Would you be attracted to a goth girl?

[forsakensoul]

When you see a goth girl (Usually in fishnets, dark clothing, heels, corsets, etc.) (think Amy Lee of Evanescence) are men usually intrigued or turned off? Would a male approach her if she was dressed like that?

[prounlost]

Absolutely. Amy Lee is stunningly beautiful. I would put her at the lesser extent of gothic though. I was actually very dark in high school. I wore all black every day, never talked to anyone at school. I did a whole bunch of odd piercings myself just to see if they hurt and took them out the next day. A lot of people were scared of me, which was okay, because that was what I wanted. At the same time, now years later, I've found out that almost every girl I had a crush on, that I never talked to because I figured they wouldn't be interested, also had one on me. Things change, people evolve and now I'm really not into all the piercings or tattoos that some others have. I'm far from alone there, but there are also a lot of guys who are into that. However, again, Amy Lee is gorgeous. When it comes down to it though, it doesn't really matter what any of us think. Be yourself and not only will you be happier, but you'll attract people who are attracted to the real you and not who you think people will be attracted to.

[forsakensoul]

I like that answer. I used to dress goth in high school, but really, it was too much work.

[DrHouseButALawyer]

Every guy has his type. Personally, however, I think most guys have at least a flirting attraction with a goth girl. There have been too many hot femme fatale type characters in recent Hollywood for the male psyche not to be attracted. I'm a really dominant alpha male type.so when I see a girl like that, I want to know how I can conquer her. She's obviously very independent, confident, and is willing to go against social norms. But when I see that goth girl, I get an incredible urge to be the one non-goth guy who conquers her. Anyway.as you can see I have had a bit of a fantasy about this. So to answer your question more formally, yes. I think most guys would be attracted to a goth girl, assuming she was attractive to begin with.

[forsakensoul]

True. So you agree with the poster before you that said that goth girls are hot as long as they're the hot kind, not the scary kind?

[DrHouseButALawyer]

Yes...if she's a fat girl wearing fishnets who thinks she's hot as hell...it is not attractive.

[forsakensoul]

I don't know if I would have said that. Bigger girls can be attractive.

[-StillWater-]

I'm gothic and it has become very clear to me that guys look at me differently than other people.the norm. They find us intriguing, sexy, unorthodox, perhaps a little dominant (not by personality, but in the bedroom), we don't shine in the crowd, we are really the darkest part of it, the part that no one seems to notice, but secretly everyone wants a piece of. It's really that simple.or that complicated, depending on the way you look at it.

Some guys just perceive us as sexy and unbound, and those guys are usually the ones who are not familiar with the gothic subculture and only look at the immediate image we project into the world.

Other guys (the ones who know us truly, goth guys, the musical guys, the artistic types), they see us for what we really are. Somewhat more complicated than others, analytical, very observant, . deeper than the average person, but still so timid and proud.

I really even do not wish to go any further, if a person decides to get to know us he/she will.

:)

[Amor3x0]

Ok I'm a female obviously; however, I used to be like this and I had the most popular boy in school like me who asked me to go on a date with him. Imagine that. It just depends if the guy is mature enough to seek the personality instead of looks. But from my experience some guys who are complete opposite don't care.

[Amor3x0]

And they also find it sexy or intriguing :)

[saramonkey13]

my bro hates goth girls but that's b because he's a football playa so they only like cheerleaders

[matt4902]

well I would but I try not to judge cause my friends and fellow employees are Goths and while it neither intrigues me or turns me off on issue is the underwear it looks provocative and cute but its really rather trashy and unprofessional. try to be a little professional in public. that extends beyond goth too. and while not provocative it goes double for GUYS! oh1 srry am I trailing off into another stupid complaint? srry anyway Goth is okay don't take it to far though, maintain some proffesional style to your dress and also no big piercings and tatoos the one by your butt may look cute but in 30 years you'll regret it and to many piercings just make you look like a walking scrap yard. so yah avoid the extremes

[forsakensoul]

Agreed. I never really considered piercings to be considered of the goth scene, though. Although I understand what you mean about the underwear. Then you bend over and your underwear is showing, it's very unprofessional.

[matt4902]

It is highly provacative and I tell you now as a fact of nature that that is your best tool and should be used to your advantage. just whatch how you use it. its not wrong to dress like that though unless you don't want to send a certain message to the guy at the check out counter; but not taboo and indecent

[SkinnerOne]

In a nutshell Yes. Gothic fashions turn me off flat. That's probably because I am older. However I see that life style as a very disrespective life style. Disrespecting to the person practicing it and disrespecting to those around them because it is quite clear that the physical appearance porojected is intended to either drive away mainstream people or it is meant to be shocking.

