Why would a guy act nervous around a girl?
Okay, I'm trying to figure out why this guy (friend/acquaintance) STILL acts weird/nervous/shy around me! Okay, long story short, I did like this... Show More
Most Helpful Opinion
Women are scary because of the unknown. In today`s world, particularly in the USA, a man has much to be afraid of. Here is my list of possible fears to explain his uncertainty:
1) sexual harassment. Ask out the wrong woman at the wrong place and time and STRIKE! The poison has set in.god help him. The worst part is a man may not know if a given women would indeed cry foul until it`s too late. If a woman is a student, coworker or boss, there is much to take caution.
2) If he really likes his current relationship, he is fearful of the rumor mill which can and will spread like a California fire. Women can be as jealous as men and is a good way of destroying a sure relationship.
3) He is inexperienced in the dating scene or comes from a male dominated society and now finds himself surrounded by women. I served in the US Army as an infantryman that is 100% men with few women support soldiers. Once I got out, I was in culture shock with jobs that was female dominated. Messed me up for a long time.
If none of these are acceptable, then he could be hiding something some ulterior motive.
What Guys Said 4
i feel like the prettier the girl you like or are around, the more nervous you are or the less confident you feel about yourself in talking/approaching her.. so yeh id say he's pretty interested
A guy would not act nervous around a girl to convey that he's not interested in her - I could say from my own experience.
I am a very shy guy with very little experience in relations - I get really nervous when I am with the girl who bowls me over, especially when in the midst of other people. This shyness leads to inferiority complex which leads to jealousness, when the girl is flirting with other men!
These could just be one or two thorns on the way to something really longlasting and could be definitely overcome by communication and mutual assurance.
The guy is looking at you for a serious long term and meaningful relationship.
I behaved exactly the same and recently upset an angel who liked me and approached me 6 months ago.
Women can be pretty scary. Especially ones we think we might be attracted too. We are not used to acting the way women want us to act. We always say the wrong thing and can never look good enough, dress good enough or be as successfull in a way that impresses you the way some other imaginary guy does. We all know, even if we get to second base, our dicks might be fine, but will never be big enough to satisfy you forever, or until a bigger one comes along. Worse, if we are attracted, a mere glance of you, whiff of your perfume or thought of being close gives us a giant boner that we can't hide. Soooo, what do we do, especially when we are young? Goofy crap like you are describing.
What Girls Said 4
He sounds a little shy, I think it's normal, he sounds like he's interested. Well, if you like him, go for it. Ask him out if need be if he's that uber shy.
Maybe he has you on the back burner
Hi Archer & Kayak, I really like your male perspectives on a "guy being shy around a girl he is very interested in". I am in similar position as this girl - except add 10 years to the situation + complication that we work in the same office (sexual harassment risk and/or fear of upsetting the peaceful working environment). I would really like your advice as I cannot tell difference between friendly coworker vs. coworker that is scared to explicitly tell me he is interested...
Here's the skinny: Started working with him 3 months ago, there was an instant chemistry the minute we started talking - so powerful I felt he is bound to be feeling the same spark and I am sure others could see it if we interact in front of them at the office. Wasn't necessarily a strong physical attraction at first, more like a gravitation to each others energy/aura - simply drawn to that person instinctively without really knowing them. We are both in our 30s, had our fair share of short and long meaningful relationships but never met "the one" - so we are pretty experienced when it comes to determining whether it is a crush, lust or something more. So here are the individual scenarios and questions I need advice on:
1. Is he interested if he is normally outgoing in the office, but when around me seems not as composed, somewhat on edge both personally and professionally when we interact in front of other people and in private?
2. Is he interested and is there some serious mutual sexual tension when any chance interaction we have (outside washrooms, water cooler, kitchen) - if at all possible he flirts with me e.g. you going to use up all that boiled water? you couldn't bring my tea on your way back from the kitchen? asking me why I am on edge or jumpy around him (btw I am nervous around him too, but as a person, I am not shy at all!) but I try to pass it off that I am not to him!
3. Is he interested if both him and I put on a "front" in the office and to each other that we are not interested at all. There are favors I want to do for him naturally as I care for him and am considerate by nature - but I purposely refrain so as not to be showing preferential treatment to this guy vs. others? Would it work the same for him since he doesn't want to explicitly tell/s me he likes me (because of work situation) - so we both continue to pretend there is nothing there. I fear we may both let this meaningful connection pass us by because of work situation.
4. Is he interested but scared to express it to me if 4 of us are at a pub for lunch, table of 4, he sits to my right side, however, his chair faces my chair and his legs are on my chair. Therefore I kept accidentally brushing his knee when I used my hands while talking. Also when he orders his lunch - it comes - he mentions "I thought you ordered the same thing".
5. Finally would he act shy, flirt and make eye contact with me if all he wants is to risk an office fling or may he want more?
Nervous because he wants to act the best he can so he's walking on egg shells to impress you