THE TRUTH IS...80% OF WOMEN CARE ONLY ABOUT LOOKS!
They way I see it, plus first-hand personally experiences…women are the ones that scrutinize men in looks, more than the men themselves. If I were to do a poll, 9 out of 10, woman are more hornier than men and don't care about personality. I see it everyday! It became to the point that I have grown disgusted by it.
It is a myth that "you women" out there say that men are the "ones" that always think out of the "other head". In reality, it is the other way around: women are the ones! Most do say that they care more about personality than the way a guy looks. But it is only to shadow their real intentions. Maybe, so they don't reveal themselves. Truth is….”woman are more lustful than men”, period! Watch...go to a club, a bar, a restaurant, any place in public...all I see is the way women dress as if they are wanting to be scrutinized by men, so they have easier access to in getting bedded.
And yes, there are a lot of immature guys out there, doing the "player" thing. They obviously are not prime examples of real adulthood and maturity. Those “playas” are those that ruin the true endeavor on what Men really seek in Women.
What we men really seek (the mature ones), seek a woman that is willing to be an intimitate mate, a best friend, a mother to our children, and someone that we would love to grow old together. True compatibility!
My experience have brought them to the open. All because I know that I am not good looking…I’ve been turned down just because of that fact! Looks! Just about every woman that I had interest in, would allow me to have their phone number, but then they say that they only wanted to be friends with me. Why did they give me the number in the first place? And usually some of them say, “Oh, I am not looking for a boyfriend.” Then it would be a few days later, they are with someone! There are many excuses I have heard.
You see? That is why many guys ponder on the question, “Why do women go for jerks, and not the nice guys?” Because, women only care about sex, and having sex with the ‘good looking’ guys. Personality has nothing to do with it whatsoever. That is how I lost my ex-wife! I hadn’t treat her bad, worshipped the ground she walked upon. But she always had comments about how “that guy, or this guy, is hot!” Went on until they day I was sent to war… come back home, and she is with another man. Because she tells me that she wasn’t attracted to me anymore!
Well, that is my story and I’m sticking to it!
Girls and guys are similar in many ways. Looks attract, but they don't necessarily keep the person interested long. I've known and know many beautiful women, but as soon as they open thier mouth the attraction meter dropped about 80%
If your not Brad Pitt (whom I still don't see it LOL) then you need to use the assets you have.
Some of the most unattractive men in hollywood were classified the sexiest men of that year.
Example Abe Vigoda from Barney Miller. Charles Bronson, etc.
As I have told girls who've asked the same question what can make me more attractive?
Confidence and charm. As for nice guys being treated like crap, that too goes without saying.
Nice girls get the same treatment.
Treat people the way you want to be treated, but don't let them step on you. They will respect and be far more attracted to you than if you agree with everything they say or want. Let them pay for dinner occassionally or on outings. Relationships are a two way street. If they treat you like dirt toss the person to the side, they are obviously not in love with you, but rather using you.
My past relationships bent over backwards to make me happy as I did them and even though we are not together anymore we continue to have a mutual care and respect for one another.
Realize your self worth and be confident you are a good guy and some intellegent woman will see it one day. Just remember there is a difference between selfconfident and arrogant.
good luck
umm... I beg to differ. I'm definitely personality over looks any day. I could never date some disrespectful, stupid, douchebag no matter how hot he was. I actually prefer guys that my friends consider less attractive. I like the cute and grudgy type. I'm not into "stud muffins". I know there are girls that will date the hot guy over the nice guy, but I would like to point out that men -being the visual creatures that they are- tend to go for the hot girl over the "nice personality" girl all the time, seriously. I've gotten that sh*t done to me before and it sucks big time and I hate it even more when after a couple months of f***ing they realize that's all the dumbass is good for and come flocking back to me. I'm always the "cute, funny FRIEND" and never really the girlfriend material, so I would like to toss your theory about all women out the door.
even some really hot girls can never get the nice guy because the nice guy is too busy staring at her boobs and thinking she'd never be into him. it's frustrating form all ends of the spectrum.
