First off, you need to apologize fully for everything you did, and tell him why it was wrong, and have him understand that you know that and you're not going to do it again, ever. Really sincerely mean it. You may have to do this several times.
Keep in contact with all of your family. Maybe talk to your mom or somebody, so that she has your side of the story, and can somewhat relay your good will to him.
At first you need to give him some space. He probably doesn't feel very safe right now and he's probably going to have major trust issues well into his life.
What you can do is continually be nice to him. Also, get your own woman. When you are crazy in love with some other girl, you will be less of a threat to him.
He probably won't want to see you very much, but you're family and so you have to come to an agreement about this, something that will work, because you have to see him for the holidays and everything. So try to see him every chance you can, and try not to "manipulate" him into liking you.
He probably doesn't want you to be able to feel the amount of pain he's going through, but an amount of pain is necessary for everyone in the family until this is healed properly.
Don't expect things to go back to normal. Also, don't forget who you guys were before all this happened, and try not to let it never happen again.
Keep in mind that he may go through serious bouts of depression over this, and it is your duty and responsibility to be there for him as much as you possibly can.
Try to get you both or all three some family counseling. That is probably the best thing you can do.
I've been in a similar situation. I hope this was helpful. *hugs* It's not easy being the man behind blue eyes.
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Dude. that's f***ed up. I would never forgive you, honestly. you pretty much ruined this man's life. he took you in after your were a douche to your girlfriend and you bang his wife? that's pretty awful. I mean, you obviously didn't learn your lesson after your girlfriend kicked you out. that's pretty unforgivable in my book.
just stay away from him. you can write and apologize, but give your brother some space. you're lucky he just gave you a black eye. I would've killed you, man. that's messed up. that's your family. it's one thing to sleep around on your girlfriend, but to betray your family like that is a whole other thing.
you don't really sound sorry either. 'i do feel pretty bad about what I did'. umm. that's an understatement. you should feel terrible and depressed and digusted with yourself. I wouldn't even know where to begin if I were your brother. nothing will ever be the same and I think you need to accept that you're pretty much disowned. I feel bad for your sister because I wouldn't have taken you in because that's the biggest douchebaggin' move in all of HISTORY. I hope you get your shit together.
Sounds like another bullshit story.like that guy who wouldn't take his brother in after his parents died.the wording is kinda the same too.
If its not.dude I hope you go to hell. I see a whole hell of a lot of cheating being an Army wife, and I see some crazy shit. But I have NEVER seen shit like that. There is no possible way to make it up to your brother and I honestly wouldn't blame him for never talking to you again. That's some messed up shit you did. You don't deserve to have him forgive you. I couldn't do it if I were in his position. Leave your brother alone and let him do his own thing. If he comes to forgive you, then so be it. But if your try, you'll probably just piss him off even more. I'd just stay away and hope he doesn't kill your or somethin.
Shit. How could you screw your brothers wife! Come on man!
Your brother would have to be a better man than me to ever forgive you. That was a sacred bond of trust you broke, and you will never get that back. Maybe, MAYBE he will forgive you one day but I doubt he will ever view you truly as his brother again.
I don't know what to tell you man, if you are truly sorry than understand what you did was incredibly f--cked up, and that you deserved to get your ass kicked. The only way I can see him forgiving you is if he meets somone else who he likes more than his ex-wife and gets married and eventually sees what you did as a rough but necessary step to meet his new wife.
Regardless, WHAT THE HELL MAN! ITS YOUR BROTHER WIFE!
goodluck
I think the only thing you could have done worse to him is kill his kids. Personally, I would think less of your brother if he ever let you back in his life. He took you in, trusted you, and then you did this... patching things up with you would be an invitation to every user and abuser in the world that he was meat for their kitchen.
Tell me, what are you going to do to your sister as an encore? I mean, cheating on your girlfriend, then betraying your brother with his wife... it is gonna take some work to top those two with your sister. But I am sure you can manage it.
Normally I don't like to flame, but people like you are why people can't trust anyone. Even family.
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Wow, what a loser brother you are.
I hope it was worth losing his trust for the rest of your lives. =[ Sorry, but he will never trust you with any of his future women. You better hope he speaks to you again.
Just buy him flowers.
It's cute, and means you're truly sorry. He won't speak to you for awhile, probably. But the little things will lessen the load for when you get to talk to him.
But only do it if you ARE sorry. Tell him how important family is to you.
