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Does anyone regret not having sex with a particular someone (ex boyfriend or gf)?

I have heard of people regretting having sex with someone. but has anyone out there truly REGRETED NOT DOING SOMETHING WITH SOMEONE THEY REALLY CARED ABOUT ? for example when me and my ex broke up we had like a one night stand (almost) the week after and WE didn't have sex. but being with him and kissing him for hours on end felt so good. currently we are not together. and sometimes I blame myself for not having sex because if I did then I would have had something of him inside of me. but now I feel empty and I feeel like we could have been so much more but since I DIDN'T have sex . he just became less interested. and I know I really liked him before. but now. I don't feel like we can ever get back together. does anybody feel like they lost something they never had? and I know I really loved him but I just didn't want to be like every other girl. I didn't want to be easy. and this is what I get. (p.s I'm 17 and still a virgin)
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes, I did at first. I had a crush on someone not long ago but it was going too fast for me. The third time we hang out he initiated sex, I turned him down. It seemed too soon and I was also a virgin. The next day I somewhat regretted not being with him as I really wanted him - I thought we had great chemistry, I've never been attracted to anyone so much. I saw him less often and I blamed myself for not taking a chance (I was 26 and felt awkward for not having met that special someone to share my virginity with). Well, I saw him a few more times and one night we did it. I did not feel comfortable as we were not in a relationship but I told myself I should be more spontaneous for once in my life. I felt really happy being with him that night.We were together only for a week.

    In retrospect, I think that I was afraid that by turning him down again, he would lose interest in me. He lost anyway. So, darling, don't regret anything! The right person will be willing to wait with you till you're ready.

  • Its obviously a good thing you didn't have sex with him.I mean the relationship ended. You don't want to have sex with someone and feel closer to them. Then have the relationship end then you may regret not waiting to have sex.

    Having sex with someone only to save the relationship isn't right. it means there no relationship there at all. The best relationships are the ones that are not based on sex. Its based on so much more.

    If sex if the main reason your together then its not a relationshp at all.

    You may you really love him but I think its great that you didnt.no you can save your self for a guy that truly loves you and wants to be with you.

    It sounds like all this guy wanted was sex.

  • Never have sex with an ex unless they have told you breaking up was a mistake, they want to get back together and you have already worked through whatever your problems were. They will have more respect for you if you don't sleep with them and you will have more respect for yourself.

    • The thing was we had a coffee/tea get together one day and we talked about our problems and he asked me why we even broke up in the first place and he was like we were stupid for doing it, but then every time we try to get back together something comes up and either we don't get back together because someone is stopping us or we get scared and not talk to each other. as of now... we are not on good terms... but I have a feeling that will change. any words of wisdom ?lol

    • Well it sounds like it's possible to still get back together, but you still have some talking to do. You guys need to figure out why things keep getting in the way of getting back together and find a way not let anything between you. If your having problems you can't avoid them. If you still can't work it out, ask for some time apart to move on. Maybe by not seeing you, he will miss you and realize what he wants.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I've had this experience numerous times.

    Once during high school there was a chance I had with a girl, I wasn't really over my ex so I didn't go ahead with it but I do regret it now.

    And at Uni later on, I had a chance with this girl but I didn't feel comfortable at the time. Now she's engaged I regret it.

    But I guess its all for a reason. If it didn't feel right at the time its always easy to regret it later but who knows how we would feel if we had gone ahead with it at the time. I only regret it for the fact that I could've done it, we would never have been in a relationship so I guess it worked out for the best

    Oh and the one time I had a chance and didn't go with it I was so happy. This was with a different girl she just sounded experimental and it just didn't feel right for neither of us. I didn't go ahead with it and she thanked me later!

  • well.join the club.i'm 17 and virgin too but that doesn't mean I have to desperately lose my virginity haha.if that guy is jus sticking around for sex.dont you feel used?seriously?like ur only good for sex and nothing else.

    for me the only thing I regret was not slapping my ex when she cheated on me and when I tried to forgive her and start over she blamed everything she did on me and I sucked it up like an idiot because I really really loved her.i hate her for manipulating me like that.weird right?regretting NOT slapping her?hahaha.not exactly romantic-novel material but yeah.reality.

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  • I wish I'd had proper sex with one of my ex boyfriends, cos we really loved each other. I would still date him, but I wish that we hadn't split because every time I see him I really miss him and I really wish I could be with him again, but he's with another girl and they're happy. Anyway, I'm single so I guess I've just gotta get over him.

  • no, I regret having sex with people I didn't care about.

  • I regret not having been with a great girl I met 4 months ago. I was amazed how well we clicked after meeting on a blind date. We were so into each other. I brought up having sex, and she was up for it. For some stupid reason, it must've been nerves on my part. She initiated it a few days later, but all of a sudden I couldn't do it. I regret it because of how amazing she was.

  • i regret not kissing my first boyfriend.

    i think about it and wonder if I had kissed him would we still be together.

  • I WAS 15 YEARS OLD WHEN I LOSE MY VIRGINITY AND I DONT TO MUCH REGRET IT BUT I WISH I WOULD HAVE WAITEDCAUSE HE LUVED ME BUT NOT AS MUCH AS I LUVED HIM . MY ADVISE IS TO WAIT TELL YOU FIND MR RITE

  • I totally regret not having sex with my cousin. She was hot. She told me one night she'd always wanted to try lesbian sex but me, being the ever faithful girlfriend, wouldn't cheat on my then boyfriend. Shame really because I chucked him only a month later... )=

  • There was one girl who I didn't have sex with after I broke up with someone else. If I slept with her my confidence in sexual contact would have risen back to it's social level, but seeing as I didn't I had to build that up month by month which was very irritating.

    I can see why guys go on the look for sex after breaking up. To keep their sexual libido at a social level.

  • if he does'nt care about me and I care about him, no, obviously I wouldn't regret. I've regretted meeting a certain guy. do what you want to do, it's your life. that's good that you're thinking about it, but remember other girls may not be virgin sometimes due to circumstances that they did not intend. don't be quick to label other girls as 'every other girl' we're all unique, have our own problems etc, either way, wait till you're ready then.

    • No, I meant like "every other girl" that he has dated... I wanted to be different from the rest of the girls he was with...i guess I only wanted him for myself.

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