Public Service Announcement: Dear Fat People...

[Anonymous]

Firstly, Websters Dictionary defines someone as fat if they have a lot of extra flesh on the body, have a lot of body fat, have a full rounded form, and/or are unusually wide or thick. I am sorry if that definition and the truth of that offends you, but if you as a fat person can quantify someone as being skinny, or a toothpick, or rail thin, and call that to their face, why should they have to call you by some other term? It's hypocrisy.

Secondly, if you are fat, there are only two ways you can live: either be happy, accepting, and prideful of your being fat or stop complaining about it endlessly to everyone and doing absolutely nothing to change your situation. If you belong to the first half, be you, be happy, whatever, but if you fall into that second category, this is about you.

I simply do not understand how you can complain about your body and your issues with it to any and everyone who will listen, but do absolutely nothing about it. It's no different than those in massive debt who just let it accumulate and accumulate, but don't make any efforts to either seek assistance, a better job, or start paying it down--but yet it's everybody else's fault that they are in the situation they are in.

It is neither unfair or unreasonable if you are constantly saying or showing that you are not happy with your weight, to ask you, hey, what are you actually doing about it? Have you done anything else other than complain? Have you taken responsibility for your late night snacking, your lack of exercise, the amount of times you just quit on a program because you felt it got too hard? Have you sought counseling if it's a mental issue holding you back, have you consulted with a trainer or friend, or doctor, have you tried making any real strides towards getting healthy where you didn't just quit?

It is called taking personal responsibility for your own actions and your own health.When you talk about your weight, you need to use "I" phrases: "I am fat. I am responsible for all the things that led me to this point. I am going to stop making excuses and blaming others. I am going to change my diet and my exercise habits for the benefit of my health." If you are happy with your weight, then by all means, who am I to try and stop your happiness, but for the majority, if you are not happy with your weight, or anything else in your life for that matter, than shut-up, strap on your big boy/girl underwear, and go after what you want.

You can complain that weight loss is hard, but doing nothing is not going to make it easier for you or improve your life or your situation. In fact, that literally makes it worse in just about every single situation having to deal with addressing problems you feel you have in your life. You have to wake yourself up from that vicious cycle of excuses and blame and anger at the world for your own problems, if you want to see change and progress in your life.

If you're sitting there right now getting offended and defensive about what's been said here---I hate to tell you this, but I can neither gain or lose the weight for you, and neither can anyone else so you can be mad at me all you want, but in the time you sat there being mad at me or thinking up some angry comment, what has that changed for the situation you're in or the unhappiness you routinely say you feel about your own body?

Defining yourself as big boned, or curvy, or thick, or other phrase isn't going to help change your situation if you're miserable about it and neither is getting mad at those who call you fat; those are just words, not action nor change. And before you start listing the very few medical conditions and medications that can cause weight gain--I'm NOT talking about those people. I'm talking about the other 98% who are unhappy with their weight which has nothing to do with that at all and don't take the proper steps to get into a healthy body.

Like anything else, if you want a goal bad enough, you'll do whatever it takes. If you want to complain to me or anyone else that the diet sucks, and the exercise sucks...but you're doing it...than have at it, but don't complain on and on about anything in this life for years and years if you are doing nothing about it, or aren't doing all that you can to improve or solve the situation.

The next time you want to complain, turn that frustration, defensive behavior, and denial into real action. Don't get mad at the world, get mad at yourself and push yourself into action and to make a conscious effort to change what has been making you feel poorly about your situation. Own up to the fact that you haven't tried everything, you haven't been honest with your diet or training or to yourself and start holding yourself accountable.

Try not giving up on yourself or your goals for once rather than spending time trying to come up with new words you want other people to call yourself that don't do anything to solve your admitted problems with your weight. If your health and happiness is important enough to you, than now is the time to do something about it; not tomorrow, not next week, not on January 1. Now.

