I'm a feminist and I like to date whole people, not dumb ass sexist caricatures. I'm not going to act that way and neither should he. If you want to cry, cry. I don't mind. I like when guys express their emotions. If you can't cry in front of me, you probably won't be comfortable talking to me openly about how you feel, about how I make you feel in negative ways, about how other people make you feel, about too much of anything and you'll probably just be the type to bottle most things up inside, aside from the "manly emotions". who wants to date that? I definitely dont. I love my dad, he's a great father, but he's kind of like that and my parents marriage fails tremendously in the communication/emotional connection side and its kind of beyond fixing at this point. that's a whole other can of worms, but it does relate to not being able to show emotions in a direct, constructive way. when you bottle the truth up, it always comes out, and sometimes in really nasty, destructive ways that will make your partner hate you in a lot of cases (like my parents).
I definitely am not into the guys who think its not "manly" to cry.
no, no. definitely not for me. I know some women love the macho guy though, the one who doesn't cry over things like this and really only breaks down when things have gone to an extreme.
I would think it was sweet, it shows he has a heart and can feel things like a human being
should.
And, I just have to say one thing, that whole "real men don't cry" bit. Here's how I see it,
I think that "real men" do cry! Because, it shows that he is confident enough in himself
and his masculinity, that he doesn't have give into that whole stereotype.'Cuz, he knows
that he is quote a "real man" and crying doesn't change that. Besides, it's kinda sexy, in
a werid way when a man cry's. Because they don't do it that often and in that moment
they're sensitive and vulnerable and that in it's self is attractive. Especially, since men
try so hard to be strong and brave, it's nice to see them let go and show emotion.
not the notebook ugh lol but titanic, eh maybe. it's sweet when guys are sensitive but unless the movie is really sad he better not be crying because even I don't cry over many movies! lol but I said A. I don't think crying makes him less of a "man," but I also don't find a crying guy all that attractive unless it's something big. if that makes sense. OK now I'm rambling.
Most women would probably find it cute if he tried to hide it but would probably be like "wow he's needy" if he did it very openly and looked to the girl for comfort.
I myself cry at almost nothing. The only things that make me cry in life are serious family messups, which happen once in a while but even then almost never make me cry (maybe once a year lol). Last time I cried it was out of anger in June or something, and before that I broke down in the shower after my parents really ripped on me the whole day for something that wasn't even my fault at all. And that was because of built up stress from months of hard times at home, including a whole bunch of having me try to mediate fights between my parents.
Other than things like that I never cry. I don't understand why something like a movie would make someone cry - it has nothing to do with their life. If it has to do with their life (for example, a movie that reminds them of a deceased love one), sure, that's understandable. But all the other movies that people cry at, it doesn't make sense to me haha.
I won't cry but I will let some tears fall in a sad or touching movie (alone or with a girl...NOT with friends but I'd want to) It doesn't bother me what people say or think about me because I could turn it off quick and break their neck.There's nothing wrong with it, it shows you have emotion and a heart.
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Cute. I would honestly gain more respect and love for him if he's that comfortable around me. However, I would not say anything to him about it or mention that I even noticed, unless he were to bring it up first. From what I've noticed through out my life, is you aren't supposed to acknowledge when a man is crying. lol.
My boyfriend cried whilst watching the Titanic. His crying really only made me love him the more. I just felt like cuddling with him even more.
I think that a guy shows courage and strength if he is able to show his emotions. It shows that he is not easily influenced by societal norms and is confident in himself. :)
Honestly, if he cried during watching the Titanic... Well, I cried when I saw it, but I was 7 years old (>.>). Wow, that would just be so awkward if he started crying during a movie. I mean guys can cry and stuff, but over a movie; really? There have got to be some deep seeded issues or something more going on behind the scenes on that one. Like instead of thinking about the love story and how the character died. If he were to put himself in the shoes of the character and that was the reason that he cried it would be understandable, because no one wants to loose a loved one. Either way, I would still comfort him as he would do for me, but we are going to talk about it the next day :p
I'm not voting, because I don't think it is cute and I don't think he is less of a man, because he could seriously be disturbed by the fact of someone close to him dying.
Just awww is all I can say. That would be so adorable to see a full grown man in a bumbling cry every time he watched a sad movie. It would probably give her that safe feeling & wanting to protect you, take care of you instead of the other way around.
I was just trying to imagine how sweet it would look... & sound, to walk into a packed theatre to see every man balling & the women comforting their men.
I sure wouldn't want to be around him if his pet turtle died though. Being around someone who is screaming, crying & in a uncontrollable state makes me uncomfortable because I wouldn't know what to do...but still adorable.
i don't see myself watching the titanic, or the notebook. not my thing. a documentary on the titanic, sure.
if he cries, he cries. if I'm dating him I already like him. I'm not insane or frivolous. doing one thing can't change me entire view of a person.
anyways tears are good for your eyes.
i don't cry, but I wouldn't have a problem with someone else crying. blubbering.. well,maybe id need to give him some space for a few minutes.
