Make a Change for the Better, Stop Living in the Past

[Puppylove94]

On GAG I've seen a countless amount of people feeling sorry for themselves. Whether they are fat, ugly, can't get girls, or are just dealt an unfortunate hand. For all of those people, sulking will get you NOWHERE. Commenting on opinions or making questions to make people feel sorry for you is just pathetic. If you're not happy with your life... change it. We have 100+ years on this planet. Today is not tomorrow. This year is not next year. We have the power to change our life for the better.

If you are overweight- get to the gym. I have seen so many overweight people in the gym and it is inspiring. In high school, I was not happy with my body and I know how it feels to walk into a gym insecure. You think everyone is going to judge you: "Why are they even here when they have no hope?", "Damn they're overweight" and etc.

First of all, nobody is thinking that. I think it is very impressive when someone is working hard to change their life for the better. Second, you should be doing it for yourself. Be the best person you can be. One day, you'll be able to look in the mirror and say "Damn I look good".

If you think you're ugly, i guarantee you're not. Every person has the ability to be attractive. You just need to learn how to work with what you have. Don't compare yourself to everyone you see on the streets, that will do you no good. If i compared myself to Jennifer Anniston or Jessica Alba every day, I'd be horribly depressed too. Once again, be the most attractive you can be- and carry yourself with confidence.

Can't get girls? Then maybe take the advice you've seen on GAG, then debating everything. When i see question asking "what i did wrong?" or "why didn't she like me?", people usually debate constructive criticism. This site if for giving and taking advice, so if you have a question- don't expect to always like the response, but instead learn from it.

Dealt a bad hand? I will say that I have been pretty fortunate in my life. However, it is so frustrating when you see a guy be a womanizer just because he hates his mother. Or a girl who sleeps with everyone because her family life sucks and she can't find someone who cares for her. You are not your past. People are judging you here and now- so don't keep making the past happen when you should be making the future happen.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I think too many of us fall down the slippery slope that comes with the mentality of "You should never have to change to get x, y, and z."

It's a romantic idea, but it isn't the truth.

Change is good. Improving yourself is good. Sitting there justifying your bad decisions and everything your lacking only harms you in the long run. I think too many of us are just too lazy to step up to the plate and make the necessary changes to help us succeed. It isn't an easy journey for a lot of them, and it can take time, but everybody has the ability to improve themselves and their situations if they're willing to work at it.

[RJGraveyTrain]

you're** Correcting myself before somebody else does.

[Cosytoasty]

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Good take 👍

Regarding the part about a bad hand, honestly, just by being born in a developed country you have a head start on 6 billion other people. Your problems are not about getting enough water to drink or having an arty shell fall through your roof, they're so trivial and fixable in the grand scheme of things #Justdoit.

[Puppylove94]

thanks :) and yeah thats so true. That would have been a great point to include too.

[madhatters4]

i don't disagree. wallowing in self pity is no way to live

but i also don't think we should empower bully behavior with the notion that the victim of that bullying just needs to live a good life and make a change.

if someone calls a person fat. the target of that attack shouldn't allow those words to hurt them. they should rise above it. but the perpetrator of that attack also should be held accountable for their anti-social bully behavior

[Puppylove94]

I agree. Things should be said in the right way

[Phoenix98]

@Fearless_banana Actually makes a really good and legitimate point we're all dealt a certain card in life or as I like to say hand, and it's all about making the most out of that hand/card, because lets be honest here more often then that life's going to be a crooked dealer and a bitch. So you have to take what your given and turn it into something better, kind of like an investment, you invest in yourself, and you do your best to make that investment worth it, just like you would in the actual market.

[Fearless_banana]

We all get dealt a certain card. It's all about manipulating that card to the best of your abilities to make you into the best version of yourself. I can't stand guys who are living in a self fulfilling prophecies wallowing in self pity.

[Fearless_banana]

Lol at the downvotes. I don't know how people dislike this. I get downvotes for everything I say.

