Why do guys freak out and get all worked up when you touch their butt?

Why do they freak out and get all worked up when you touch their butt or like say "hey you got a nice butt" and stuff, I said that once to my boyfriend and he got all upset, I don't know maybe he got some wrong idea, I didn't mean something abnormal, I just said that he's butt is fit and muscular, what do you think GaG peoples?
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  • I don't understand it either. I think it's some kind of hangup a lot of guys have, associating anything to do with their butt [not girls' butts] with homosexuality. Or like they have this phobia that anyone who gets anywhere near their ass is trying to put something in it, lmao. Which I understand if the person has a past trauma, but otherwise it just seems kind of silly.

    My boyfriend has no problem with me touching his ass, or even getting down there during oral. I don't think he'd mind some insertion either, but we haven't done that. I actually probably touch/pinch/slap his ass more than he does to me, haha. If he didn't like it, I wouldn't do it as much, but luckily that's not an issue.

  • my boyfriend doesn't like when I touch it ALOT.. While we have sex, I like grabbing it a bit, but when I go too close to his asswhole, he freaks... He doesn't want me to go in.. I tell him I like his butt though and he ddoes funny poses when I do, I don't think that's works him up at all..

    • What do you mean he doesn't want you to go in? LOL he has the right to, I just touched his butt when he was CLOTHED, let alone getting anywhere near his butt while having sex, I guess it's in their nature ;p

    • I think it's gay. I wouldn't want anything going near my a**hole. But I wouldn't mind doing it to a girl.

    • i know,m iud never go in him its never my point, I like teasing his spot between his balls and asswhole, its like a G-spot for guys.. But he doesn't like me being close. Its so not gay, he doesn't want me to go in, and I would never do it. I like touching his butt, I find it hot. I'm trying to help you ;)

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  • well I will get upset if anyomne other than my boyfriend touches me on my butt... I mean I really don't like people getting touchy touchy. but well..he was your bf...so... I think he felt a little uncomfortable because a nice butt is generally seen as a feminine asset...

    • lol true

Most Helpful Guys

  • there's a few reasons why one of them is because of past experiences of something dealing with his butt. Maybe he's really against gays and doesn't like anything touching his butt or maybe he just feels like you know only he should be touching your butt a girl shouldn't be touching his. A girl should be touching his muscles or chest or something, you know manly things. We can't feel really manly when a girl is grabbing our ass.

    Even I had a girlfriend in the past that did it and I got quite pissed off and told her not to do it. I just didn't feel like she should be doing it. like if she's going to touch anybody touch my arm or my chest or something.

  • I think it's because it makes him feel feminine. Touch him somewhere manly.

    • Lol I see, well that's realistic and makes sense ;P

    • Ok well where would be a better place?

    • His ding-a-ling.

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  • Lol that is so weird. My boyfriend loves it when I touch his butt and compliment him on it! He's got a nice one, and I let him know! :P It's a thing we do, I flirt with him and then he flirts with me, I grab his butt, he grabs mine. Perhaps your boyfriend just isn't that open with doing stuff like that. So maybe you just need to only do what he is comfortable with I guess. But hopefully he realizes you are just flirting with him :P Seems kind of silly to get worked up about it tho :P

    • sounds likke you have an awesome relationship :)

    • He does grab my butt, and sometimes goes beyond that, but the first time I grabbed his he was like "wtf, I'm outta here" lol

  • I have not been freaked out by my partner doing that, but some random woman, that is kind of odd. Some women freak out if a random guy would compliment her butt or touch her - 'sexual assault, anyone?'

    But, how many private parts does a guy have compared to a woman? So, we have got to protect the few areas we have (just kidding)!

    My ex-partner used to compliment me and touch my butt, but I did the same to her, so it was a mutual appreciation. :D

  • I just laugh, after all I like to hold doors for girls, wgom I then slap playfully as they go through.

  • thats stupid. I wouldn't care. its a compliment. you can touch my butt all you want, lol.

    • man...people don't like that for some reason.

  • I don't know maybe he doesn't like it, no 2 persons are the same, I like getting my butt complimented. I have a nice tush.

    • lol

  • WELL

    Why do GIRLS freak out and get all worked up when you touch their butt or like say "hey you got a nice butt" and stuff?

    • We don't freak out by that, it's a compliment if you ask me.

    • i'm talking as if a guy (no girl) just randomly touched it. I would have assumed the answer would be that if some guy whose not your boyfriend touched your butt it would be perverted.