[MrShinyPants]

Not sure what weight set I fall into, I know I have built fat, in other words muscles and fat, also half barrel shape, a barrel cut into half, I think I fall into the husky category if I remember right. I have a bad neck injury and a back injury so it makes it difficult to exercise without severe pain and living in a state where it is 104-117 degrees in summer and cloud build up without rain, the pressure it causes make my pain worse and summer is monsoon season makes it even more difficult to work out, but I have found a way around it, exercise on the days the pain is at a bearable level and doing light impact exercise, wait until winter to go outside, in summer, do jt indoors by walking in place and other light impact ones and sucking in my guts for a few minutes then release and repeat and do vertical pushups on the walls and cut down eating portions, I can't afford to eat healthy, don't get enough money for that so I cut the portion size down and when I get hungry between meals I eat celery since eating celery actually burns calories since it takes more cals to digest it them a piece of celery has in it. Drink some homemade tea or water a half hour before meals to help feel full and try not eating after 10pm because your metabolism slows around 8pm and some other things I do, I have complained at times about how hard it is to loose weight, but the difficulty won't stop me haha, if there's a way I will find it. I don't give up easily, pain or no pain and heat or no heat, even small daily activities can count as exercise, like sweeping, vacuuming, picking up things etc.. Its like a wax on wax off kind of thing

[myTake Owner]

Good for you man. I know it can't be easy especially dealing with the pain, but this is precisely what I'm talking about. If you want something bad enough, you do what you can and make changes to make it happen. You're 100% right about any movement being better than nothing. Even if you were massively obese, simply jiggling around or lifting a 1-2 lb weight for stretches at a time has taken weight off people who couldn't even walk because of their size and you have people who unlike you, don't have any pains, do have plenty of money to shop wherever, and they don't do anything about their situation but complain about how hard it is. I jokingly tell people I train with that they can complain all they want to me about the diet/exercise as long as they keep doing it because at the end, they'll have results not just complaints. Keep up the great work. I hope you reach your goals!

[MrShinyPants]

Thanks, yeah just takes a little patience and will power and it can be done

[Prof_Don]

Excellent way to work around your situation, dude! :-D

[MrShinyPants]

@Prof_Don thanks lol, i try my best

[Anonymous]

I think it is more important to work for a healthier psychological profile. People should be happy of their weight and size, whatever they are, and based on that, they should eat healthy and have a regular pattern of physical activity. If you base your health holistically, then you will be much happier and healthier than if you base your health on your outside image or physique.

I think the important thing that you did not stress is the economic choices people make everyday. You should give suggestions so that even the poorest and most disadvantaged, the people who live in cities and use walking and biking as the primary means of transportation and have only access to junk food, can become fit. In America, obesity is associated with poverty. If you are poor, then you are very likely to become obese and trapped in a food desert where the only grocery has overpriced fruits and veggies or no fruits/veggies.

[myTake Owner]

I've written quite a bit on the subject of poverty and health, the psychology of weight loss, and the social impacts of weight loss. This is my chosen subject for today. There is just too much in general for the purposes of GaG to cover in just one take, but thanks for the comment.

[Opinion Owner]

No, you have just written less than 6,000 characters, including spaces. I have written much longer, more thorough promoted/featured myTakes. My next myTake is going to be very long, less than 20,000 characters (including spaces), and it will be very information-dense. Every sentence, every word, every letter counts.

Yes, it is possible to include poverty and health, the psychology of weight loss, and the social impacts of weight loss all in one very succinct, information-dense myTake. They are all related to each other, so there is a lot of overlap.

[myTake Owner]

Good for you!

[Opinion Owner]

The reason why I mentioned that is introducing the topic of poverty and economics will make the Take sound less accusatory (putting blame on the fat people) instead of sympathetic and encouraging.

[loveisbeautiful]

Since you keep talking about your "line of work" in the comments, I'm going to take a stab at this and say you are some kind of fitness instructor and nutritionist or something along those lines, am I right? If I am, your job would be to motivate people and that's what you say you're trying to do here. However, do you expect the title "Dear Fat People: A Special PSA" to strike inspiration in those struggling to lose weight and or not knowing how to go about doing so? How is that motivational? The fact that you call them "Fat" instead of addressing them in another way, that alone would make me want to not listen to you and view your words as judgmental. So, if you want to motivate people, find another more tactful way to do so. People listen to people that believe in them, not ones that seem like they are judging them.

