I agree that raising the prospect of being together "in the future" is just an attempt to let you down easy, albeit more for her benefit rather than yours. That way she doesn't have to feel like she is being a bitch, even though in the end it is hurting you more by giving you a small glimmer of what is most likely false hope. My ex told me the same thing when she broke up with me a few months ago, now she's banging an "artist" (I use that term very loosely). Thankfully, I have been dating and not sitting/waiting around for her, but it still hurts.
That being said, there is always a small chance that she honestly feels that way. Maybe she just has too much going on right now to be in a serious relationship. My advice would be, maintain a friendship with her (although preferably not a close one). Chat every now and then, but don't let that get in the way of you moving on. Date other people, do not make her a priority in your life. If something is meant to happen someday, it will. But don't let that glimmer of hope take over your life.
I had a girl in college that said this to me and she really fucked with my head and emotions. This was my first crush too so I wasn't experienced that much in the dating field, but holy crap I learned a lot from this. Don't give her the time of making her priority or wait for her because because is not worth it. The girl that i confessed to stringed me along for months. I soon realized that this shit was not healthy for me. I slapped myself and cut this girl out of my life. She doesn't care about your feelings only hers, so dismiss this bullshit excuse and go have fun with your life, also meeting other girls.
I definitely said that to my ex when he tried to get me back. I wish I had said "No, I'm not interested in getting back together with you," because it would have been closer to the truth, and it would have (I think) curtailed the aggressive, obsessive behavior he started exhibiting towards me when I didn't take him back.
What I meant by saying the very first time I said it, almost immediately after we broke up, was that although I couldn't see myself being with my ex anymore, if by some twist of fate we crossed paths again later in life and fell in love again, I wouldn't fight it. The problem with that, of course, being that I envisioned the future "him" being effectively a different person, due to so much change going on in both our lives between now and then.
In my case, I wouldn't tell a guy "maybe later" if he had no chance. So, I wouldn't take it as a complete and total "gentle let down" per se. I've said similar things to a guy that I liked, but had my doubts about because of the difference in age or lifestyles. Or cared for him, but felt he had some growing to do. Once I had just gotten out of a relationship, and wasn't emotionally ready to throw myself into another. For me, it might have meant that I didn't think a guy was ready yet. Or, depending on her age, it could be that she has some exploring she'd like to do, as another poster stated.
From a generally honest person, I would take it as "I like you, but I'm not completely sold."
I think it depends on your age. If you are younger, or if she hasn't dated much, she may not be quite ready for a committed relationship, or she she may want to be your friend and get to know you more as a friend. If you can do it ,stay in touch as her friend. If you are older, or she has dated a lot, she is either letting you down easy, or your relationship is too serious for her at the moment because of school, career, etc.
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She's trying to let you down easy. Instead, she's dragging you along.
I'll say it, because she clearly doesn't have the guts to say it.
YOU'RE OVER. SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU. GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON.
It means "in the future" she'll meet a guy she's actually into and at that point she'll suddenly be ready to be in a relationship with someone and will happily ride his hog.
You need to find someone else. It's never going to happen with this girl.
haha same thing happened with me...i waited and now she is seeing someone else. don't sit on the fence like I did..cut her out and start enjoying single life. date and let her know you are ...she may come crawling back. if not her loss brother.
it means she'll think about it.
"Certainly NOT NOW!"
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