If a guy I liked ended up crying while watching a movie with me I think my heart would melt due to the heat of adoration within it. I would feel more comfortable around him since it does take a large amount of security for a man to cry around a woman. In other words, for him to cry with me around, he would have to be comfortable with me.
One PLEASE stop watching The Notebook, so overrated...two I never finish the titanic because I get so pissed.
YO girl quit being selfish, YOUR ON A DOOR, let your boyfriend hope up on it. She killed Jack.
Two it's sad (kinda but I would rather watch a documentary on it).
I wouldn't be aww but I think it is really sweet...as long as your not talking about the notebook :P
well as long as it is worth crying over, don't be too sensitive though.
I'm not sure I mean it would depend on exactly what he was crying about and if it were just tearing up or actually like crying.. but to be honest the only reason I'd be okay with it is because it shows that he has the same feelings but to be honest I don't want to see those feelings I just want to know they're there... so if he can express with WORDS how something touches him rather than in tears like a female. I'd prefer it lol
I chose b..
im emotionally detached I guess lol.. I hardly ever cry over real life sh*t that effects my life let alone a movie.. If my man cried over a movie idfeel unbelievably uncomfortable and honestly wouldn't look at him the same..
Unless maybe the movie hit really close to home and pulled out some burried emotions from his past
but if he's crying over the movie id be disturbed and embarrassed
We will not watch The Notebook together (I detest it) but if he cried while watching Titanic or another sad movie well I would just fawn over him all night :) that's so sweet <3
He would get so many awwwww babe it's OK *hug hug hug* I love you
Haha that's just one of the cutest things a guy could do
However...sometimes when a guy cries...well I..I don't like it
In this instance it would be adorable
men are so caught up with thinking they are tough and not show emotions and women honestly love and adore to see that side of her guy. My boyfriend has did this so many times. He hates it and claims he is a "bad ass and doesn't cry" but I think its cute so I give him hugs and kisses for it
I would find it a nice expression of emotion and try to cuddle up to him. I wouldn't find it weak, my dad does it too haha. I think that maybe a lot of guys do this? Like for some reason they are more emotionally affected by a sad movie than something sad in real life. But I think because of that maybe the sad movie triggers other feelings or something? Maybe I am overanalyzing haha. But I would certainly find it cute and it's always nice to comfort someone when they're sad.
My fiance cried while watching hatch I and I was glad. We have 3 dogs that run our lives and it shows he had a heart, who wants an emotionless prick "I am man, man not cry".
I hated titanic so I'd sincerely hope he wouldn't cry, the notebook, blah, but I know he found atonement depressing as f***
Unless he was the one who wanted to watch that sort of movie, we wouldn't watch it in the first place. I have a strange, unnatural dislike for all "romance" and "chick flicks" movies. Therefore, if he decided to watch, I would find it natural if he cried. I would think it's cute, and I wouldn't think its weak.
Better hope you guys don't get ran up on by someone with bad intentions.. he might cry! And to all you girls who say you would hug him and your heart would melt you are bold face liars! This girl is asking the question because her fantasy became reality and she was turned off..real men cry when their girl is not around!
My last guy was emotionally the woman in the relationship... he just talked about a sad movie and would get misty eyed. I didn't cry ever (well, sometimes yes. But compared to him not ever. ha.) but not at movies or anything. I always wanted to comfort him and felt bad because he was crying. But at the same time I was kinda like... "really? Its fake, I am not even crying."
Well since I don't cry during sad movies or really ever because they always leave me with bad migraines... I'd be thrill that I didn't have to try to be the emotional one in the relationship. You always need one person who's very connected to their emotions and one who's not so much I believe to make a relationship work.
I don't cry during those movies, tbh they really don't do the emotional thing well to me. But there are other movies that can get me to tear up. Many things that I think do the playing of emotions a lot better. Things that have the music set better, the acting better, etc. Not sure what I could answer. But I don't think I've ever full on cried. And I'm not really ashamed of it. It is what it is. I'd rather feel than not lol.
Well, regarding your two examples (Notebook and Titanic), I've never seen either of those movies, so I can't comment there.
However, I will say that I have cried from watching movies. The two that immediately come to mind are "The Fountain," and the Grey Havens scene near the end of LOTR: The Return of the King. Every time I watch ROTK (I've seen the trilogy several dozen times), I tear up during that scene.
And I have NO SHAME admitting that.
I chose A because guys rarely show their emotions. I like when a guy shows his emotions because it tells me that he cares and has feelings too. Now I just read your update..haha that would be hilarious! We would both fight over the tissues. I prefer him to cheer me up when I cry but that doesn't mean it's a turn off when he cries with me.
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