Hope you learned your lesson...I would have destroyed you, beyond repair.Let me get this straight. Your girlfriend threw you out of the house for cheating on her, go to your brother for help, he says 'stay with me' and you then screw his wife? Dude, you gotta think more with your big head than your little head. Just try and get less horny and f*cking up peoples lives.
P.S. I'd like to say that arm hair guy is starting to freak me out a bit. It's like he gets turned on by them and because there aren't any porn sites out there that cater for his. 'preference' he comes in here to get his jollies off.Sit down and talk to him about it. He's right to be mad at you, and I think that he kicked you out because he was mad. Just explain to him that you feel really bad about it and apologise. Even if he doesn't talk to you, at least you will have apologised.
I would forgive you if you did that to me, but it would take me ages to do so - we're looking at a couple of months here. After all, you slept with the woman that your brother loved and wanted to spend his life with. And you got kicked out after cheating on your girlfriend. I think you need to take a long hard look at yourself and then make a few changes - stop cheating for a start!
First and foremost, apologise to your brother.Wow, you have some issues if that's how you deal with the people you 'care about' and then you need this problem resolved by the internets. Maybe understand that people don't appreciate it when you're trying to steal things from them. Next time evaluate how much things matter to you on a scale to decide what action to take (ie. do you like your brother more, or do you like effing his wife, getting beaten up and thrown on the streets more)
Honestly, good luck dude. I don't want to pay for you with my taxes when you go on assisted services.I don't think this actually happened. If it did, there's no way to make it up. You f***ed his wife. That would be irreparable,
You F***ed up hard! daammnnn.I don't know what to tell you lol.Give him some time and he will eventually forgive you but he won't forget what happened.You screwed the woman that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.that is selfish and inconsiderate and I would of beat your ass too.I guess you can kiss your ex goodbye also.you need to stop sticking your D**k in anything before you catch one of those life threatning diseases out here.you need help.
erm.would you be washing ur dirty linen in public?cuz seriously this is total BULLSHIT.ur girlfriend kick you out of ur hse and you went to ur bro's hse to SLEEP with his wife.wat a TALL TALE.u know wat.its people like you that WE DON'T NEED.and if you really feel bad abt this.jus GET OUT of his life.u've screwed it up enough.
Everyone makes mistakes and yours just happens to be with your brother's wife. You need to try to contact this brother. Do not do it alone. You may also want to look into going to counseling with your brother. Sometimes having a mediator can help both of you get everything out in a safe environment. If he won't do it, at least you tried to do the right thing.
You should also get the bottom of the reason you cheat and sleep with otherwise unavailable womenOMG, I hate Jerry Springer lol ;*) and no, I don't think he can forgive you .should go pray for yourself to and do something to better yourself as a person. That's awful.
well can you blame him for beating the sh!t out of you?! I probably would too.you sound like you can't keep it in your pants if your girl kicked you out for cheating.i'd say get therapy.sounds like a real problem.
you can tell your brother that next time he finds himself a wife you would sleep with her also.
no actually mannn. you need to start realizing that you just can't get with every girl.
first of all. work on yourself.Sorry to say this guy but you 're a bastard. The best thing you can do is give him a genuine apology, keep your distance and consider seeing a therapist because you obviously have a history of using sex to hurt people. Don't you think that's odd?
that's my totally honest non-bias opinion.I think your f***in stupid but, I take it back if she came on to you if she did, tell your brother your sorry and tell him that she came on to you but I don't guarantee that he will forgive you.Try to get her to tell him. If you came on to her your stupid id go over there and hit you.just kidding
Apologize, and mean it.
show him that you're a person who deserves his trust, you'll know what to do, actions speak louder than words.
Stay away from his wife from now on.you shud tlk to ur bro like without fighting admit its ur fault and say SORRY it was jus something that happened that you weren't thinking rht but I mean its gona take time for him to get ova that and I think yu noe that but you guys are blood and nothing can go between it no mata what you and her did he's gona 4give you ull juss have to wait for the rht time.
You are a " bastard", it's unforgivable. sorry
Just stay away from your brotherI'm sorry dude but. That was his WIFE! The woman he plan to spend the REST OF HIS LIFE WITH. and you SLEPT with HER!? Terrible. Just pray man. That's all I can say.
This guy is also not fluent in english. There seems to be a consistency with a few really rotten stories and broken english.
ur gonna havta let this blow over. wooooooooow. just wow. dude.
time and if that doesn't work don't give up. Think if that happened to you!
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