there is this guy I really like and his friends said that he likes me too, but he never tells me this, because he is so reserved and shy. How can I break the ice with him to make him feel more at ease or at least comfortable with being real with me?
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Im 23, he is 28... we have hung out like 3 times in a small group, but he is still introverted... (I don't get it because according to his close friends, he likes me, he's just kind of shy...) WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HIM OPEN UP MORE?
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Ask him for help in something. I think that is a best way to approach a shy guy and take the pressure off of him by being a conversation that is not about him liking or you liking him. If you two are in a class, ask him for help on homework or assignment. Maybe you would end the first conversation there. Then, the next time you see him you begin again with the common topic and then progress to getting to know each other like asking him about what he hobbies or interests he has and then tell him about yours. Maybe you should do more of the talking since he is shy and he will be able to feel more comfortable.
Yeah, we have no classes together. I'm in college, he isnt, he is 28 years old and he is still shy. I'm 23. What I'm saying is I have already tried this, and I'm starting to think he just doesn't like me anymore or something. I try, because I know shy guys give up easily if their confidence is low. But no matter what I do he is still shy, its irritating me because I really like him and the last thing I want to do is make him feel awkward. *How does a guy know if a girl really likes him?
After reading your other comments and since you don't have classes together, I think you should ask him out because like you said he might not have confidence and you know he will probably say yes since his friends have told you that he likes you. But I would recommend not asking him out on a traditional date like movie or a dinner. Instead, you should ask him to hang out in those words for shopping or going to a concert or doing something that he likes or ask his friends what he likes to do.
i have the same problem with a shy GIRL. it's easier than you think, if you just talk to him about safe stuff (doesn't matter what it is) he'll begin to warm to you. he'll still be shy but he'll be more open to talking to you. make sure you smile, it really helps I think.
be careful though, I think shy people can be hurt quite easily, even by accident, so don't ignore him or anything, even if you're having a bad day. I think I did, and I've gone back a step with her.
Go up and talk to him. Just be slow, ask him how is it going. Ask him for help in math. If you can, do it if you guys can be alone.
We have already hung out a couple of times, we met through our mutual friend. Me and him talk, but I can tell he is holding back. He has complimented me a couple of times but he gets all awkward afterwards, and he hasn't asked me for my number, but his close friend said that he wanted to.
We don't go to school together.
Ah so you guys know each other better... just ask him out for a cup of coffee...
Yeah, thanks, ill try that.