Okay this may be a long answer but this is something that hits close to home for me so I've spent a lot of time thinking about it.
There are many factors that may be involved here. Sometimes it may be perception and sometimes it may be reality.
Here's how it's often perception: A lot of times when I see someone unattractive that seems just quiet I automatically assume that maybe their just really insecure and shy. It's just my subconscious reaction. BUT when I see someone really attractive I might tend to believe that they are snobby or generally cocky.
I think this happens a lot to attractive people... many people don't give them the benefit of the doubt.
Alot of times when we see an attractive person doing anything aggressive or rude we assume it's because their arrogance comes from their looks. If it was an ugly person we might assume it's because of the way they were raised or their just nasty people but society always tends to assume ALL pretty people behave the way they do because of their looks. Obviously it's only natural for society to do that because it's all they can see.
The second part is reality. Sometimes pretty people are harsh and guarded. I can vouch that this is something that happens from the way you are treated a lot of times.
I've always been told I should model and I get compliments on an hourly basis. In a lot of ways its like the abundance of attention has made it lose any value to me. I see my looks as more of a pain than anything because of all the problems its brought.
Girls always get catty and jealous. Even if they have a great boyfriend and are content with their life, I've had girls try to sabotage me from having even a date. Even the girls I've tried to be friends with say jealous, rude things on a regular basis. I've had so many girls purposely try to humiliate me in front of guys.
Then there are the guys. My only boyfriend was so cruel to me. I think the thought I could handle it or it was OK because I'm pretty...but it's not. So many guys have tried to cut me down and make me feel ugly or insecure to make themselves feel better.
Not to mention the guys I've had follow me shouting lewd things or flashing me...or groping me. I stay so paranoid about guys in general that I have a hard time opening up to make any real connection with one.
Like I said...I've only ever dated one guy and he was horrible to me.
People like to imagine that if you're attractive you have an unlimited supply of boys, friends, and opportunities but it is almost the opposite in it's own sick twisted way.
So SOMETIMES when I'm harsh or cold...it's truly because I'm scared to be soft and at ease with people anymore.
I know it was long but I wanted you to have a full explanation.
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"My only boyfriend was so cruel to me. I think the thought I could handle it or it was OK because I'm pretty...but it's not. So many guys have tried to cut me down and make me feel ugly or insecure to make themselves feel better. " I find it interesting you say this. I too experienced this. Its a manipulation tactic employed by some people to try to make you settle for less. It happens to really smart/driven/talented girls too.
nah you are just catching us at the wrong the time. We can't win everyone over!
There is always gonna be people who like you and people who hate you or think you are bitchy, whether you are attractive or not. Don't act like you have never seen an ugly girl have a bitchy moment! or maybe you did not notice her because she was ugly.
Its just the fact that an attractive person is gonna have more people noticing them so there are gonna be more people studying that person, admiring that person, and feeling like they are not getting the attention they want from that person, there are also gonna be more people who are like "im so tired of hearing about her, I don't get what is so great about her anyway, I could care less"
I always thought I'm a very nice person, my family loves me and my friends love me, I'm not too social, like I don't always have to be around people, I'm not popular but the people who actually do really know me, know that I am not bitchy at all, I am actually just very silly and can be a huge dork, I use to be really shy but I have opened up a whole lot and am able to meet people everywhere I go. I just thought of myself as a regular person.
but I have had 2 cases of guys telling me otherwise. one guy told me he thought I was really mean and said that I always ignored him, but I honestly just did not know who the guy was, I might of said hey to him one time but I don't remember, maybe I was really busy during the times he attempted to talk to me. I work, go to school, have a life too.
Another guy stalked me, he was really angry at me but I actually remembered this guy. I had small talk with him, just general talking because he was there, I wasn't flirting or anything, I had no real opinion of the guy at the time either. He had sent me a request on Facebook and I accepted and then he goes and likes all of my pics and commented on all of my statuses, and that was actually really annoying. he would say stuff like "you should give me a chance". I would see him at school and feel uncomfortable because of the Facebook thing so I didn't really talk to him, and he could tell that I was avoiding him. One day I was walking with my girlfriends and joking around with them talking about guys I think and this guy comes out of no where all angry at me and says "you are not even that pretty anyway!".
i know that I never try to hurt anyone, I'm not mean and a few times I have had my feelings hurt because of what someone has said about me so I learned to just move on. Real always recognizes real so perhaps the vibes that you get from someone that makes you think they are mean or just incompatible with you is a sign.
they become that way because they usually date and associate with attractive guys and attractive guys are jerks and they treat them badly and then as a defensive mechanism they become mean and bitchy (not vulnerable) to avoid being hurt anymore. It works the other way around with guys too
Its just my theory..I've always thought that when people are mean like that it's because they once were nice and vulnerable but others take advantage of those types of people so in defense they *become* those types of people. I have a friend who is spot on like this she'll try to say the most meanest things but her actions always give her away and I can see right threw it...which is why I usually don't take people that are mean too seriously...
another theory: I think many good looking peoples' personalities get overlooked because everyone only cares about HOW they look instead of WHO they are...i imagine that could be very frustrating..
