I agree, but for guys only. The wording is off though.
The key, as a guy, is not to be "mean". The key, is to be stronger than the girl.
This means stronger mentally and emotionally.
Women abhor weak men and learn to despise them. When a girl gets emotional, she wants to know that you are capable of putting up with her during her mood swings, when the period cramps hit and when she's crying that you'll be there to comfort her.
None of that means you have to be an a**hole or treat her like a bag of dirt.
It does mean, however, that if a girl acts up, you set boundaries. No serious person is going to argue that girls are less emotional than guys. The trick as a guy is to set some guidelines as to when you will be quiet and let her vent, and when you will call her out if she gets out of control.
Be there and comfort her when she's down, but if she's acting like a crazy woman for no reason, you need to put her in her place. This contravenes all this "equalness" nonsense that is currently promoted in dating advice, usually articles published by single women. Women want men who can love them when they are down, but also handle them when they are at their worst.
This takes a very strong man to do. A control freak is not a strong man, he's just posing as one.
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Like TheDigitalSaint said, it only applies to men. No mentally sane guy wants to be with a woman who treats them mean. As a man, you have to be assertive and control women when they get out of hand. If that means being mean in the eyes of women, so be it. You never see women complaining about their boyfriends being too nice; they talk about it in the past tense, meaning they already broke up with them. However, you see plenty of stories with women complaining about their boyfriends of how many years being a**holes.
It can work for either gender if the person being treated badly has low self esteem.
I have known quite a few guys who worship the ground that their mean girlfriends walk on. Some of the stories they have told me make me loose complete respect for them and their girlfriend for that matter but it somehow works for them. In a very unhealthy, masochistic way.
Only kids play games like these. I'm not referring to kids by chronological age, just maturity. Mature adults do NOT treat the person they're interested in this way.
The worst you treat a guy, the better he treats you.
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You're half right, half mistaken.
Being sweet all the time and giving them all the power makes them lose respect to you.
That doesn't mean you have to be mean at other times. It means you have to stand up for yourself, be able to say no when someones unreasonable, and do things for yourself sometimes as well.I completely disagree with this statement and honestly believe healthy relationships should be equalitarian.
I agree with you to an extent
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