We do this because being rejected hurts and we figure that if you don't like us then why do we need to be nice to you or associate with you.And depending on how nice you were when you rejected us we might interpret it as you were being mean,cold,or a bitch.We think if you don't care then I don't care.F*** the bitch! Rejection also hurts our confidence big time,especially if the guy really cares and is attracted to a girl or he is insecure to begin with.What do you expect when you hurt someone to be treated like a princess? For us to fall all over you so you can take a giant sh*t on us then smash it in our face? That is the way it goes you can't expect someone to treat you better then you treat them.Cant expect someone to care for you if you don't care for them.We feel like we are being played for a fool.How do you treat guys when you are rejected or how would you if you were rejected?Some guys are probably are just trying to play a girl anyways so they don't care and they are only wasting their time after rejection.We might feel like we are wasting our time even if we did want a relationship or friends with benefits after rejection.It sometimes makes us angry and that's why we behave these ways.Or it can make us sad and after we resent you.This is just the way it is for most of us.I mean what do you want to be friends?We might get the vibe that you don't want to,I mean we were just rejected LMAO.We might not want to be friends so its acceptance or nothing.
I'll answer that if you answer why women won't date guy they consider friends (because they say they don't want to screw up the friendship they already have)
What i'm trying to say is you want a simple answer to a complex question. I've been both friendly to women who've rejected me and what you would possibly classify as "mean" to others who've rejected me. But the way i responded to them was a direct reflection of who they were to me something they just didn't get.
I had a woman that i had worked with a couple of years she flirted with me we had some deep conversations (i thought they were deep.. she just wanted to talk about her life and her problems. I was her emotional tampon nothing more, oops) finally one day i asked her out she rejected me. It was awkward, but it was then that i realized how little she knew about me. She didn't even know my age. i created something in my head that wasn't there. This wasn't her fault it was mine. But afterwards i was done i had invested so much and she had invested nothing. Don't get me wrong i didn't ignore her but i had no interest in her drama so if she asked me a question i'd give a short response and go back to what i was doing. In her mind i was ignoring her. In my mind i was treating her as an equal.
I’ve lost many good male friends, or makes who I thought were good friends, just because I’ve told them that I’m not ready for any type of romance in general conversations about relationships. Yet, they’d continue to hang with me as if nothing happened, then I turn around and they start acting funny, sometimes meanwhile while they’re in a relationship. I’ve come to the conclusion that no male wants to be just platonic friends with me, and that sucks because I really enjoy male company and convo. But oh well 🤷🏻♀️
I don't feel guilty about rejecting them but getting cussed out is the price I pay
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After being happily married for 21 years, my first wife passed away from a rare adenocarcinoma cancer. It took me over a year to come out my shell and begin dating again. My four children where dead set against it and many of my relatives thought I shouldn't.
Needless to say, I went on several dates which gave me the confidence that I could actually have an intelligent conversation with a beautiful woman. I was rejected many times, however I felt like I was in heaven just by those women talking to me. Then I meet a gorgeous woman at a time when I wasn't even looking. We went out on our first date that night. We visited her children, which I thought was pretty cool since I had four of my own. The next night we went out on our second date, a concert and dinner. Later that evening we get in a huge argument thinking we would never see each other again.
A month goes by, and we start texting each other. I surprise her by driving over 800 miles to see her. We spend the weekend together which was those most exciting erotic weekend of my life. The next month she asked me to marry her and by the end of that month we were married.
I relocate her from South Carolina to Michigan. Our relationship was about as perfect as you could ever dream of. We opened bank accounts together, I added her to the warranty deed to my house, I gave a Cadillac to drive. The only problem we had, is we couldn't seem to get out of bed. Our sexual relationship was off the charts, in fact we learned so much about sex I should write a book on it.
Six months later, while I was Birthday shopping with her daughter (24 years old) my step daughter, my wife called and needed a ride home from Church. Since, my step daughter and I were really not done shopping, I left her at the mall and went to pick up my wife.