But of course there are people who are just plain mean..
Thats all my opinion obviously..
Basically I don't know..
Attractive men have it way worse. Pretty women are usually not very nice to them on account of their looks and men hate on them just for being better looking. Of course, there's always people who are extra nice to you because of your looks (for both genders), but these sorts of situations pale in comparison to actual relationships and people's verbal abuse. Attractive women have the benefit of always having people around them who want to date or become friends. Their social status is rarely questioned and when it is, it's always female peers (usually former friends) who are solely responsible. Men are not as easily accepted.
if we are considering extremely attractive women 8's or 9's then there are pretty much two types depending on the availability of men in their social life.
the first is the basic hot bitch expects people to talk to her or about her and generally has shit conversation skills but the interesting thing i have always noticed is a trend bitchy hot girls are ALWAYS sluts (btw a slut is also an attention whore to me it's the same personality trend) all you have to do to sleep with them is act "alpha" lol but i really don't like them so i ignore the hell outa them and funny thing is they like me more because of it...
the second is much less common than the bitch and she is the super over the top nice hot girl they usually come from a small town or had a protective childhood they had the time to develop proper manners and these girls normally act like women not girls you can actually spot them from across the room (at a non nightlife situation) not by their looks but by the aura they bring with them. i mean these girls are so nice they make everyone in their general area happier... this woman is probably the most difficult to obtain as they are never sluts and have a shit ton of attention and i've yet to see or meet one that is what you would consider a "party girl" dated one before it's a bit hard to deal with their huge (and annoying) social circle... i mean i could walk to class (maybe 5 min walk) with her and she would say hi to probably 5 people on average unless she saw a group then more
but anyways i would say 95% of hot "party girls" are bitches 60% of hot girls (not party scene) are rude bitches to ugly guys and 35% are pretty tolerable bitches and that last 5% are unbelievably nice (and in no way bitches)
1. The guys they DO like are pricks.
2. Everyone caters to "their" (beautiful women) demands like servants to a master
3. They put up with a lot of guys after a piece, rather than after their heart
etc
You could postulate many simplistic / complex reasons. A more complex one is the theory of inner group superiority - whereas, being a beautiful women ("hypothetically") around a bunch of women of lesser beauty, she would have an ego boost with no one to "Bring her back to reality" continuously.
The reasons all revolve around the age-old saying that:
A man who has always had strength, will never appreciate it.
But a man who has never known strength, will truly appreciate it's beauty.
~ ArtistBBoy
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Generally speaking, for the same reason good looking guys are often jerks. They're used to getting their way with most people, have been since childhood so they tend to be nice as long as they get what they want. Good looking women are used to having it all their way with men, so perhaps they come across as bitchy and mean simply because they don't take it well when they DON'T get exactly what they want. Simple enough.
That's not to say all good-looking men or women are like that, but a good number of them are.
In general, I'd have to disagree... All the good looking women I've gotten to know have been sweet and surprisingly selfless, although some are admittedly shallow but that's not entirely a bad thing. As for a theory of other women that are not the ones I met that are apparently as you described, I would say it's because they don't have to deal with being rejected very often so they feel they can do what they want. I really wouldn't know.
I wouldn't say that I am bitchy but I think some men can be a little too aggressive and the only way to get them to back off is to give them the cold shoulder. When it comes to being picky... yes in my romantic relationships I am picky but that is because I feel that I deserve the very best relationship. Everyone should feel that way. No one of my close friends of family members or even my ex's would say I am a bitch/shallow/picky or just plain mean.
Good looking women are not bitchy with only aggressive ment though...they are just with everybody
Maybe you should ask yourself what you are doing that attracts these type of women. You can't put a label on all "attractive" women just because it's your experience. Maybe the women you approach are all from the same neighborhood, they grew up with similar values? I'm not sure what would give you such a view but I know it's not 100% true. Maybe you need to venture out into the world and see this for yourself. Either way, I hope you do because it's sad to stereotype anyone and leave them out.
Pretty girls do have to do deal with a LOT of creeps though...guys would be a lot bitchier if they had to deal with creepy nasty girls every day hitting on them and staring at them. Not all pretty girls are bitchy though.
Less attractive girls tend to act grateful for a slice of a guy's attention, which causes a lot of them to act like puppy dogs panting and getting on its hind legs for a scrap of meat (no pun intended). Good looking girls, especially girls who have been pretty for a long time, are not amazed by little stuff. They have been having guys go crazy over them since childhood and are not easily impressed. Everyone is after them for their own agendas so its nothing new to them. It's kind of like being a CEO of a company, you're in a prestigious highly valued position and everyone is clamoring at you wanting a piece of you. It's not that they're always mean and bitchy, but they know the game and have done this song and dance before so what is there to get excited about? Plus we know that as mean and bitchy as good looking women are perceived to be, the majority of men will still prefer them to less attractive women.
