When I break up, the relationship is over, completely and totally.
That doesn't mean I won't be sad or upset about it, but it does mean that there's no going back. I don't call, text, email, or check their social media. If I see them in person, I'm polite, but I don't really engage in conversation.
Why?
Because that's how you get over someone and move on. I'm not about dwelling on a past that I can't change, or a relationship that obviously failed (note: I don't mess around when it comes to break-ups; they're SERIOUS, so I don't break up over little stuff).
Women have a tendency to want to "stay friends" with their ex's, and most assume that's going to happen. BIG MISTAKE, both because it's naive to believe that you CAN remain friends without constantly dealing with your feelings, which prevents you from moving on, and because it's almost never going to happen anyway. Your assumption should ALWAYS be that the day you broke up is the last day you'll ever speak to that person, because that's usually the truth.
depends on the guy. depends on the depth and length of the relationship...
but most of us will think about the girl to a point afterward. it's impossible to say whether he is happy, relieved or sad, since we don't know the guy but I'm sure he think about you to some extent...not necessarily in a longing way or ding dong the witch is dead kind of way but it's nearly impossible to just not think about someone you had a relationship with
Often men convince themselves to feel relieved soon after a breakup, but then the feelings start to sink in later. This is why men are notorious for leaving those drunk, sad voice mails months after a breakup when you thought he didn't care.
We are more likely to feel sad initially, then get over it. Give it time to know how he's feeling.
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my ex broke it off with me, in the worst way possible. left for another man she barely knew and she got burned in the end. 3 months later she comes crying back to me with her sob story about her current ex boyfriend and what a nut job he turned out to be. all the while she's still trying to say she still loves me. I just flat out told her I could never trust her again and that I could never take her back she tried justifying her actions but there is no justifying cheating. if you want to break it off with someone, break it off, don't try and break their heart as well. at least you didn't cheat. I was quite the melting pot of emotions, mostly anger. I never cried about it, why would i? why would I cry for a skank? lots of anger, at myself, at her, at that weirdo she chose over me whose about 10 years older. sure I was no angel in the relationship but I never cheated. I've tried being her friend afterward but I just couldnt, thinking about her and the whole situation pissed me off. the anger turned out to be greater than my wanting for a friendship with her. we've had good times together but when she cheated put a knife in my back that I can't get over. still pisses me off thinking about it lol. I don't like being angry so I just cut her out of my life completely.
The prevailing feeling is usually relief, followed by excitement to get the next chapter started. I guess there is a little saddness that you've come to the end of something-if it was something good. But most of the time, I was mentally over it by the time the break-up happened. I always wish them well and can be cordial as long as they are cool and not feeling vindictive/pissed off at me.
You did the adult thing after the break-up. I'm guessing that he broke up with you (just from the way you describe things). You should work on doing things that make you happy now, and not wasting time thinking about your ex.
Guys generally don't bother looking backwards at exes. There is nothing to be gained by it.
It can be different if the guy is immature and she was his only girlfriend to date. Then it's possible he can be a bit of a clingy milksop, but only because he has no other experiences to compare it to.
For a guy who has dated a couple of girls, leaving another one behind him really doesn't mean much, no matter if she dumped him or he dumped her. He knows there will be another one along shortly, and there is nothing to be served by looking backwards.
If you ran for a bus, and missed one, but got the one that came 10 minutes later, how often would you spend pining for the bus that you missed? The one that got away?
If I ever break up, I would be really devastated. Going into a relationship with high hopes, it is really devastating to have hope come crashing down. Nothing that great can end that tragically. That is just saddening. Yeah, I would think about the girl. A lot.
Even if there was a break up, if I had a girlfriend, I would not want the girl to beg. If there was a break up, it probably happened for a good reason, and getting back together would just start up the problems that occurred the first time around. If you haven't addressed the problems, then getting back together doesn't work.
That being said, if a girl wanted to get back together with me, and I could see her feelings were hurt, and I also wanted to get back together, I would. I know conflict management.
Don't really care. We broke up, its time to move on. Her begging is just going to start making me think about her again, which is not what I want when I'm trying to get over her.
If he really liked you, he would have tried to reconcile by now. Just move on.
If he broke up with her, then he doesn't think about her much at all, because he was over her before he broke up with her in the first place.
If she broke up with him, he'll think about her for months to years, depending on how invested he was in the relationship and how unprepared he was for the break.
well it sounds like he split with you yes?
in which case why would he feel bad about breaking up with you?
he WANTED to split with you...
hes probably releived you arnt begging.
noone wants to deal with a begging ex
Not all guys are the same and won't react the same way. In my case, I would just want to move on. Getting with a new girl helps to forget it. As someone else said, only a noob would consider getting back together if there was a good reason to break up. An adult would think it through and be glad the right choice was made.
In all honesty, this kind of treatment will be killing him, there's no way he will be taking this well, and although he has not bothered getting in touch, you can bet your his every thought,x
After such a break up, I'd probably be relieved and happy and go on with my life. Will I forget you, of course not, but I won't be missing any sleep or get back together with you.
This probably sums it up perfectly link
If it wasn't for the sex we wouldn't put up with that much craziness.
Varies from person to person...if that guy was serious about the relationship I'm sure he will think about that girl...if it was just the usual one he would think ahead
Same way you girls feel when the situation is opposite. It's not just about being the guy or the girl, cause we're human.
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