My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 16. We are now 24, and have been living together for just over 6 years. It has been tough as sometimes you can't help but wonder if you've missed out on something or you wonder if you'll regret not taking time for yourself.
To make a long story short, our relationship has been really difficult lately. We are both unsure of how to make things better or if they can be made better. Mostly, it is me who is so unsure. Then I met a guy through a team I am on and we became good friends. We flirted but it was innocent. We both agreed it was just nice to have someone to talk to and give us a nice break in the day. Unfortunately, one time while together we just went too far and made out. I regretted it instantly! I have no idea why I didn't stop it as I should have known better. Either way, whats done is done. And now I am left feeling so guilty and ashamed, as I should.
Since then, I have come to realize that as routine and mundane as our relationship can be, I really don't want to lose it. I feel as though I have been extremely selfish and took advantage of what I had.
Now all I want in my heart is to make things right, and to put more effort into what we had.
My question is, do I tell him what happened? I know it will hurt him so bad and I hate to make him suffer for my mistake. On the other hand, I feel in order to move forward I need to be honest with him.
Any advice please??? :(
To make a long story short, our relationship has been really difficult lately. We are both unsure of how to make things better or if they can be made better. Mostly, it is me who is so unsure. Then I met a guy through a team I am on and we became good friends. We flirted but it was innocent. We both agreed it was just nice to have someone to talk to and give us a nice break in the day. Unfortunately, one time while together we just went too far and made out. I regretted it instantly! I have no idea why I didn't stop it as I should have known better. Either way, whats done is done. And now I am left feeling so guilty and ashamed, as I should.
Since then, I have come to realize that as routine and mundane as our relationship can be, I really don't want to lose it. I feel as though I have been extremely selfish and took advantage of what I had.
Now all I want in my heart is to make things right, and to put more effort into what we had.
My question is, do I tell him what happened? I know it will hurt him so bad and I hate to make him suffer for my mistake. On the other hand, I feel in order to move forward I need to be honest with him.
Any advice please??? :(
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You guys need a break. You have not had the chance to be with other people. Experiment with others. Yes tell him the truth because it all comes out in the end. If you love him, love him enough to tell him. Then give yourself and your BF some time to date other people. If it was meant to be you will work through it and appreciate each other more. Then the relationship will not be so boring to you. You can't make anything right if you don't have honesty. Sometimes you don't realize what you have until it's gone.
Yes, be honest with him and tell him how you really feel. If you guys talk it out and agree to stay together, then your relationship will be even stronger. By the way, you guys illustrate why you should not get that serious so young. You always feel like you missed out on something later on.
YES TELL HIM! The exact same thing happened to me and it made it WORSE that I didn't tell him.
1. It made me seem like a coward.
2. It hurt his reputation.
3. He had to hear it from other people so a lot of rumors got overrun.