You meet a guy and really start to like him... then you find out he has lots of friends that are girls. He tells you that they are all completely platonic...what do you think? Do you think he's gay? A player? A good guy that just hasn't found the right girl yet?
I would tend to think he was a player, especially if he was affectionate with them. I would also look at how the female friends related to him. If they treated him like a brother, that's cool, but if they were all flirting with him and teasing him, then it wouldn't feel okay with me. I'd find another guy to date.
Hmm... well I live in a student house... all girls apart from 1 boy... he has way more female friends than male friends, and he is definitley not gay (he is going out with one of my other house m8s ya see)! So he could just get along better with girls? Doesn't have to mean he is a gay, a player or anything bad! x
Depends what he is like, I know one guy who only has girl friends but he does actually act gay, if a guy only has girl friends I would think he is gay. But if he has girl friends along with male friends I wouldn't think he is gay. And there is nothing wrong with having lots of girl friends but personally I wouldn't be able to date a guy like that because I am a really jealous person.
I have lots of friends who are girls. I'm not gay. (I have a few gay friends, too.) I dislike "players" and have never cheated on any of my previous girlfriends. I'm not secretly trying to hook up with any of my female-best-friends.
I don't think this makes me a "good" or "bad" guy, it just means I have lots of female friends! It's actually pretty cool - they give me advice about girls and dating and sex, and they tell me all sorts of stuff that I would have never figured out on my own :)
3- a "nice guy" who's hanging around these girls and acting like an emotional tampon after they get dumped by an endless series of "jerks", because he's terrified of rejection and afraid to ask them for a date, and who is hoping that one of the girls will eventually fall in love with him because they say he's such a catch, and thinks that going shopping with them and watching their dog when they're out of town is the way to a girl's heart rather than asking them on dates.
That guy with all the girls just might be the dominant male. Girls only act like sluts with the dominant male because they know they can. Just because a guy has a lot of girls doesn't mean he's gay; he just might be really popular or just fun to hangout with. Maybe just a guy with a bright future. The grass just might be greener.
You said it yourself there are three possibilities, gay, player and good guy. The best way to go about it is to figure he is a good guy and when he throws you a red flag towards the player or gay direction then call him on it, especially if he said himself he is the good guy that hasn't found the right girl yet( it could be true)
Wooo..Wooo...Wooo..Just cause a guy has a lot of girl friend doesn't mean he is gay. Maybe he is a real ladies man and not a player. I'd say I have to go for the guy that hasn't found the right girl. I have a lot of friends that are girls and it's not cause I'm a player but because I'm nice and I kind of have a protective trait to me that girls like.