I also want to mention two things 1) We seem to live in a finger snap society where people think if you preach enough and make it seem like in a snap of finger everything will be better. When that's not the case, just because it's hard and people complain (even people doing something about it) doesn't mean they are not trying or don't care. Losing weight isn't that easy and not that simple, so we need to quit making it seem like it is and understand the frustration they have in trying to lose weight or wanting to but not knowing where to start. Everybody complains about something on the daily out of pure frustration, so why can't people with weight issues do the same? Everybody gets frustrated.

2) As a person who's had and still has to work on making a lot of personal changes in my life (not related to weight), I know from experience that nothing bothers me more than people trying to tell me what to change and how to change. Change is a personal thing and you have to do it on your own time table and when you are truly ready or the change won't work. Because even if you did listen to other people and change because they said you should, you'd only be doing it to appease them and make them happy. Instead of appeasing yourself and making yourself happy.

So, you can preach all you want but unless that person is really ready to change and truly wants to, you preaching at them and making them feel bad isn't going to inspire change, it will probably just detour them from it.

[Anonymous]

The section you have about mental illness... it's stupid. Mental illness doesn't just get "fixed" by popping into a doctor one day. That's why people can be medicated for things like depression or bi polar and still be affected, or get therapy and still be terribly affected. You won't tell somebody with anorexia, bulimia, clinical depression etc to just go to a doctor and get over it, so why would fat eating disorders or depression leading to comfort eating be any different? At your age, I would have expected you to know that.

And one thing many forget is actual genetics. A friend of mine has a chubby child, after doing sleeping and eating studies, fitness tests and many more, doctors have actually agreed this is just the child's build and they'll never really be slim. Google fat gene or fto gene, it's not difficult to research before writing takes. These people won't really ever not be a little chubby unless they're gonna starve themselves... and why quit one unhealthy thing for another? Although not all chubby people have been found to be very unhealthy during fitness tests... obesity yes, chubby/chunky no.

It's very difficult for some of these people when they're not just battling their weight, but also the genetics or mental illness that was part of the weight gain. That's why anorexic people can't "just put on some weight and get healthy already" any easier than fat people can't "just get over your eating disorder/depression and lose weight already" although the depression one is such a catch-22 (depressed- eat more. Eat more- gain weight- get more fat- get depressed) it's a cycle.

Personally when I see fat people looking miserable and stuff, I feel more sorry for them. You can tell how badly some want a change, but the mentality, depression, genes, or other is just constantly holding them back.

[Anonymous]

*slow clap*
Awesome Take!

I've been at both ends of the spectrum; I was fat and unhappy (~70 lbs overweight), so I decided to change that. I'm an athletic/muscular build now, and am happy and healthy... my sibling, on the other hand... well, your take perfectly describes my sentiments toward my sibling. She complains and complains, and does absolutely nothing to improve herself or remedy her situation (she has no health problems that prevent her). She gets 2-year gym memberships (paid for by my parents) and goes maybe like 3-5 times a year, and when they expire, she goes back to complaining about how fat and miserable and ugly she is/feels, and how she wished she had a gym membership. She's done this spiel twice already! Like, seriously? She's been ALL talk for so many years, that I just drown out her complaints because they're just hot air.

Your comment about defining oneself as "big boned", "curvy," or "thick."... So, one day I was driving, and the car to my left had a huge sticker that took up the entire length of the rear window. It read "thick" and had the silhouette of a thick girl seductively laying on top the word "thick". Then, I mean, since she was advertising it to the world, I was curious what kind of person would do that, so I looked into the car... the girl was NOT thick, she was straight-up fat. I'm talking 80-100 pounds over a healthy weight. BUT, I'm sure she's the kind of person that would take huge offense or berate people who dare call her fat, yet she parades around calling herself "thick"... as if that makes it any better.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the people who go on about it and don't change it, either.

I do, however, have a lot of sympathy for the ones trying to do something, quietly, and failing. That can be very frustrating, and we can all need a motivational or inspirational voice to support us when we're down.

The issue, as I see it, is that so much of the weight loss industry is like Cosmopolitan magazine. There's no money in a cure. There's no money in good advice. Because then they get what they want, and you can't sell them next months magazine.

How often are people told to cut fat from their diet? And yet all the science will tell you, that's wrong. Fat is an appetite suppressant. It makes you feel full. It's where the flavour is.

