What Guys Said 7
95% chance that your "guy friend" liked you and felt like you used HIM for 3 years as he got nowhere with you, before he finally snapped and did whatever he did to hurt you. That would explain why he no longer cares about how you feel.
Girls: if you have single "guy friends", chances are very high that they are your friend only because they want something more (sex for sure, but often a relationship), and that's why they hang around and listen to your problems and give you advice and so on. Often, they hope and assume that becoming your good, close friend will increase their chances of making you their girlfriend. But let's be honest: you and I both know it almost never works like that, because you "don't want to ruin what we have." But the only reason you HAVE what you have is because he has always hoped for more. And so at some point, he's going to realize that it's never gonna happen, and then he is going to feel used and bitter for wasting all of that time and attention on you.
This does NOT apply to a guy who has a girlfriend or who has an active dating life; that guy can be your friend without such motivations. But if he's single? No way.
so what's the story? I've met PLENTY of girls the very same way too.
i have never done that to women and men. I am not a kind of person who likes to oppress someone and take benefit from them and then ignore them, leave them suffer their pain.
but I know how painful it is to be used by someone you used to trust. I was used by people too although I was being nice.
We can probably name 100 reasons why he did that.But only HE knows why he hurt you in such a bad way.Be strong.
Human nature,life experiences,harsh/difficult current situation,wrong mindset,false information,not interested anymore,has always been an ass"w"hole,was just messing around with you,was forced to.
Because we men think rationally and not as much with our emotions. Usually. That's why you see a lot of men running businesses because we tend not to be emotional. Things are easier without emotions. He probably feels something but won't tell you and don't pry, he won't like that at all. And if he doesn't ever say anything then just add him to your mistake list ( the mistake of guys you dated) and move on.
What Girls Said 1
i know how you feel.
and I find the whole "guys aren't good with their emotions" excuse pretty lame. that doesn't stop you from being a mature adult & a decent person.
eventually you'll get over it. sounds impossible because you're hurting right now (I know...i've been there too) but in time things will be better.
some people are just inconsiderate, selfish, and hurtful & there's nothing you can do about it.