EIther reason leaves me cold as I was raised to consider the feelings of others first before I worried about my own feelings. See, we didn't have political correctness in those days. We had common consideration.

[jbone79]

I like the goth girls. I don't really care about how a woman dresses. It's just an extension of her personality. I keep things pretty simple. Treat me as you want to be treated. If that works for the goth girl then she will get along with me just fine. I think for me preference I would lean towards a woman with a darker personality. I am covered in tattoos and I'm a more eccentric person, so for me a goth girl is a better fit. She probably likes the same music I do as well, if not then prbably pretty close.

[obscene]

well they have goth guys, don't they?

doesn't mater to me though

so for me, I'd say neutral towards them

but I'd assume they would also want a gothic boyfriend, and I am not

[forsakensoul]

Some don't. Some just usually want a boyfriend in general.

[obscene]

Cool then

but yeah, I'd have no problem going out with a goth girl, as long as we click and she's good to me and I'm good to her, why not?

[forsakensoul]

Sure. A lot of people say that goth chicks have too much emotional baggage. Do you think so?

[obscene]

Not necessarily too much more than any other kind of girl

emotional baggage has little or nothing to do with being goth

[Atomizer]

Goth girls can be really sexy to me. I'm a sucker for cute girls with dark hair and fair skin.

However, I think too much goth gear can look silly. But girls who are mild-to-medium goth catch my eye.

[forsakensoul]

So would you prefer a girl with or without a tan?

[Atomizer]

Without a tan, generally. There's lots of cute girls of all shapes and colors, but _generally_ speaking, I prefer fair skinned girls.

[forsakensoul]

So what do you think about all these women who are spending hundreds of dollars tanning?

[Atomizer]

First, they're increasing their risk of skin cancer. Second, they're increasing their risk of looking like a shriveled cowboy boot when they're 40. Not that I don't check out tanned girls, but overall I prefer fair skin.

[forsakensoul]

I heard some girl on campus say, the other day, that she'd rather have skin cancer than be pale.

[Atomizer]

Ask her opinion in 15 years after she needs surgery to remove cancerous moles!

[forsakensoul]

She's astupid girl. She'll probably think the same thing ago.

[l-hedoniste]

Would I be intrigued? Sure. Would I approach? Not without some encouragement; I have the conservative, middle-management look about me.

[forsakensoul]

Most of the time, unless she's just being a fake teenager, she'll talk to you even if you don't look like a goth.

[SAHATNOW]

I would definitely approach her because for some reason (not sure why) goth girls spark an instant attraction deep inside of me.

[Amor3x0]

Awww. That's sweet. See there are guys who find it interesting =] hehe

[forsakensoul]

I know some guys are like that, but quite a few thing that they're wayyyy too much emotional baggage.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what level. I personally find Amy Lee very attractive. However, I don't find the goth females that give off this kind of scary vibe attractive. I don't know how to explain it exactly. There's just this look to some goths that's kind of creepy. As long as I'm not getting that feeling then the rest is attractive. But you have to also look into other things besides simply how she looks. But the dark clothing, fishnets, corsets, etc can be very attractive.

[forsakensoul]

That's true. Amy Lee is very attractive, but I always thought the point of being goth was to be attractive, not scary, so I guess that's just me.

[Opinion Owner]

Well as I said not all goths give off that scary vibe, just some. An example was a guy I knew several years ago. His dorm room was always dark, he had this kind of odd poster on his wall, and you got that kind of scary vibe from him. Now once I got to know him he wasn't scary at all. Now I knew a girl who dressed goth at times but I never go the scary vibe from her.

[forsakensoul]

Okay. I guess that does make sense. BUt wouldn't the girl that not act like a "goth" be considerd a poser?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, but than Amy Lee doesn't give off that creepy vibe. Is she not goth? I think it comes down to being goth and being a creepy goth. Beyond that I don't know what else to day.

[dannyboy187]

There is nothing wrong with the style, but this type of girl just doesn't fit my taste.

[forsakensoul]

Why not?

[Anonymous]

I would be attracted to her. A fashionable girl is a turn on. I don't label people, like some comments I've seen, for instance the SkinnerOne,(Who completely has the wrong idea about these things, common misconception though) labels are for immature high school kids.

[meow-D]

theyre probably intimidated by the strong look.

[djstizl]

Hell Yeah! I love goth girls!

[edgyfox]

I'm intrigued but happily single.