It's simple: you need to tell him that you don't have sex with a guy unless you are in a committed, exclusive relationship with him for a while. Chances are when he hears that, he's going to start ignoring you, because all he's likely after is sex. And guys just after sex do NOT want to hear about commitments, monogamy, and waiting.
All you really have to do to protect yourself from guys like this is tell them this up-front, and then stand by it. It's like garlic to a vampire.
Of course, that means a lot of guys that initially hit on you are going to run away, and some of those will be guys that you LIKE (or think you do), but that's how it is supposed to work. The POINT is to filter out the guys who aren't interested in relationships, and that means that the guys who get filtered out will run away. But the ones who remain will almost always be the guys who are serious about a relationship.
You need to understand that a lot of guys are just out to get sex, and many of them have no problem lying and telling a girl what she wants to hear in order to get it. This is one of those times where you simply can't allow shortcuts, and where you need to let their ACTIONS speak instead of their words.
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To answer your first question, yeah sometimes. At least, I would suspect they do. I mean, I feel bad when I go on dates out of sheer boredom but I don't think players think that much about it. For me I feel bad because sometimes I know they really like me but I'm just more in the mindset of having fun (not necessarily sexually) so I hope that us hanging out doesn't give off the idea that I am looking for something serious.
As for your second question, you can't make someone want to get to know you. If that's not already there, you can't instill it. Don't waste your efforts trying to make it happen nor get your hopes up. Go into the situation expecting the least.
same thing happened to me and I walked away from him...i wanna be with someone who loves me and wants to get to know me
He doesn't seem to real want to get to know you there for I don't think he wants anything serious.
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It sounds like you both don't truly relate. Even if he did have an interest in who you are, it sounds like he's not interested in starting off by forming a friendship. This usually means he wants just sex. It sounds like you want a lot more.
Players never care about a girl's feelings. My best friend's brother is one. I used to talk to him quite a lot, and he even bluntly admitted that he doesn't care about a girl's feelings. All he wants is some p*$$***.
your a sex object to him
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