I think that this is an unfair assumption... and you know what they say about assuming.
It's definitely depending on the guy. For example, my ex was very emotionless. He once in a while said things that could have been taken and emotionally driven but in the end it was obvious that they weren't.
My current boyfriend is the one that speaks his mind and tells me how he feels - it's about communication. Not necessarily emotions. He calls me emotionless sometimes because I have a hard time communicating how I feel because of my ex. Healthy relationships require communication and to be very honest, we women sometimes don't say how we're feeling when we're upset and we automatically think that a man should know what's wrong.
LMFAO. Yes I know what you mean ^_____^
But that is how guys are. It's not a reason but honestly that is how they are. Unless they are passionate about something or irritated/upset they aren't going to say anything. If you force them then yeah they will but it might come with a bit of aggravation or anger. hahhaa.
It can be funny at times but highly annoying when you want to talk about something or have them express how they feel. Some guys are not like that but others are. It does drive mi up the wall though when you want a real answer instead of their one word or one sentence but oh yeah they mean business when you get two sentences. lol.
Guys are taught early to not broadcast their emotions as obnoxiously as women. I actually like that about guys. And most guys will tell you how they "feel" or think if you just ask. They're pretty literal with what they say, so I don't know why shorter answers are a problem for you. They just don't always elaborate like some women do.
Studies have shown that even today, parents discourage boys as young as 3 or 4 from expression emotions while encouraging girls too.
Boys are basically taught that their emotions don't matter - to other people or themselves. So not only do they not express them very well (compared to women) but they actually are often not very aware of their own feelings, beyond very strong broad general ones (angry, happy, horny).
So they don't really know what they're feeling, they're not used to thinking about it, and they actually aren't capable of telling you what they are feeling.
Guys communicate plenty. We just don't communicate about every little thing like girls do. We don't need to, not everything is that important.
It's like asking why guys don't like to argue with girls. Because we know we can't win. You remember everything we've ever said or you said to us and we can barely remember what your families names are.
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We only appear emotionless. That's a huge difference. We don't let it all outside unlike girls do it but it doesn't mean we don't feel anything.
And contrary to a popular belief that it's because we are raised that way, no - it's not true. It's natural. Guys become way more in control of their behavior and emotions when they become adults in comparison to how they were like as kids, for example not crying anymore, and so on.
..of course that doesn't apply universally, as not everyone actually grows up, but it's not their fault.
For most of us, it's because we're brought up that way. Raised to be tough, not to cry, not to be weak, etc. There's actual science to it, I'll put it simply: you know how your memory can get worse or better depending on whether you exercise it or don't use it at all? Being in touch with your feelings kind of works the same way. The more you neglect it, the less you're able to tap into that ability when you really need it (like when you and a partner are having a problem).
You think women are any easier to talk to? Why do you think websites like this exist.
Your question pre-supposes that men are the ones in the wrong. I could equally say that it is women who have a problem of being over-emotional.
Perhaps there *really* is a difference between men and women, and we will ALWAYS have those differences.
Men tend to use fewer words than women. Be grateful for that.
I cried at the end of Toy Story 3 in the theatre.
Just Saying...
also...
I'm not gay.
Not that there's anything wrong about dude on dude action, just not my thing...
simply making a point that I'm a man's man. I itch my balls, I pick my nose, I laugh at flatulence, and I love a good steak... yet, I ball like a bitch to kids movies :(
First of all, we do communicate and we only require one word answers, but women twist our words into crazy meanings, then complain that we are confusing.
We also aren't emotionless, we are actually quite emotional, we just know how to control our emotions better than women so we rarely let them show.
it is not as if they are emotionless. it is just that sometimes they see and understand things differently than a women. they might not find it as emotionally stimulating as a women. so they appear emotionless. I don't know. its a theory I made up right now
alot actually don't act like that it sounds like youve been around a lot of people who may seem emoitionless. those who act like that probably still have the same pain,joy,guilt,insecurities,ect as you do, but like I said many men don't act emotionless and can give deep, caring responses
Look most guys will appear to be strong and lack emotion, but deep inside we all hurt and feel pain just like you girls do. It's only that girls tend to show their emotions very easily, whilst it might come across as "too feminine" for a guy to do this. Many guys do show their emotions but then many girls don't like this. So its kind of like a catch 22 situation at times. But trust me saying that guys are emotionless is 100% untrue. Do not ever believe us guys are like this.
If we're being one-worded, we ain't interested...guys, like girls, aren't that different from each other as much as you think,
Also, isn't this a generalization. Look up Roy Kahn. You'll know what I mean
I believe that they have their own ways of expressing their emotions/ feelings.
I notice that a lot of male artists, musicians, and singers express their emotions and feelings through what they do best.
sometime i could hapend like me i suffer with chronic depression and it left me "emotionless" its like if you want to care but you just can´t, and everything looks numb, sometimes we depress our self's with a lot of situations , its very hard to explain, i have been like this for almost 7 years.
The question isn't "why are men so emotionless?"
The question is "why are women so emotional?"
Because they usually get friend-zoned or labeled as too overbearing or whatever if they show too much emotion.
Hm... Most guys I know show emotion. I absolutely adore their femininity side.
Because if we are emotional we are p******, desperate and weird.
Guys learn very quickly if they communicate and show emotion they just get friendzoned.
Because there is little if any upside in expressing what will be weaponized against us. Women say they want a man in touch with his feelings until of course they find one then they destroy him.
Society teaches men to hide their emotions and always put on a strong face.
Why do the insecure girls always generalize?
It be like that sometimes.
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