting up out of bed to go pee. LOL

    I admit that it still bugs me, because I still feel like I'd take him over my hand any day. I just try to give him his space and not take it personally. There's still plenty of other times in the day when we can have sex.

  • its a different feeling. and sometimes you're not around. to please them.

    • Different? as in better than having sex with a female?

Most Helpful Guys

  • I remember once I had an afternoon long fun-session with my girlfriend of the time, we both had our fun, so I went and got cleaned up, decided I wanted a tug, had a tug in the bathroom.

    Why do women have vibrators when they are married?

    Remember us guys in about 90% of cases and times have to do most of the heavy work during sex, we are the ones expected to get YOU off, to meet expectations and perform, if your not 100% into it fine, your role is near passive, if we aren't 100% in the mood we risk going floppy and then no-one gets any satisfaction. Sometimes first thing in the morning your not in the mood to have a full days exercise with the missus when a soft wrist work-out can do the trick.

    Basically sometimes, guess what?...guys just don't want to have sex. Just like women!

    But in your case you were asleep, instead of being all sore about it, try and appreciate the fact that your man thinks enough of you to not pester you for sex 24/7 and wake you up first thing in the morning just to satisfy his animal urges.

    :)

  • I never understood this either. I mean I don't do it when I have someone to be with. The only plus of doing it would be so I could last longer, but I already do last long, so that would be stupid. Plus I like having sex twice a day if possible, so I definitely would save my "stuff" for my girl.

    Of course I don't have a girl now so, even still, I guess some guys can't get enough.

    • If I was the guy in the relationship and I had a pretty lady next to me I would want to F**** the SH*** out of her. =0)) So yeah... I don't understand...

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  • you know, it's not like he turned you down and went into the shower and jerked off.you were asleep when he woke up :P I still don't see when he rekected sex with you.

  • did he not want to wake you up? maybe he was thinking of you in the shower? maybe he got up, when to shower, got horny thinking of you naked in the other room and started jerking off?

    hard to say, but I think it shouldn't be a big deal.

    you are acting like you are jealous of his hand :P

    • Lol I'm not jealous I just hate the fact that much rather jerk off than have sex with me.

  • I masturbate every day! I can masturbate anywhere and everywhere when the urge hits me! I am extremely horny all the time!
    I would love to masturbate in front of you!
    I would like to masturbate with you!
    I would love to masturbate you!
    All guys masturbate!
    Why not? If it feels good do it!
    It feels good so I do it!
    It feels soooo good to cum!

  • the two feel different. I say that sex is way better feeling however even though I do enjoy sex with my girlfriend on a regular basis, masturbating also feels great. Maybe he just likes to enjoy both sensations

    • I guess. I still feel left out. Maybe I should get a nice dildo.

  • Well tell him that anytime that he is horny in the morning you will **** him or give him oral or a handjob, so I am sure he would be totally down for that. Morning Wood is great, but it is even greater waking up to some hot girl sucking on your morning wood.

  • It is just a maintenance thing sometimes. Not that we don't want to have sex with you but rather we need to... unload, because it is nature. It is kind of two different needs, one with intimacy with you and another that is more 'biological'. My advice is to join him and watch each other you may like it. ;)

  • I am a guy and I agree with you on your point. Well unfortunately, it is just the way it is. I don't think it is based on a preference of whether or not having someone to have sex with, more than it is the solo feeling of knowing how to hit just the right spot and charge up the perfect feeling of your own body. It is crazy but it boils down to the extreme arousal you can give yourself because you know how just how to hit your own sexual spot, and not having to deal with the stress of trying to please someone else. Hope you get this point, it is one of those things that is kinda somewhat difficult to put your finger on.