Yes. I have been asked by many girls why I am not getting a girlfriend . People keep asking me why I am single.. they keep asking me why don't I approach the girl I like.. the past two relationships that I had it was that the girl was already attracted to me so it as easy for me and I didn't do any effort.
Well.. it is simple.. I have what they call.. ''Avoidant personality disorder''.. shy, avoidant, low self esteem among other things.. Its hallmark is anxiety and being too much sensitive to opinion or perceptions of others.
You would see me and meet me and I would look absolutely normal to you .. yesterday I danced Salsa with a very hot girl . I invite people to my place and have fun.. but this stuff that I do is like lifting a huge weight ... it is like trying to walk with 40 kg extra ... so the average guy who doesn't have this issue is ahead of me in experience and easiness in relationships.. while I am a late bloomer. I have been raised religiously and expressing sexual interest in a girl was like dirty stuff in how I was raised. I am working with myself now and slowly making progress.
If you fancy a guy... and he is shy... take it easy on him.. but don't compromise yourself , I mean .. there are shy guys that are a**holes as well. It is not your responsibility to fix people.. just be fair to them and give them a fair chance .
Funny, I am also 26 and would lump myself in this category. I can't go up to a girl and talk but I've never even "had" to. But that doesn't mean I have it made. Girls always seem disappointed in something about me and I'm not sure the problem. I never really gain experience from experiences either.
Absolutely! Just like it can be surprising to some how more unattractive or overweight people can be extremely experienced. It's all about where you come from and how you're raised. It's always endearing to find those attractive males who don't know it or are just innocent. There aren't enough of 'em!
Yes it's definitely possible. I have a friend who is the best looking guy I've ever met, smart, established (house, car, job etc), lovely guy and he's really shy and inexperienced with girls.
*Can* but I've never met one. I'm talking about really good looking though, not some medium good looking guy.
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I am very inexperienced and still a little shy. Women showing signs of attraction or interest is also completely new. For some reason, it wasn't until after I turned 25 that it started to happen. I am 26 now. My father was a pretty good looking guy when he was younger and I really resemble him, so I would say I'm a good looking guy myself. I'll leave the 1-10 scale nonsense to other people, though.
Ya actually a lot of attractive people are actually really shy.
I think guys are more prone than women are to being late bloomers in the dating game
Yeah. I'm sure there is a decent amount of people like that
I am definitely in his category. Hate it so much.
It is indeed a stupid question. The answer is yes.
It's possible esp if he had ugly duckling syndrome
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