I get to the Church in 15 minutes and nobodies their. So, I call her and the only thing she says is, "I can't do this again!" then hangs up on me. I call several more times to get
its a self defence mechonism, we can walk away feeling deflated and beaten, or we can turn into the warrior we are supposed to be and fight back, especially if friends are around, so by feeling this way we react in a way where we know our feelings are defended and that's by making them feel small and by slagging them off, the spot light is then on you, but as you said, not all blokes take rejection badly, some of us don't accept it at all and some of us take it as a lesson, its only the weak that get nasty, where the strong will accept but return with a better way of asking or learn a lesson as to pick a better time to ask etc etc,X
Not sure if this posting is just for single guys or if a married guy like me can chime in. Here goes: I've been married for over 15 years. The number of times I've been rejected has long been forgotten as it's probably reached 1000+. At first, I just gave her the benefit of the doubt, like she's tired, she's not in the mood, etc. It wasn't until she rejected me in an angry way, like I was bothering her, that I said, no more. I can take care of my own sexual needs. I made an oath with myself to never initiate sex with her, ever again. If she made advances and I was in the mood, then we would engage in relations.
It wasn't until she started to complain that I never touch her anymore and we're more roommates than a married couple that I told her exactly what had happened. After many years, she asked me to put the beginning of the marriage in the past and she would be more sensitive to my advances. I agreed that the past should be left in the past.
I had warned her when she was rejecting my advances initially, with my being "excited" and with her rejections resulting in my "unexcited" state, I would eventually be impotent. You just can't play around with a person's needs.
So now, I have absolutely no libido. When we do try to get things going, I just cannot be turned on my her no matter how much we both try. My body has adjusted to my own "ways" of satisfaction and no matter how much I try to be attracted to her body, my excitement just poops out.
I wonder if this is why so many guys end up impotent later in life.
I have a lot of resentment that my good years have been wasted. That she and I could be very close sexually and very satisfied. It's just not there and now she's the one begging me, but I just don't have it to give.
If that's the reaction of men after being rejected then it's pretty immature. Maybe he doesn't know how to handle those feelings so he goes with the core of them which is rejection. That says "you're not good enough" and that is something most guys will react badly to.
As for me personally when I do give the cold shoulder it's usually because the female is "searching for closure" and I have to be mean in order to cut the crap. For me, when it's over it's over. There is no need for introspection. I've told them why we won't work out, it's up to them to deal with it...ON THEIR OWN. When I tell them in plain English, "Because your brother is a psycho." Or "Because you clear your throat in your sleep and sound like someone's strangling a LLama." Then I don't want to read a text: "...but why?!?" That's when I get mean.
It's just a matter of how you deal or dealt with the breaking up.
It is psycological I guess.
If one makes a move one becomes vulnerable, the woman has a choice, it is your decision to accept or reject him. For most men this vunerability turns into pain and a loss of ego. Overall not a nice feeling. People deal diffrently when they don't feel good. Some just ignore you and try to move on quickly (like me). Others, usually angrier people overall, may push back or respond unkindly. It is just their primitive way of trying to regain their confidence by showing how mean/angry they can be.
The only time I act mean after a rejection is if the girl was mean rejecting me..
Like some girls just ignor guys.. That pisses me off..
But on the flip side I've had several girls be nice & kind when they reject me.. I'm nice and kind back..
And cold shoulder is usual.. Back stabbings not..
Its primal.. You rejected us so we move on.. To Find somone who won't reject us..
If you don't want the cold shoulder then don't reject..
Backstabbing.. Ya that's when a girl basicly calls you a loser and askes questions like.. Why would I date you..
guy don't understand that women work differently to men and that they can pull a complete 180 on a guy for no seen reason. When guys reject a woman it is usually for a logical reason, for example "she is a gold digger" "she has a huge booger hanging from her nose" they usually don't reject women because of "feelings" so when a woman "randomly" rejects them they think that the woman must think there is something wrong with them and if a guy thinks that they are at very least good enough for a girl they get angry because who the hell do you think you are thinking I am not good enough for you, I have A. B. and C.
Most guys don't understand the only thing that matters is how much emotion a woman feels from having A. B. or C. or not needing to have those at all to create intense emotion. It doesn't compute for most guys
I've only ever given one girl the cold shoulder and that wasn't because she rejected me by making up a lame excuse of being busy.
