So I've been seeing/doing this guy for three years.
Last year around June my girlfriend (I'm bi, just fyi) and I did a strip tease/hook up show for his roommate (who turned thirty) and we invited him to watch but he was being rather aloof and said "I've seen it before" (he hadn't) before walking out to go do something.
We were on the phone a few days ago and somehow it came up, he paused a moment and went, "You know, I should have stayed and watch but it's just that I'd want you for myself instead of watching you and your girlfriend. I wanted to jump in the middle and take you myself."
I tried to break things off with him because I'm emotionally attached to him, and to me, it's not fair that I try to push him into a relationship when he has repeatedly said he doesn't want one. He had been avoiding my calls (I left a lot of stuff at his apartment and I wanted it back) because according to him, "I thought you met someone new and I didn't want old feelings to tempt you."
When I explained what I had meant by my message, I said, "I told you if I ever got attached that I would break it off because it's not fair to tell you that it's gotta be my way and not a compromise, the problem is, I really give a sh*t about you and I know you don't want to hurt me and I didn't feel like perpetuating a lie." His response was, "Well I give a sh*t too."
When the conversation turned to our sexual history he said, "You've always given me visuals and I could never return the favor for you, I've always regretted that. What can I do to make it up to you?"
I'm really starting to get the feeling that he's hiding how he feels towards me because he doesn't want to start something he can't finish. I can understand that he doesn't want a relationship but he's acting like my feelings for him are perfectly fine. He even invited me out to dinner afterward.
My friends think I was "too vague" with him and that he doesn't understand what I'm trying to say. But he knows exactly what I mean by attachment, he's not retarded.
Do you guys think he's got feelings for me but just doesn't want to deal with the fact that they exist?
Last year around June my girlfriend (I'm bi, just fyi) and I did a strip tease/hook up show for his roommate (who turned thirty) and we invited him to watch but he was being rather aloof and said "I've seen it before" (he hadn't) before walking out to go do something.
We were on the phone a few days ago and somehow it came up, he paused a moment and went, "You know, I should have stayed and watch but it's just that I'd want you for myself instead of watching you and your girlfriend. I wanted to jump in the middle and take you myself."
I tried to break things off with him because I'm emotionally attached to him, and to me, it's not fair that I try to push him into a relationship when he has repeatedly said he doesn't want one. He had been avoiding my calls (I left a lot of stuff at his apartment and I wanted it back) because according to him, "I thought you met someone new and I didn't want old feelings to tempt you."
When I explained what I had meant by my message, I said, "I told you if I ever got attached that I would break it off because it's not fair to tell you that it's gotta be my way and not a compromise, the problem is, I really give a sh*t about you and I know you don't want to hurt me and I didn't feel like perpetuating a lie." His response was, "Well I give a sh*t too."
When the conversation turned to our sexual history he said, "You've always given me visuals and I could never return the favor for you, I've always regretted that. What can I do to make it up to you?"
I'm really starting to get the feeling that he's hiding how he feels towards me because he doesn't want to start something he can't finish. I can understand that he doesn't want a relationship but he's acting like my feelings for him are perfectly fine. He even invited me out to dinner afterward.
My friends think I was "too vague" with him and that he doesn't understand what I'm trying to say. But he knows exactly what I mean by attachment, he's not retarded.
Do you guys think he's got feelings for me but just doesn't want to deal with the fact that they exist?
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