It's not true that ALL girls go for looks only. I myself find the super good looking ones pretty conceited and shallow, and I absolutely hate that. I've had chance with a lot of them, I'd know. But I have an 8 month boyfriend, whom when I first met, I never thought I could date. He was good looking to me at first, but we became really good friends, and I saw him for his personality. He was so comfortable to be around and a month later after being friends, I started to fall for him. I'll give you another example, my best friend Chloe, a blond beauty who turned down every guy until she met this guy who I thought was cute, but she didnt. (by the way, she's 17 and never had a boyfriend)They became friends, and the guy (Nick) was completely in love with her, asked her out, but she said no. A little while later, she fell for him and they're together now. My point is...Girls do go by looks at first, but then they look for the personality at some point. and the personality part always decides.
I'm the stereotypical pretty popular girl at my highschool and yeah, I used to date hot guys with no personality, until one day I got sick of being hurt! I just hated on guys from then on! Until about two months ago .. I had been crush free for about four months when I meet this drama geek from English class! At first I ignore him, seeing as he's not good looking I just barely aknowledge him but then we start talking and bam! Instant conection! He started to become more and more attractive to me every time we spoke! He is the greatest love I've ever known and I owe it all to the fact that I got to know him based on personality and not looks! So don't give up! Eventually the smart girls will realize that players are a waste of time and sweet boys like you are worth settling down with! I wish you luck because I know that if your anything like my guy you must be something amazing! Just remember nice guys don't always finish last in reality, even if right now it seems like it!
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yeah it is true. there's one of two way to go with it. either you can sit around and wonder why me or you can do something about it. change your hairstyle, start working out, read more books on many subjects of help, and I wouldn't say girls always go for assholes, assholes just tend to be more popular for some f***ed up reason and so that plays a part in it also. Also confidence has a big thing to do with it. you can be ugly but if you have an amazing personallity and are confident then you'll least have a chance. I would say just start working out and it should be a lot easier. Personally I am reading many books each week and starting working out so that by springtime I can get a girlfriend. But yeah just like those other people said this definiltly works both ways and I am guilty of this myself but that's just the way this world is, you can't please everybody and its always much better to work on what YOU want to work on and then just let in whatever kinda girls you attract. And talking to girls more helps a lot also. and there's a book by Mark Dice called the Dating Book(yes, that's the title) that I highly suggest and it actually incorperattes pyschology to give you a better undersatnding.
I'm not gonna read any of the other answers because I'd rather just say what I want to say.
In the beginning of a relationship its:
attraction =60%, personality =40%
After you have gotten used to each other it switches:
personality = 60%, attraction =40%
Women and men go for physical attraction because, let's face it, sex is bound to happen, and we want a partner that is going to make us feel that sexual drive.
You're a nice guy, that's great. Some girls like nice guys, some girls like assholes. Some guys like nice girls, some buys like bitches. You are in the same age range as me, so yeah I know what you are going through, I see the same exact thing.
If you don't feel you look good enough, I'd suggest working on your self-esteem and confidence. In the end, nice guys do win purely because they are usually husband material.
I know exactly what you're saying. I never had a girlfriend until I was a junior in high school (go figure, I am still a junior). I wanted a girl, and I didn't get one. Once I started talking to women as people, getting to know them better, I found the girl of my dreams. Don't get me wrong, I think she's the most beautiful woman to walk this earth, but we started out with a strong foundation. Just be patient and have faith you will end up with the person you are supposed to be with. Besides, a relationship on looks is a bad one.
ya I'm with brunettebabex3 guys overlook the not so pretty girls too, and go straight for the beautiful, athletic, and nice body girls and but its not that we overlook the personality, because we dont. the reason we care about looks is that its the 1st thing we notice about guys. if we see a really sexy guy, we will eventually go up and talk to him, and that's when we determine if we like his personality. if we don't like his personality, or we think he's a complete a**, than we get turned off and well stop talking to him.
I actually completely agree with that statement because I am one of those girls who leaves out the good guys to be with the guys that are abusive and treat girls poorly and there are many other girls like that as well that you will meet everyday, but guess what as much as you want to know why this particular thing happens, girls like me ask the same question when the whole sexy bad boy relationship comes crashing down. Maybe one day we'll come to our senses and we'll realise that we actually missed out on probably the best kind of guy out there which is a guy like you. so stop worrying, the girl that you deserve will come around soon. xoxo
I think I would want the whole package even if there's flaws. I like a nice guy but he has to look good too and be a gentleman. If he's hot and a jerk, I would NOT go out with him. But if he's hot and is nice, I would definitely want him to ask me out. Maybe you just have to work on your looks. Looks are important too as they also 'define' you and shows that you care about your own appearances (you're not a slob, lazy, poor, etc.) as a girl would also like to show him off to her family and friends. They don't have to be the BEST looking but at least good looking.
guys do it too, just remember that... there has to be some sort of a physical attraction there or else a relationship will never work... I met a guy who I was not physically attracted to at all, but he was the nicest, sweetest guy ever, we dated for about 3 months but we had a lot of issues, I never wanted to cuddle or kiss or do anything for that matter and it got to be a problem, I couldn't help it, I gave him a chance because of his personality.. so what I am trying to get at is it takes a little bit of both!
