The main issue is that women ALWAYS expect men to make the first move, and they assume that men can magically read their mind to know if they like the man or not. Most men go through several rejections before a woman finally says yes (unless the man happens to have the looks of Tom Cruise, the wealth of Bill Gates, or both). With every rejection, a man's confidence goes down a notch. So when he finally meets a great woman, he wouldn't be confident in approaching her, so she would still reject him because 'he's not confident with women'. If he had asked the same woman out earlier (before his confidence hit rock-bottom due to multiple rejections), she would have accepted him.
In recent years, women's expectations for a partner have become TOO high. Suppose a man has 100 good qualities in him but the woman is interested in just one thing different from the 100 he already has, then bam! Rejected. It seem like now it has become almost impossible for the common man to meet women's expectations.
The next major hassle is to maintain the relationship. It is a well known fact that it is MUCH easier for a women to get a boyfriend, than for a man to get a girlfriend. So even if he does all the hard work and finally manages to get a girlfriend, he still has to ensure that she stays with him. For this to work, he has to be on his toes always, and make sure that she doesn't lose interest in him. One wrong step, and she leaves him to look for greener pastures. It is not a big deal for her because most women get asked out within days of a break-up (if she is at least average looking). But the man has to again go through the hassles of approaching women, getting rejected etc. before another woman agrees to date him again. So you see, there is no margin for error at all for a man.
I agree that women face different kinds of issues, some of them really severe. But when it comes to dating and relationships, women clearly have the upper hand and they dictate the terms.
In recent years, women's expectations for a partner have become TOO high. Suppose a man has 100 good qualities in him but the woman is interested in just one thing different from the 100 he already has, then bam! Rejected. It seem like now it has become almost impossible for the common man to meet women's expectations.
The next major hassle is to maintain the relationship. It is a well known fact that it is MUCH easier for a women to get a boyfriend, than for a man to get a girlfriend. So even if he does all the hard work and finally manages to get a girlfriend, he still has to ensure that she stays with him. For this to work, he has to be on his toes always, and make sure that she doesn't lose interest in him. One wrong step, and she leaves him to look for greener pastures. It is not a big deal for her because most women get asked out within days of a break-up (if she is at least average looking). But the man has to again go through the hassles of approaching women, getting rejected etc. before another woman agrees to date him again. So you see, there is no margin for error at all for a man.
I agree that women face different kinds of issues, some of them really severe. But when it comes to dating and relationships, women clearly have the upper hand and they dictate the terms.
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In today's world, if a woman is single, people actually appreciate her by saying things like she's focusing on her career, she's waiting for the right man etc. But if a man is single, he is labeled a loser and is assumed to be having some major flaw.
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P.S. Guys or girls, please don't say 'sex' reason enough for guys to go through all this. Single guys can in fact have a lot more sex that too with different women, like prostitutes of friends with benefits (if they want it for free).
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