So there is this really cute girl in one of my college classes and I recently noticed she has been staring at me. The other day I looked over at her and she was staring at me again and she immediately looked away. I started staring back at her and didn't look away when she looked at me, she would always just stare back for a second and look away again. She seems to have a quiet personality and I have never talked to her before because I only recently noticed the staring. I don't know if I should just do the staring game for a few more classes and make it more flirty or just make some reason to talk to her. I'm not much into the whole making up fake reasons to talk to a girl, I mess that up and they instantly know I'm just plain trying to talk to them. Maybe that's not such a bad thing, it usually works anyways because they seem interested before I even approach.
So, girls, why do you all play the staring game? And what do all of the different variations of staring mean? (i.e. looking away when we catch you and when we stare back how would you react if you are interested in us?)
Girls don't want to make their feelings vulnerable unless they are sure that the guy likes them back. She's staring at you because she finds you attractive and she probably doesn't know what to do about it. She is most likely shy and isn't good at approaching guys. She may think you are too cute for her and that you are out of her league and there is no point in approaching you because she thinks she isn't good enough for you. She looks away when you catch her staring because she is shy and she doesn't want to look like a creeper or anything. Trust me, you should most definitely stare back at her because although she may get nervous, it will give her a rush and she will begin to think that she does actually have a chance with you. Definitely show some interest and you can approach her if you want because she's not staring at you for no reason. She is probably interested in you.
Also, girls play games because it makes things interesting. It's fun and it gives us a rush.
Ok so I don't know what other stares there are besides these 2 but if you can think of any other ones, I can translate
looking away when you catch a girl staring- she's shy and probably interested
stares back at you when you catch her- she knows what she wants and she's not afraid to let you know or she's forcing herself to show interest because she knows she won't get you if she doesn't
I completely agree with that answer if this was taking place in high school because I actually was that shy girl in high school! I'm not really sure which one of us started the staring but I do remember I would look away at first... then I got brave enough to hold it for 2 seconds longer. I was madly crazy about that guy but way to nervouse to make a move. Staring was kinda like playing peekaboo.
college is different though...
She could be shy, she could remember you from another course or encounter, you might remind her of someone else she knows, maybe someone told her something random about you, or maybe your just a good piece of eye candy. We have countless reasons to stare. Who wants to keep their eyes glued to the professor lecturing? Believe it or not, a lot of people in class (guys included) are looking around at other people or distract themselves some other way.
Staring games are fun but they will never amount to anything more if neither of you take the initiative. My guess is this girl probably won't. Are you allowed to sit in any seat in the classroom? Are there group projects? Study groups? That might be your best route to introducing yourself since you don't want to make up an excuse. But trust me, any excuse will do! Just putting yourself out there would make her feel a lot more comfortable around you. Plus you are acknowleging that you noticed her which will make future encounters less awkward. A friendly invitation from you offers her a reason to say hi to you again in class or around campus.
Taking that first step will help you determine whether or not she really is shy.
Ok, I know you asked this question 3 months ago, but the girl in your scenario is me, (metaphorically speaking of course). I did the same things to the guy that I thought was cute in one of my college classes, and I am guessing he didn't get the hint that I was interested but EXTREMELY shy to do anything about it. The girl definitely likes you because she looked away when you were looking at her. Pay attention to the expression on her face (that is, if you still have the class with her or if you still see her) if she gets all flustered and she looks away very quickly after your eyes meet she is a shy girl. I know that I think that the guys I like will never like me back like that and I would never want to make it so obvious that I was looking. Don't play staring games because that, in my opinion and experience, leads to nowhere. If you like her, get to know her (again this is if you still see her). She will appreciate the forwardness and will be happy to get to know you. I hope this helped, if not for now, at least for future endeavors.
Because we like you and want you to know but are too shy to approach you lol. I always stare at the guy I like and he stares at me but I think we're both too shy to do anything about it :( The diff stares I do:
1.I catch him staring so I'll look back until it goes on too long so I'll keep looking away then back again.
2. Where he is with his friends and I try to act like I'm not interested so it'll just be quick glances every now and again-so that he knows I've noticed him.
3.Where I'm looking and then he catches me, I'll look away straight away but then 2 secs later look back at him to see if he's still looking (which he is).
Not to burst your bubble,but she could have just spaced out an started staring at you..lol I do that sometimes and ill space out and start staring at a guy and for some reason it always seems to be the hottest guy in the class.haha but I wasn't trying to check him out! EKK its really embarresing.lol but yeahh..thats my 2 cents
Well most of the time If a girl is staring, she likes you and wants your attention, or for her to notice her. Maybe she wants that flirtiness. Usually, if a girl is staring the guy is attractive, because it would be weird is she was observing you ( and staring ) while you were looking
Means, she caught you staring at her and looked away. If I was the one to do that I would look away quickly, I find it rude to stare at someone interested or not interested. Just my couple cents as well.
Because when we like a guy we don't really know we are afraid to make the first move
We don't know if they are already with someone or not
I'm in college now. First year there's this guy in two of my classes who I like and I stare at him a lot with out even meaning to when he notices he smiles or mouths what ? While smiling and we are in the same group for English
What I'm trying to say is its hard to express feeling
What if you were a 50 something guy and you caught a college girl staring at you? What if you were a 50 something guy and you caught more than one college girl staring at you? And what if you aren't afraid to walk right up to them and start talking to them if they would do the courtesy of talking back to you like a normal person? Then you could tell her "I find you attractive, a real Stunner ! Since you looked anyway, let's meet and talk and go out on a date and see where it goes from there?" That's kind of where I'm at right now so I guess I'll let the community know that this Newbie to the site 50 something is in the market for a college girl and I'm serious.