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I want my wife to have a lover..Is that selfish?

I fantasized about this since I met my wife. Every time I J.O. I think about her getting pounded by another guy. I love her and would never want her to leave me. I want her to have the excitement of being desired and the option to do as she pleases. She is my world..I try each day to please her both in bed and around the house,I just can't get it out of my head the image of her getting off on another guy. I am not small at all BTW and she gets off almost always with me so no issues there. She knows I like the thought, but because she is moral, she prob. won't do this, which is OK. I just feel I am being a jerk for using her to fuel my fantasies. I guess I am wondering how the typical woman would feel if her man wanted her to do this..Insulted, flattered, indifferent? Thanks!
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  • I am a women who's man has the very same interest. I have been with him for 7 years. I have in the last year tried to have affairs. With 3 other men. And my man loves it. How ever... it has left me feeling like trash.. unclean, used, and unattractive, I am suffering from depression and low self esteem now. All of which he is loving the ultimate fantasies... a naughty wife right? In my society women that have more then one partner is concidered a slut and I have been taught from a young age that this behaviour is wrong and it's hard to shake... I wish I could turn back time and take it all back. And keep things as just between us some fun thoughts.. but that's me. My fantasy is that I have a man that wants to keep me as his and sees me as pure secret perhaps even territorial of me.. so it's created a challenge in once was a seemless relationship. And it's now at the end over this... hopefully your partner is comfortable and shares the same fantasies. In that case it would work great. But for those who have two different views and one is doing it just to please there can be more pain the the end then pleasure. So tread slowly

  • Fantasies are meant ONLY to be fantasies. If you allow her to have sex with other men, it will not improve your relationship and could possibly lead to destruction.

    • Possibly... It could possibly lead to her having a grand time and be thankful her husband is not the jealous type. Playing with a loaded gun, I know. But, come on, every girl I have been with has always had a twilight of interest in others...Why not explore that interest? I feel safe, She will come home.. I guess it works out to that I just want her to be happy.What better way to be happy, as a women, than to have a husband at home, doing the dishes, while you are getting an experience.

    • You also run the risk of losing her to the other man. What if she liked him more than you?

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  • Selfish? I think I would use the word "coo-coo" or "insane."

    If you desire her and she gets off when you hump her...AND she doesn't even want to do it, then all the reasons you just gave us are B.S. ...you just have a weird fetish and I don't know any dude out there that would want another man to f*** his girlfriend/wife.

    • Fetish? Sure is. However she has said numerous times that she thinks of multiple men in an office setting all getting thier way with her, and I know she is not the only gal to have those thoughts.. Fantasies can be fun. The reason I put the question in this category is because I am OK with my fantasy(you may not be, but whatever) but I do have concern over how a woman may take it. I don't want her to feel like I am giving her away, rather I want her to feel like I am giving her something.

  • I have the same fetish and I really get off just even thinking about her sending a naugthy text message to her would-be lover.

    To Camilus, it may be weird, but there's a lot more of us 'cuckold' hubbies than most people know. This weird fantasy is in the top 5 among married men.

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  • It is more popular than you may think. We have that type of relationship and it is very exciting. She only has sex with them when I am there and we all understand the rules. There is only contact through an e-mail we have together so we both know what is going on. And for me, it is a turn on to see others use her in that way and she gets off because it's a fantasy role play for her, well maybe little more reality, ha ha but still she enjoys it, I do and we know the others do.

  • I told the same fantasy to my wife. First she was surprised and seemed to ignore it. She is a very religious person and a was sure that she wouldn't do it. However, she started to fatasize about sex with other men and that became an obsession. Recently, she pointed to a man and said that she would like to have sex with him. "So, if you don't mind". She is an attractive woman and I think that she will soon seduce him. So, you can see that the feelings of a woman can change over time.

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