Last year, this guy and I became really good friends. A couple months back I started having more-than-friend feelings towards him. This year, we have gotten even closer and we always talk. The thing is, he is shy. He is comfortable around his guy friends, and well, me. He doesn't go out of his way...
Last year, this guy and I became really good friends. A couple months back I started having more-than-friend feelings towards him. This year, we have gotten even closer and we always talk. The thing is, he is shy. He is comfortable around his guy friends, and well, me. He doesn't go out of his way to talk to a random girl, so he is the over-flirty type. We have a number of things in common, so we like talking to each other. So, my best friend asked him who he liked. (I'm shy too, I can't imagine asking him myself.) He said no one, but then my friend decided she was going to give him a list of people and see if he would be interesting in pursuing a relationship with any of them. I know it's immature and childish, but if it gets the job done...Anyway, when it came to my name he gave a simple Maybe. Now, may I add that he did not say Yes to anyone. The rest were No's, and there was one other Maybe. He never talks to the other girl though. He also teases me quite a bit, likes to make me laugh, and will just smile at me for no reason. I, of course, return with the same gesture. I'm just so confused, because I feel like it's happening so fast, even though it's been a year. Do you GIRLS think this is more than a strong friendship? Would you GUYS do this to a girl you are interesting in? Sorry this is so long, I just am really interested in him and want to know what it looks like from an outside perspective. Thanks so much.
Well I will say this. Your relationship is not 100% platonic. If it were, he would not have said 'maybe' when asked if he would pursue a relationship with you. So, you should ask yourself if you value the friendship more than any potential relationship. And you should also be thinking if you guys did go out, and broke up, what would be the result? Would you be able to still be friends? As for his feelings, he must have some feelings for you more than friendship. I'm slightly in the same situation as you. Messege me if you would like =]
Concidering the maybe, I assume he's interested but afraid of rejection personally.
Smiling for no reason at all kind of gives it away aswell I'd say, it does sound like something we do ;)
I'd say talk to him and see if he likes you back but be aware that chances are likely he won't come out with it first because if he really is shy and uncomfortable around girls mostly, he won't have any idea that you like him and thus will be afraid of the rejection.
U should just straight up ask him who he likes and tell him who you like if he does like you he might do something with it. It all depends on how shy he is if he's really really shy you should take charge of the conversation and steer it the way you want it to if he is shy I wouldn't stop u. Hope that helps ;)