It was because she acted hot and cold with me afterwards and it made me feel awkward, confused and frustrated. At times it felt like she being around me more often than not to catch my attention in order for me to ask her out again or she really wanted to tell me something but was too shy to do so and then other times it felt like she was avoiding me and in the end I just stopped saying hello to her, I stopped smiling at her like I did before and after she rejected me.
Occasionally I will say hello to her, give her half a smile and then I go back to walking past her like she's a stranger.
Am I childish? Yes. Am I being immature? Yes and is my treatment of her nice? No it's horrible, but I am doing it to protect my heart and clear my mind.
Ha! This goes equally for women
and the #1 reason is
1. Coverup - if you can destroy the ex, so goes their credibility as well, any stories they have on you are considered BS and you become the hero victim that never did anything wrong & God, how you tried to make it work
2. Closure - tired of all the/your BS, drama, irritations = wounds that used to be salved by love, sex, etc. are now open & sensitive to probing, even gazing ... so keep your distance or I will BARK at you
The above addressed a relationship rejection.
Below addresses a stranger making a pass.
1. Sour grapes - the story of the fox that can't reach teh grapes says they must be sour away applies as well to cats that stalk their prey, then discovers the prey could cause much damage to them, so ignores & pretends interest in something completely different
Its not your fault you don't like them. They just feel hurt when the feeling is unrequited. If they are childish (like me xD) they'll respond defensively and attack back out of insecurity. Wouldn't blame them though, to them it's like they've been betrayed or stabbed in the heart. And some times they are just afraid to like you again so they act all mean and cold.
Having been through it myself, I'm pretty much done trying and see no point in trying anymore, people call me negative all they want, but i call it as seeing how it is. Nobody likes being rejected, man or woman, but it is what it is. I've changed to a point where what's left of any aspects of empathy or kindness is just gone. Only a ruthless aspect remains. No remorse or sympathy from me on my protective self's behalf. As a matter of self preservation. Doing what I must. I do what i do now, rejecting feelings of others because they mean nothing to me, so what I went through never happens again. Us guys do that, so it never happens again.
I personally don't do this but just speculating. It might depend on how he was rejected. Some women are mean when they shoot down a guy. So if they get treated bad in return, well that might be Karma.
But guys do have emotions which he may show in the oddest of ways. Most guys aren't as superficial as women and will get to know them before they decide if they are a good fit or not.
Cold shoulder should be understandable to you... You told him you don't want him in your life, so you are no longer in his life. That's not mean, that's what you asked for. He's just moved on. You get no more attention.
I'm not guilty of it, but I know why they do it.
Rejection hurts. That's their way of responding to hurt. They try to hurt you back.
There are ways to reject a guy without trying to hurt him. Many girls don't bother trying though.
And yes, there are guys who will be hurt at any rejection no matter how its done. But those guys are immature a**holes.
I'm not sure why you lump 'cold shoulder' and 'backstabbing' together. Cold shoulder is completely normal and reasonable. You are not interested in what he was.
some of these guys have either been single for a very long time or maybe their whole life, and they can't stand it anymore, they feel something is wrong with them after being rejected too many times
well what do you expect to get? every time I have asked a girl out or told her I like her I always get the feeling she feels insulted by that. how should I react? I just give her the f*** off expression and carry on with my life.
As a guy, I've faced rejection before. I ignored females who rejected me, mainly if I had to some how see them a lot. (went to school together, worked at the same place.) Not out of anger, but more of it made me feel dumb afterwards. Putting yourself out there only to be rejected. Plus I also felt like I gave the girl the upperhand, now she can go talk to her girl friends about the guy she rejected.
I was mean and angry to my ex but I didn't show it, acted politely. But why in the world would I be nice to her if she was dishonest, disrespectful, cheated on me and got engaged with that guy?
because women should know their place, if a woman expects to hurt a guy's feelings and get away with it, she's not all that intelligent to say the least and she'd better be prepared to pay the ultimate prize, karma's a bitch, then again so was she
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