[Puppylove94]

hahaha yeah there are a few people that def don't like you on this site.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Very good points - You can't change the past but you can shape the future

[Puppylove94]

thanks :)

[Polocrew]

> be big jacked athletic, make nerds mad, put jokstrap and war grease on

> Flex and put it on tinder

> Get a big jar and collect pussies

> Oh and keep calling nerds tiny, it make em mad

[Puppylove94]

lol i would expect nothing less from you

[Polocrew]

Oh it's u, tiny

[Puppylove94]

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[Polocrew]

Deez motherfuker, dafuk I spent 7 motherfuking seasons to find out A is dude who turned in chick wtfff

[Puppylove94]

What are you even talking about? Lmao

[Polocrew]

That bitch from pretty little liars

[Puppylove94]

Oh I don't watch that lol you do?

[Polocrew]

No I dont wtf lol gayass show ha

[Puppylove94]

Sureeeee lol

[Polocrew]

Yea right you one posting their gifs

[bradlazer]

"Womanizer because he hates his mother"... first time I've heard that. lol
I get what you're saying tho but sometimes its hard for some people to forget the past and move forward.

[Puppylove94]

lol its actually fairly common... its because they have very little respect for mothers.

[bradlazer]

Well you learn something everyday. 😊

[Anonymous]

This is a good take because I totally agree with you

[Puppylove94]

thanks :)

[Fathoms77]

Self-improvement and ambition! Love it.

Two things woefully lacking in this country right now.

[Anonymous]

You should always remember the past. If people treat you like shit in the past you don't turn the other cheek and forgive them when they now want to be by your side when things are good.

[dudeman]

speaking of the past i just have to say you look exactly like one of my gfs in college. like you could be twins be she looks nothing like you anymore.

[dudeman]

and speaking of the future. where are your genetics from because thats where im moving.

[John_Doesnt]

If I could write a letter to my past self it would read "Dear past Joshua, you were awesome".

[Waffles731]

I've had a crush on you for months
@helloitsmethere
Done

[helloitsmethere]

Omfg, dare completed lol

[Waffles731]

@pupplove94 I don't have a crush on you, this was a dare.
You are totally not my type either, Way too blonde and pale

[helloitsmethere]

'You are totally not my type either, way too blonde and pale'
Dayuuuum, said it like it is and no fucks given xDDDDD

[Puppylove94]

Damn harsh lol

[MissFabulous]

Excellent take, totally agree! =)

[HyperNova]

Bollocks. The option is cynicism or delusion. I choose cynicism.

[Puppylove94]

Okay. good luck with that mentality.

[HyperNova]

Where has delusion gotten you?

[Puppylove94]

Both are negative ways of thinking.

[HyperNova]

If you think positively, instead of being a realist, then you are delusional, so by your own defintion, thinking negatively.

[Puppylove94]

Realism and pessimism are completely different as well. You think pessimistically

[HyperNova]

Optimists are the reason people are cynics.

[Joesyyyywhales]

Thanks mom!

[Puppylove94]

Lol okay...

[IVoidWarranties]

WTF? It's 2025 here your stuck in 2016 !

[Sabretooth]

much easier said then done.

[Puppylove94]

yeah but nothing is going to change unless you want it to. you're in charge of your future

[Sabretooth]

oh, i tried.

[Puppylove94]

how? what happened?

[Sabretooth]

found a girl, she moved, found her after 4 years... looked promising. til one day, i sensed, something was wrong... she denied it. about a week later-it all came out-she was hing issues with her foster family-i won't resort to dragging her through the mud, but she lead a bad life... nut she changed. i not only saw my chance to be with her in danger, but i saw that she could fall back into her old ways-didn't know what they were at the time and i didn't care. i acted out of fear, consumed by the worst cased scenario... i said horrible thing... basically betrayed her. her family convinced her i was a monster who was stalking her... ironic, really, considering the guys she fell for. that was 6 years ago... watching my dreams turned to nightmares. i know i should've trusted her, but i'm usually dragged in the middle of those situations-i'm usually successful... but the stakes were never so high. she was my way out of being the star of lemony snicket new series of unfortunat-

[Sabretooth]

events

[Rissyanne]

Great take!

[SovereignessofVamps]

<3 this

[MarkTwain]

Thank you for this