Ah players gotta to love them. A lot people on this site say just move on. This allows the player to continue his behavior. If a few of us got even with the these guys, they might think twice about screwing someone over. Here a few rules that I go by with dealing with this trash. I'll post more as I remember them.
1) They will try to cross boundaries and move too fast by saying they need to kiss you to see if you have chemistry. That is BS! Kissing is a learned behavior and has nothing to do with chemistry.
2) They need constant ego rubs. - Don't give them any kind of compliment. They sure won't give you one
3) Ask them hundreds of questions when you meet them. They will slip up and tell you something you can use against them.
4) When dealing with them, LIE, LIE, LIE. Have fun and just make up any old thing. They will sit there and be shocked but still try to take you to bed. If you want to get rid of one, just them you lied about something. They can't stand to be lied too and will leave. How dare you do that to them. Only they can play that game.
5) Go to Cheaterville and type his name in the search engine quite a few times. He will flip out when he sees how many times his name has been searched on. If you post something, it can be traced back to you. These sites won't waste their time looking at the search engines.
6) Play the same games they do and let them know that you are. Always have two online accounts on the same site so you can catch a player. He will send out the same emails that he used to get you.
Now revenge: Most players have a wife or girlfriend waiting for them at home. Keep copies of your IM's, texts, his online profiles and send her a copy. They will probabaly stay together but, trust me, he won't be playing for a few weeks anyway.
2) When he asks you about something he told you, act clueless and just say oops I forgot about that. I never listen to half of what you say.
3) When he screws you over, go to the places that he hangs out when he is not there and start a reporie with the staff and regular patons. Then after you all have become friends, pop in when he is there about 4 to 6 months later he dumped you. Talk about uncomfortable. After they use you, you are the last person he wants to see. He will not be able to get out of there fast enough. He will have to find another hangout.
4)If he has an online profile on a sex site , print it out, make copies and put on the doors at his place of employment.
On the car windows of his co-workers would be good too.
5) If he has kids and you do to, put them in the same activities. That will be another uncomfortable situation. Act cool when your there. Shoot, even say hi, just to add salt to the wound. If his wife is there, he will really be freaking out.
6) Find out who is he is now sleeping with. If she is attached, call her husband and give him the player's name, address and place of employment.
Have fun!
the best revenge? indifference.
i dealt with a player for years and I finally put my foot down and walked away. it was hard I wanted him so bad wanted him to persue me but it wasn't going anywhere, he was just feeding his ego off of the whole game the entire time, he didn't take any seriousness in the situation, he didn't respect me or value me, he didn't take me out on a real date, he didn't have meaningful conversations with me, didn't put effort to know me as a person, he just wanted the satisfaction knowing that this girl likes me and I'm hot sh*t.
it took my time to figure it out and if there's no progress being made, then that's when you know you need to get away from the person, distance yourself and just be indifferent. don't be rude or bitchy but don't be warm and flirty either, just treat him around like an old classmate no one special...be professional and act like nothing happened. its hard I cried and missed him, but you get used to it and you reach a point where you're like I can't trust this man ever again, I don't wanna be entangled in the torture of his games anymore, I don't wanna see him...and that's when you move on. in the end its not love, its not even him liking u, its not even him respecting you or treating you like a proper lady, he's selfish and rude and karma will get him.
walk away and socialize with new friends, have fun enjoy life, there are so many guys out in the world, and no one marries the first person they liked or dated...we all have to meet a variety of people to learn from mistakes and learning something, were taught a lesson in the process so that were prepared for the right person that comes along.
hope this helps.
I would not suggest dating him. But, if it makes you happy...here goes..in my opinion, act as if you do not care. A player wants to know he's good..and blah blah..if you act like you do not even think about him or give him the time of day..he will come back chasing you. Be nice, be cool, and be friendly..WHEN he talks to you. But, do not give him the attention. Talk to him only when he talks to you. Coming from experience, when I liked this "player"..and he found out I liked him..after he was chasing me..he randomly stopped when I let him know I wanted to date...so..I started acting like I didn't like him anymore...like I was over him. He came back about a week or two later..and chasing me all over again. Which confused me of course. One week he wants me another week he didn't..and now he wants me again? lol..I saw him drive a nice car once (after he stopped chasing me, and I acted like I was over him)..and I mentioned the car..and he was like "maybe I will take you in it for a ride" ha ha ..the next week he got my number from someone else..and started texting me. I didn't even know who it was. Just saying...my example :-)...now if you ever want to "tame" a player..let me know..haha I can help with that too...so I've been told ;-)
Don't go with him for one thing. He knows you are there and knows you'll be an easy conquest, so you should consider yourself just a piece of meat if he choses to like you, because that's probably all you'll be to him really. Either an easy way to have sex or a quick relationship to not lose face in others, I suppose.
My opinions anyway. Might not neccessarily be true. He could have problems and like seeing people squirm, and so on.
Act around him normally, I guess. Act like you would to someone who isn't a friend of yours but someone you don't hate. Speak if they speak but don't direct anything at them, don't invite him over or speak to him on a friend type of level...while keeping up the appearance that you aren't hurt or upset with him in any way. Once he realizes he's upset you, he's won.
You'll probably want to make out that you were only interested in him out of boredom without looking like a slut or desperate cow, and so on...and no, I'm not saying that that is what you are.