    • It's not really sexual for a straight guy, though.

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  • The ass is just not a place girls usually travel. A lot of guys have like a comfort zone which doesn't include their ass or people standing behind them even. I know when someone stands behind me, I feel vulnerable and have to turn at least to the side so they aren't behind me anymore lol

    • LOL, wow, I don't know why but I noticed all this stuff you said irl

    • Exactly! Next time you're with a guy friend, innocently stand behind him. He'll either move away, turn around, get noticeably uncomfortable, or ask you what you're doing.

    • antibackstab instinct lol :P

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  • Because to me it seems like a strange compliment. Like, it's kinda weird how girls like a guy's ass since you can't really do much with it except touch it (unless it's two homosexual guys of course). So he probably thinks the compliment is either very weird or just fake. I know most guys don't think it's a weird compliment but for some reason I do.

    • Same here bro.

    • hey now I liked my guy's butt a lot even though I couldn't do anything with it... lol if the guy's butt is muscular and toned and stuff it's freaking hot as hell

    • Haha yeah I understand that but still I find it a bit weird since you can't do ANYTHING with it.

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  • Psh I love it when a girl I like grabs at me, butt or otherwise. Guys who don't like it are insecure or something- who doesn't like feeling sexy to their girlfriend.

    It's only freaky if it's not your girlfriend.

    • This, couldn't have worded it better myself. It's arousing to know your girlfriend gets off on it.

    • yup, true

    • What's sexy about grabbing a male's butt?

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  • Beats me, but if my girlfriend touches my butt I'm fine, I'll be more than happy to touch hers back :)

  • I know the feeling! If he's your man then he shouldn't feel uncomfortable of your TOUCH what soever! But if your some random girl then it might be a strange. Like I said if he's completly your man then why should he feel worked up at all?

  • i really really don't think only guys do that...i would adventure to say that girls get more freaked out...

  • cause guys act like women nowadays. "omg you touched my butt, sexual harrasment!"

  • I guess straight guys afraid of anything related to gays culture. That's why they freak out. My boys were very proud of their butts lol

  • OK once when I was in Highschool this girl mistoje me for her boyfriend and grabbed my ass from behind. PANIC MODE, lol thought I was about to be assaulted.

    Kinda like someones going to try and f*** me. Scary ass sh*t.

  • Touching a butt and also penetrate anyone, isn`t really dependant from a gender. Some girls penetrate guys or girls with their finger/s. The older they are, the more they loose their shyness.

    I,`m absolutely sure, if the clit would be bigger and stick out like a penis, many girls would like to penetrate with it. Such who have a huge stick out clit, they surely penetrate with it like a man with the penis.

    girls what you think about this opinion?

    • I Think that's gross and disgusting, and I also think men wouldn't let it happen, nor us women, for many reasons.

    • What on the f***ing earth did I just read? I Can safely say that what you wrote there is total bullsh*t, brother. 1- What kind of girl would want that sh!t? THEY'RE GIRLS FFS. 2- What kind of guy would want that sh!t? Really, you should know the basics of life, We dudes are not made or meant to be penetrated, I have no f***in' clue why some retarded people talk about this like it's something common or it's normal, Are you trying to change the world or what?

    • 3- As a guy, I'd rather have my f***ing balls cut off than getting anything near my ass, really bro, I think you have some weird ass story with this male penetration, and I'd rather not hear it.

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  • Maybe he has a patriarchalic mind

    • lol what's that?

    • Wish there was a can't decide vote button.

    • I don't vote anything..

  • Haha I kind of enjoy it actually. Several of my exes have liked my butt and if they want to touch it it's fine, so long as I'm allowed to get my kicks as well ;)

    • *Btw, anybody who thinks it's weird to be complemented about a certain body part or just complimented in general is just weird, it's a result of insecurity about said compliment/body part.

  • Football players do it to each other and like it! I don't get it -_- lol

  • lol are you sure your boyfriend isn't gay, most guys like when a girl grabs his butt, I think you need to find someone eles

    • are you sure you're not gay for liking to be touched in the butt?

    • LOL, what she said

    • it's annoying how sensitive "men" are these days. Or maybe she's dating a boy but he needs to grow the hell up. A guy's girlfriend finds a body part of his attractive. OH NO! How emasculating. The hell?! I'd ditch him pronto. I can't stand sissy guys. ;p

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