Whining.
An unbelievable amount of whining.
That's all I see everywhere I go now. It can be especially pronounced here on GaG and even though I really like some of the intelligent discussion that comes out of this topic, the incessant whining has become frustrating. You can't go an hour without seeing someone else posting a question that starts with something like, "I'm a loser so can I...?" or "I'm ugly so should I...?" Then you've got the rampant bitterness from freakin' teenagers, as if an 18-year-old has anything to be bitter and resentful about. You can be scared and nervous but bitterness, my teeny-bopper friends, is reserved for the oldsters who have actually experienced life. ;)
The point is, it's like we're currently experiencing a self-image and self-esteem plague. It's spreading like wildfire. It's getting to the point where I think half the people I see on any given day wake up and punch themselves in those nose. Or maybe they look at themselves in the mirror and burst out crying. They whine about how hard everything is, how worthless they are, how they're never going to get anywhere, blah blah blah.
Yeah, well, I have only one thing to say to all of them:
You're right.
Everything is hard and will continue to be hard, you are worthless, and you really aren't ever going anywhere. Why? Because you can't man up - or girl up, whatever - and pull your lip out of the gutter. Life can be a bitch and there are days when life bitch-smacks us a dozen times, and we don't feel like getting up. The people who feel better the next day? The ones who pick themselves up. The ones who don't run into the darkness of their bedroom, turn on one of the 17 screens they've got scattered around the room, and cry to strangers about why their life sucks. That does nothing. In fact, less than nothing; it's counterproductive.
Just shut up and move. Do something. Anything. Activity of any kind helps to ward off depression and anxiety but additionally, you might actually accomplish a task or hit a goal. Maybe the reason you feel worthless is because you spend 90% of your day whining, while the other 10% is filled with eating and sitting. The less you do, the less you move, the less you try to improve yourself, the worse you will feel.
This isn't about anybody else but you. Self-esteem and self-image have the words "self" in there, see that? This is what you think about you; how you see you. Life isn't beating you, you're beating yourself. Life responds when you respond and act like a normal human being, who can face the world every day and at least try. In my experience, most people who whine tend not to try at all, which of course gives them more excuse to whine. Such people are just...tiresome. And they waste our time. Worse, they waste their time.
Time. We don't have a heckuva lot of it, you know. Even if we live to a hundred, we're going to think it all went by so fast. So are you really going to sit there and bemoan your bald spot or your muffin top or your nervousness in crowds? Yeah, that'll work well. You'll just come up with more reasons to excuse yourself from life, to avoid, elude, dodge, hide, etc, etc, etc. And in the meantime, your self-esteem and self-image will continue to fall even farther.
You can stop it all, though. You really can. Get a damn plunger and drag yourself out of the filth into which you've tossed yourself, and do something. Life comes to those who go out to meet it. It'll never find those who do everything in their power to avoid it. Got it?
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