Today I said goodbye to my ex for good....Relief but painful at the same time.

[jaycee777]

Today I said goodbye to my ex for good.. this was not easy.. I deleted numbers etc... I said goodbye to him, with no hard feelings just realising that I was trying to be friends with someone who really didn't want to be friends. it was extremely hard to do, but I did it.. with no malice, just knowing its time to move on and let go. There is a sense of relief but I will miss him dearly.

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There has been no comment back, no retaliation, which indicates to me that he didn't and doesn't care at all... that's ok, at least I know now... I did so much for this man.

[Anonymous]

The healing comes with time... it may take days, weeks, or even longer... but once it is over you will have a sigh of relief. You need to focus on you and your needs now... Go out with the girls, or go do something you never thought you would, something you've never done before... Get all dressed up and go karoke... now is the time to live your life... and make it all you can make it... love will come who knows maybe while you up singing a squeaky country song on karoke someone is falling in love with you.. lol : ) let love find you... and when it does it will be wonderful... take life as it comes... Good Luck keep me updated...

[jaycee777]

Thanks hun :) I am actually going on a date.. my first ever real date on Sunday with a man who is actually looking for love and marriage... so fingers crossed the chemistry is there.. we can chat for hours :)

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow ! I am so excited for you! tell me how it goes.

[jaycee777]

Will do :).... seem more mature than the last guy... although I don't want to rush things and turn it into a rebound thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes keep your guard up for a while and take it slow.... I read your update and honestly.... at least you found out now instead of 10 years down the road ya know...... stay strong it is for the best! Just remember that... it's for the best!

[jaycee777]

Thanks hun... I know... I can't say I am over him yet... and thought better of him but obviously he really is not a very nice guy.

[Anonymous]

Take it one day at a time, try to keep your mind and hands busy with different things and try to look at the positive side of being single. You now have more time for you, so use it on you and not thinking about him. It is tough saying goodbye to someone you care about but in cases like these it really is for the best.

[jaycee777]

I know hun thank you... I did it as respectfully as I could, with a full explanation and wishing him well with his future. I dealt with him with respect unlike he dealt with me... so I feel better for that. I will be busy in teh coming weeks so am looking forward to the distraction.. its time to move on and not let him fill my brain entirely.. I will be sad.. but that is how it has to be.. he has no respect for me and I deserve better...thank you.

[oldmaninthemoon]

first time anything is prety hard.I think your doing the right thing myself.Im sure you'll find a nice man to treat you right soon. It was only 4 months , ya I know it still hurts just as much if it was longer.But you sound like a wonderful person and I'm sure that there's plenty of guys out there dieing to get to know you. You'll be better soon and you'll be happer too. good luck Ray

[jaycee777]

Thank you very much raymond.. yes its hard... I really fell hard for this one... but he made assumptions about me and treated me badly... so yes I know there are others and hope to stop thinking about him soon.. thanks ray.

[oldmaninthemoon]

Y do pp,l asumme to much instead of talking to eachother??? as for treating you badly, you should have kicked his ass to the curb the first time he did that to you. Find a nice man a few years older thenyou one who treats you like the princes you are.Ray

[jaycee777]

Thanks hun... he was a few years older than me :O.... he was 38... I found out he was not too nice when I fell pregnant to him and he blamed me and wanted me to have an abortion, then said he was'n't attracted to me anymore, I lost it.. sounds horrible, but thank God. Yes I deserve to be treated with respect, he has not done that, only given me the silent treatment and saying that I said he was a bad person.. so he basically treats me like I am not worthy.. so yes goodbye to him hi to real man

[oldmaninthemoon]

Yep my second wife was like that too and yes you do deserve better sorry to here about him wanting you to geta abortion id never do that. anyway hello and lol thanks Ray

[jaycee777]

Hello to you too :)... thanks hun.. its hard, I still wake up in the morning and go to bed at night thinking about him... he seemed like the sweetest man in the world... just goes to show hey... I thought for a while that it was something wrong with me, but then realised finally how bad he was truly treating me... yes I do deserve better :)

[meAsking3111]

Well good for you, you should really be out with friends or throwing yourself into something positive like teaching yourself something new or getting things done in your life that have been put on hold. If you really get into a positive self-help kick or get in shape or something like that, you'll see this guy just fade into the distance and you'll be so much better off for it.