As crazy as this sounds you are trying to date young shallow / silly girls ! I made that mistake for a long time; until I discovered WOMEN, yes even 10 and 20 years older. They know how to act in public, they know how to dress, they are great dancers, and you can set for hours over coffee and talk about anything. Even if I was 18 again I wouldn't date a woman under 30, because stupid , emotional, spoiled rotten, pretentious little girls are nothing but drama !
An older woman is going to see you for who you are and appreciate you for just that, because they know that all the rest is just extra when it comes to Real Relationships ! We have a saying in the south "beauty is only skin deep" and "Personality goes all the way to the bone" ! Date Women that appreciate you, there's nothing better !
keep in mind that realtionships are initiated at first on looks, its what gets you in the door, personality charm and charisma is what gets you in the sack or into her heart. try being friends at first and play the "get to know each other game" first in order to bypass the focus on looks.
It's both that counts with me. However, looks are not as important as personality is. Besides, when you love someone they are gorgeous in your eyes. Guys (not just girls) are shallow. They care about mainly looks and nothing else. In my opinion your thinking is wrong. I don't know you well enough to tell you why you've never had a girlfriend but chances are it's not just about your looks. Please don't pigeon hole us like that.
That definitely goes both ways, guys overlook the average/below average girls constantly for the above average beautiful one's. Not caring how nice, smart, fun, etc. said person is. When you meet someone just ask them for their number or to hang out, you're bound to find someone you'll have fun with and is nice, but you have to know that rejection's always a possibility.
Looks are the starting point, when you first meet someone you have no idea about their personality you only know if your attracted to them or not. And nobody is really looking for someone nice, they are looking for someone with the right combination of personality traits for them... if they are nice, that's like icing on the cake.
For me, it's not about kindness or good looks: intelligence comes first. A guy would have to be a "nerd" to even want to do the things that I do, anyway. If you prove your intelligence to me, I will consider you as a friend or crush, just like that. I love the REALLY smart guys who have intellectual interests.
some girls are like that. some girls are not like that. I think that it's mostly girls without much relationship experience who don't really care for a guy's personality. I've always been more mature for my age, partly because I grew up fast-my dad left our family. but anyways . yeah. I mean, like I always have looked for a guy with a good personality. I've only gone out with one who's a jerk. but when girls are more mature, they'll recognize what nice guys have to offer.
hm well like this person said go with confidence...
to me it isn't that way an I am a girl we like a good personality but you rlly only need half of one and I don't know why but looks are a top priority I mean would you really wanna be with someone ugly or that you're not attracted too? no, you'd be wasting ure timee hun.
well I'm not like that and I could care less about a guys look and its the way he treats me and other the women around him and his personality that's matters to me because in the end good looks fade away and the personality is always going to be there no matter what...so just remember not all girls are not like that and that there is somebody out there for everyone and that you just might have not met the right woman that your meant to be with yet but you just go to keep on looking
I go for both personality and looks. Don't categorize all girls into that. Looks aren't everything but yes they help, but I do not know of a single girl that would go for a guy who was drop dead gorgeous and had ZERO perosonality. Personally, personality/common interests are the most important to me and if the guy is good looking that is just an added bonus.
I have to be physically attracted to someone to even consider dating them. And that doesn't mean that they have to be super hot. I guess it would be different if you're in like school or work or something and you get to know someone by their personality first and then they seem attractive to you. But a good personality is a must, but there has to be some sort of physical attraction.
im definantly not like that..i met this guy who was so not my type[in looks] accually I know two guys like that and they ended up being my best friends...i even have a crush on one of them...beacause 4 me at least sometimes when you bring out the inner beuty it shines apon the outer...
OH but they do!
CONFIDENCE BABE confidence is the key!
The girls that are simply interested in looks are shallow and probably not worth your time!
Do not worry,develop a strong sense of self,like who you are!
The way you are right now!
If you feel you need to improve on an area,do that...
again,confidence little darlin will get the girls!
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