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not every good looking girl is mean. and girls that are think there better than everyone else and thinks their perfect so they think everything they say and do is right
They have gotten by on their looks for so long that they never mastered the art of having a good personality.
Assuming that they fit the profile of the question. It doesn't necessarily apply to everyone who's good looking.
Yes of course. Not everyone who is good looking is mean and bitchy, but those that are, fit this profile the QA has mentioned.
Because we generally get special attention which leads to thinking we deserve whatever we want, just like a spoiled child. I'll admit I'm shallow, complicated, picky, and sometimes mean, but I try to keep a handle on it and consider others feelings. And then sometimes you get really pretty girls who are super nice to everyone, so try not to judge just based on appearance(:
if you think a shallow person can be complicated. you're rather stupid.
In all honesty girls like you make me and other guys, want to commit a crime for the way you act. I also feel sorry for your boyfriend or feature husband I, wouldn't want to date you. You sound like one of those rich spoiled brats.
I must admit...at least your honest. So many people that admit that they have the tendency to be shallow and picky, don't admit it. Out of respect, I shall thumb you up for being honest and trying to put a lid on your negative traits. :)
Honestly, they really aren't.
Bitchiness is a sign of insecurity. The bitchiest girls are not the good looking ones - they're the ones who are naturally mediocre looking, but focus all of their attention on trying to make themselves appear more attractive (the type that spend hours on hair, makeup, clothes, etc before going out) because they don't have much else going for them.
Genuinely attractive girls are usually the most friendly, outgoing, kind, confident, etc...
In my experience, a lot of them feel entitled to act that way
I dunno, man, I know a lot of uglyass bitches.
I get asked out and complimented a lot it gets to the point were I can't be bothered, I suppose I act like a bitch cos I'm used to getting my own way with men tbh, I imagine less attractive girls will act nicer if a guy shows them attention as they aren't used to it or because they aren't used to it they jus assume the guy is being friendly and not trying to pick her up. if a guy tells me I'm hot or asks me out I automatically assume he's only after sex as all he's ficued on is my body which makes me be a bitch to him, but that might be just me, I would much rather date a friend I have known for a while as then I know he likes my personality, fat/less attractive girls seem to be happier than girls like me and I sometimes wonder why I worry about my looks so much when they don't seem to care, but its probably because they focus on their inside rather than outside and in the end to a guy that confidence and smile is way more attractive than just a pretty face
yea I agree with what you said.
Im pretty sure any type of girl can be like that.I don't believe looks have anything to do with how people act its the type of person they are.
Usually good looking guys are shallow and like to lie and play girls really bad soooo... When people are attractive, everyone is after them because let's face it, we're all a bunch of shallow ass holes by nature and we can't quite help it, and so these attractive people come to an understanding that they have lots of options,meaning, they feel like they can treat people however they want and they'll still stick around, and if not, they have infinity other choices anyways. I guess people mean less and are more expendable for them.
But I don't think all attractive people are horrible. It's only when they know they're attractive. And sometimes even then they decided to stay down to earth.
You look marvelous! Absolutely marvelous! Your boyfriend BETTER be good to you!
Aww shucks, thanks! Hopefully one day one will be.
Actually is really rare to find an attractive woman who is down to earth. I have know of 2 that is it, two models who were actually very nice people and they were indeed down to earth. But again they were really rare. In my experience most of them are pricks.
Because they can! Much like why are charming, attractive, are players?
Guys* grrr
We're not all players
Actually according to my experience beautiful women are kind and have good personalities, the bitchy girls usually are dog-ugly but at the same time they think they're the sh*t and have impossibly high standards for men.
Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, and yes - you WILL get a lot of crap for saying what you did.
It's probably difficult to be humble when you get guys sucking up to you, and people admiring you for a good portion of your life.
On the flipside, read this question that I asked a long time ago on this site. It's one of the most popular questions I ever asked:
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It isn't all rosy being a (to your culture's standards) physically attractive person.
Well if you really get to know them not all are like that some might be like that at first because they don't know you yet. I thought you ment their facial experssion looks bitchy or mean,because I notice that too but they just might have a lot going on right now or dwell on the past.
Why would anyone put up with someone who's bitchy just to see the softer side? it's not worth it
Some people tolerate it
I tolerate it
I'm bitchy but its got nothing to do with my looks far as I know. girls is girls, every one is different, just like guys.
what do you win from this?
What?
you say you are a bitch
because they are allowed to act that way and get away with it. it's acceptable behavior. she can be a bitch to you and you'd still want to have sex with her.
you can't generalize.
weell I just did as generalizations are often more true than not.
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