Probably the best ways to do that is to bat away casually any jibes he might have for you, or flirts. If he does discuss it with you privately, make sure you let him know that you didn't have feelings for him, you were just curious. Tell him you wasn't thinking properly, perhaps you were drunk or just with friends, or pressured, something along those lines anyway. It will hurt him back.
I can't really think of any potential ways to take revenge without lowering yourself, really. The most easily obvious one would be to make sure all his friends like you, and openly don't like him. An even worse suggestion would make sure you were avaiable to everyone around, except him...though that is admittedly quite a bad way to establish you hate him and you'll get a nasty reputation.
But yeah, can't really help you with the revenge side of things. Hope my answer made sense, too. Good luck making him feel inferior and like dirt, though. Hope it goes well for you. :D
step in to my office the love docter well gril you nead to move on becouse he is a player, it duse not matter how must you fill for him.get him back is one bad idea he may like you today but the next gril that come,s along he will hit on and the next one and so on and so.on if you go to school this guy and you have some of the same friends.your gril,s friends should have told he was player from jump street.and for get back at him don,t the best thing is to show him that you are over this but if you what to get back him go out with his best friend and have a good time with his friend and let him think you my go back to his friend,s place and spend the night.Im not telling you to do this how ever if you nead to you nead to get back at him this is one way as how you act around him don't just act like he,s not there and just have a good time out with you,r friends he will see that he's the one that mess this up and my be you will save the next gril from falling for this player.but in the end it you,r call.my office is all was open for you,r Question what ever they may be the love docter
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guys are assholes. they really don't care sometimes.
you got to be strong and be successful
when you can over come them in every way you can, I feel it will make it feel better.
I just act like they don't exist.
the other time ran into the guy I went out with, who is a player.
I'm a lot hotter now and had a guy on my arms who is good looking. I'm much more happier I'm not with him anymore.
the best way is to go on and pretend they don't exist, become more of success than he is. I always act like what he says or what he does does not matter to me and it really does not matter.
I moved on.
hope this helps.
Dont worry about revenge hun! He's given you The tools you need for finding real love once The hurt Is gone that sick feeling weakings your trust builds back up. You will forever have that stiff upper lip to all players. I'm not encouraging more players, because everyone falls in love and in words from my mother He will get his. What goes around will always come back around. He will get his girlie TRUST ME
I've had loads of experience with players, best thing to do is just give them the cold sholder back and ignore them. He doesn't care about you, he's probably just sleeping around with tones and tones of other girls hoping you would give him a chance to get in your panties, he's just messing with your head so forget him and move on because he's just an asshole who doesn't respect any girl out there at all. If he says anything just tell him to get lost and that you don't need him.
walk up and kiss him passionately. then nee him in the crotch! step over his dead carcass and wink as you walk past all his jock friends making your way smoothly down the hall out the door and into your new movie star boyfriends convertible . wear a red dress and heels. you'll thank me after its over ;)
You'll look stoopid...my suggestion is to let the situation go and by looking at your age revange isn't consider appropiate coming from some one like you so save your self the emberassment...
makes you look like if you want attention from him you noe like needy if you want him to hate you go for it and really give you the cold shoulder go for it
so his a player because he don't like you no more?
dont blame the guy for your errors for falling for him...
if you knew he was player why did you fall for him ?
questions you should ask you self...
hope this helps...
Same problem for me...
Try to move on sweetie, some of those guys are jerks.. They just want bodies :/ but some actually care and love you, look for one of those Hun, will be better for you!
I know getting over him will be a challange, face it :) be strong and don't let him break you.. Try to engage in family activities and hang out with friends a lot, most importantly talk to other guys who you can trust and are good friends with, get personal, it's going to help a LOT! Don't keep your self all lonely, that will just make you think about him which we do not want!
I know this is going to be one of th hardest things, but this is the right thing to do!
Good luck, keep me updated :)
the best way to "get back" at him is to ignore him. guys like that thrive on attention and actually NEED it - take it away from them - they're nothing.
i wouldn't bother your arse trying for revenge it's not worth it, just focus on someone else, he'ss fade in no time at all. he sounds like a cock.
go to a public computer. Make craigslist add for gay personals with his phone number. post sh*t for sale with HIS number...hell get all sorts of crazy calls and it will bug the sh*t out of him! hahaha
who cares just get over it. I don't know why you would want a player anyway. I also don't know what's up with all these dumb drawn out answers. get a new man, q answered
Ignore him. He is what he is. e was what he was before you met, he will continue to be what he is, after you are out of each others lives. You can't get revenge on someone for being alive.
So make him chase you... stop calling stop showing intrest don't make him the center of your attention..
Don't get revenge. That's childish and won't et you anything but a temporary feeling of satisfaction and usually some grief afterwards.
the sweetest revenge? Find yourself a new guy and be happy with HIM.
give him the cold shoulder, and don't waste your time with him anymore, it's not worth it.
Dont get revenge that's immature and not worth it, your giving him power of you by getting revenge
"live well - it is the best revenge"
I have one more. Call his boss and tell him that an employee is having sex at his offices when he is out of town. This guy will get busted for sure. What man doesn't want to have sex on his desk?
Watch John Tucker Must Die and live it out.
Indifference is the best revenge.
:( revenge is bad
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