[jaycee777]

Thank you, yes I am actually starting to do that :)... have met someone else who makes me think he really was bad news for me in the first place, so time to move on :)... thank you for your great encouragement.

[dasouthernicon]

Good. Jay, ur gonna have to get busy living life... the feelings will fade. This ain't ur first time in this rodeo, so you know what to do...

[jaycee777]

I know thanks.. first time saying goodbye like that though lol... realised when it was a one way street.

[dasouthernicon]

Yea- why prolomg the pain? If they don't like you, so what? Get with someone who does- or just werk on yourself for a while. Thar's no shame in being single...

[jaycee777]

I was single for 5 years prior to going out with him, we were only together 4 mths. He treated me with an immature silence treatment attitude and when I reached out for friendship he still stuffed me around, so thought I can't keep being the one that tries here, its hard cause I still have feelings for him, but I know there are other fish in the sea.

[dasouthernicon]

Dang- maybe ur better off bn single, then looking for a guy who's gonna treat you with some kind of respect... nobody should subject themselves to that kinda treatment....

[jaycee777]

I agree, I now know why girls have left him, he says he has never broken up with someone.. looks like I am the first, but he stuffs you around and is only in his world.

[dasouthernicon]

Wow, what a winner. Maybe you and summa them other gals can 'toss a jerk on the barbie'... lol... I say just tell other ladies about this chucklehead, and go on 'bout ur biznazz...

[jaycee777]

Hahahh I have wondered that actually lol. he seems nice then he is way all over the place lol.. he is someone that would blame you for being pregnant and not talk to you if you don't get an abortion type.

[dasouthernicon]

Be glad you DIDN'T have his seed... it would have been worse on you then- but then you would have had the chance to get the authorities for deadbeats involved, and for 20 years you would have been able to crush him at every turn- this happens in America a lot, btw

[jaycee777]

Well I did actually, but I lost it.... hence why I said that. Yeah it happens a lot here in Australia too.. the men here are very arrogant I must add.. nothing against men, but I used to live in NZ... and they truly are. Yeah, there should be a law on the way some people treat people I reckon.

[dasouthernicon]

So wats the diff btw Aussies and Kiwi's.... as an American, we don't hear much from down under- and are the men in NZ bad?

[jaycee777]

Welll my experience with NZ guys is that they are country folk.. very down to earth, but every country has its bad seeds hey.... my experience with aussie blokes is they are arrogant and quite rude to women, little respect.

[dasouthernicon]

I've read that online, that Aussie men are mean to a degree.... so Kiwis are more humble and all that... ok

[dasouthernicon]

Jay, ya should be glad, don't be gettin all hung on this chap, aite? Too many dudes out thar

[jaycee777]

I know.. I did fall for him... he seemed like the nicest man I had ever met... and I thought he valued me more than he has shown, obviously not. that's ok... NEXT lol

[dasouthernicon]

Yea- ya need to get yourself sumbody better

[jaycee777]

I agree... so fingers crossed this guy I am catching up on the weekend is a different kettle of fish :)

[dasouthernicon]

So ur going on... got a date this wkend... kewl

[jaycee777]

Yes I am.. so if this other guy realises what he missed out on, which is likely in time, it will be tooo late.. he missed the boat lol

[dasouthernicon]

Dag, Jay- don't doom it to failure... give it a chance!!!

[jaycee777]

No I mean the ex.. not the new guy lol

[dasouthernicon]

Ok, good hearing that!! He's ur ex 4a reason...

[oldmaninthemoon]

U go girlfriend good luck

[jaycee777]

Thanks Raymond.. not going to give this guy the time of day anymore.. been too forgiving in the past, sick of being walked on... time to move on hehehe.

[Anonymous]

what if this opposite? a guy feels all such things towards a girl !! :(