That's funny, your statement about girls "wanting guys that lead, not follow"... I feel that most guys that are "attractive" to women are followers. All the cool kids... Many guys try to sleep with as many girls as possible because for one, it's a social "norm" that's expected of them at this age, and also an attempt to gain approval.
I feel like a good percentage of young people have (roughly) the same personality as well... Certain "catch-phrases" or slang terms catch on and it's like you see a ton of people incorporate them into their "own" personality as if to say, "I'm cool!" I mean, most people have their own mannerisms and such, so that helps, but I still feel so many people act a certain way or say certain things just to fit in... Some of these people you could call Alpha Males/Females.
I feel that generally, the stereotypical "good" people... The nice/good guys and girls, or the people that have matured beyond this whole influence of peer pressure, I feel these people are good at being themselves in every sense of the word... Always striving to do the right thing despite it being unpopular at times. TRUE leaders... Throw these people into the mix in society. All of the "followers" are out being kids, and they're the ones always getting dates and are the "attractive" individuals. Honestly at this moment in time, I feel as though I literally CAN'T begin to truly like a girl because I don't get enough sense of individuality/maturity from any of them. They all put on this snobby little "whatever" front and are party-obsessed... Typical, just like the typical "bad boy"... and you can't really commit to someone like that. If people want to find something deeper, they have to change. They have to grow.
Idk, I just feel like good people that put their true selves out there, aren't appreciated by the majority of society and their peers... They're "too different/weird" even if they're totally not, or maybe the better thing to say is, they're just "uncool" by everyone else's standards. If you legitimately fall for someone, it makes you "weak" or "spineless" because then all you want to do is make them happy, and be liked in return... It's an emotionally vulnerable state to be in, simply put... Doesn't matter if you're male or female, we're all human.
This sounds a bit off-topic I suppose, but I know what you're asking, and I agree it's ridiculous, especially to the extent girls say they require confidence. They expect things to work out, when they can't even allow a guy to show her that he's human and has a genuine crush on her, and is different than most people (not in a bad way). Only when a guy beats a girl at her own "game", will she go out with him, and if you think about it, not only does it sound superficial already, it sounds like a typically flawed relationship from the start, and it's only a matter of time before it's over...
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well we humans are not Lions or other species of Animals, they don't have logic which we do, that's why humans do not committ infanticide, but you do make a good Scientific point, argument
I honestly don't understand how other girls can request confidence at all times from their guy, while they themselves aren't confident. I suppose that's the point, one has to make up for the other.
Yeah, I'd want mine to like himself, because obviously he'd hold a hell of a lot of worth in my eyes, and I'd want him to see that. The difference though, is that I'd want him to be human, to be vulnerable and to be able to be down around me, without feeling like he has to have this constant mask of fake confidence.
Now, on to your second point.
A guy's mental strength is far more important because it is what girls can relate to. If you haven't noticed, we don't spend our time having play battles or wrestling for fun. Girls have their wars with each other in the mental realm.
It's not that we need a guy who's literally brimming with unlimited confidence, it's that the things not associated with general confidence (ie self-deprecation, self-pity, cowardice, and being a whiny bitch) are all so unattractive qualities. We're not asking you to be Superman, just not this guy:
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That's how I see it, at least.
Girls know they are attracted to 'the jerk' it's the way we work. We can say that we wan't the good guy and as much as we mean it we will always be attracted to the "dangerous" one , sadly not the one that we know will make us happy. That is what confidence means to most girls. But don't forget, most girls are wrong.
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Your confusing the word nice with wuss, there is a big difference. Any guy can be nice and get a chick in fact a girl would rather go with a guy who is nice as opposed to an ass. Being nice just simply means kind, charming, funny, fun to be around type of guy. I would say most guys are that way.
Being a wuss is always complaining about something about yourself, maybe your looks, maybe your weight, things like that. It's one thing to think negatively about yourself, but a complete turn off to express those feelings to women, to them your one of there female friends, because women complain about everything, so she hears that all the time from her friends, and now your doing the same thing, it's a turn off.
A guy with confidence doesn't complain about himself or others, he doesn't look down on himself, he looks at things as opportunities not a set back, he does't care what people think about him.Look. Girls into shitbag men are usually shitbags. Find who likes you. Not all women are the same. There is amazing women. But they don’t want someone whose sexist.
If you hate all women. Women with self respect will leave you alone. And you’ll only attract women who will use tku or who will cheatBecause no one wants to hear a guy bitching and moaning and groaning about how ugly orfat he is, or how much he hates himself, etc. it gets old...same goes for girls. I can't even tell you how many times I've blew it with a guy due to me being insecure.
not so much confidence, just someone who is sure of themselves? just not moany and depressed, at least for me. but I would say intelligence over 'confidence' anyway.
Well, actually a lot of guys do care about and want confident women
But personally I would prefer a guy who was less confident and more open. If a guy is honest, dependable, faithful and treats me right that's all I care about. If he would like to become more confident then id like to be able to work on that with him and help him.
but I certainly wouldn't rule any guys out because they aren't 'confident' - I'm actually more wary of them.Apparently, girls who slept with guys like that, the kids did better. The evidence is that's who we're descended from.
Including you.
YOU are the descendant of the smartest, toughest, fastest, most cunning bastards who walked the face of the earth. Your ancestors were the winners, and you're the product.
So stop moping and start being the man you were born to be.Because...I'm confident and know what I want and I want my guy to be confident. I don't have time for insecurities. I like a guy who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to go for it.
Because they lack confidence themselves and they want someone to have what they lack.
Its human nature-- people like things thatt they don't have or they lack
Example: Girls are attracted to strong guys because they are weak physically and wise versa.
So, its a human nature.You can be a fighter, go do boxing or MMA, what you will find is a bunch of other guys that can beat the crap out of you
they have higher standards
tell me about it, pisses me off
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