Low fat foods are tasteless, usually. So what do they replace the flavour with? SUGAR.

Ask any vet - a high carb diet will give your pet diabetes. But ask a human doctor, and they are often reluctant to explain the basic chemistry that carbohydrates all become sugar when you eat them. And you will get fat from sugar. And get diabetes.

A high fat, high protein, low carb diet is the only thing that will help you lose weight. 90% of all weight loss is down to diet, not exercise. So running that extra mile won't help as much as you think in shedding those pounds. Not as much as cutting out a chocolate bar from what you eat today.

But like I say, the weight loss industry isn't interested in telling you what works. Gyms want to sell membership. Coke wants to sell Diet Coke. And so on.

[Anonymous]

The battle is so not easy because:
1. weight loss doesn't happen in a day or a week
2. there are always people out there who will bully us fatties even when we're in the middle of transforming ourselves. So many fatties are fat because they have an unhealthy relationship to food. Further psychological stress like injuring an already low self esteem would only drive us to the nearest chocolate bar. And out of frustration because this idiot just made us cry and feel like we're not worthy of being loved, despite all our efforts to lose weight, we're still not good enough for people to respect us we would eat the entire bar instead of just a bite. We would then try to heal the wound or fill the hole cause by the bully with food. Because food comforts us. People only hurt us.

So if you want every un happy fatty to be skinny, get rid of those fucking bullies for a start. Cause they're as good to society as dog shit anyway.

[myTake Owner]

I'm sorry life is tough for you and that people make fun of you, but you can stay being miserable about the situation and keep crying about it, and keep hating yourself, or you can keep on the good path to health. Bullies, jerks, haters, etc. will always be out there. You're NEVER going to get rid of them all no matter how hard anyone tries, so if that's your excuse to give up on yourself, then it will be a good one because it will always be there. I know there is a HUGE psychological component to weight loss for a lot of people, which is why I mentioned seeking counseling in the take. I know there are people who tear you down even as you're trying, but you have to keep your eyes on the prize and strive to be in the best health you can be in, not just "skinny," because skinny doesn't always mean healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

Easier said than done. Who says I'm giving up? If you make such a take directed toward the fatties, there's a suggestion: make one for fatshamers too. Make them aware that what they're doing is not noble in any way and only has negative impact on the fat individuals they bully. Just to make things fair, you know. Otherwise it seems like to you it's only US that's the problem and you're cutting those bullies slack

[myTake Owner]

I've done that already and you can guess how that went down: lots of negativity. So where does that put us. Back to square one where a person, you, I, everyone else, needs to take responsibility for their own health and weight. You can be mad at the world and all the people who hate on you and make fun of you, but like I said, they will always be there somewhere in your life because not everyone clearly has a good heart, but also like I said, you can let that be your forever excuse as to why you can't improve your own life, or you can turn that noise off and focus on what you need to do for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Excuse you, but despite my size I am fully healthy. So says my last month's blood check. Everything normal. I am healthier than some skinny people I know.

I am trying and will keep trying to lose weight, but more like to make society fucking shut up and finally leave me alone and accept me instead of ostracize me and continuously hurt me because of my weight.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course attacking these bullies would be welcomed with a lot of negativity. That's what they do: spread hate and negativity. So you give up on them and choose to lecture us, the already bullied, instead? Really? You think US fatties need your lecture, another lecture, on how we need to get our asses moving and change ourselves? You think our wars aren't red already?

[myTake Owner]

Nope. I am saying you can wait around all day long for the bullies to stop bullying you, but you and I both know, they won't, especially not when it comes to the wide world of the internet. They are just like racists, and sexists, and homophobes. How many centuries has that been going on? So we can't pretend that this is just a fat problem either and you are the only one who has to constantly overcome. You can be PISSED OFF at them for all the days of your life because what they do and say is incredibly cruel... but at the end of the night, you still are responsible for how you do/don't exercise and what you do or don't eat so if you want to see change in your life, you've got to do it yourself plain and simple. That's not harassment or bullying, that is the plain as day truth.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said... As if we need another self-righteous person telling us to lose weight... zzzzzzzz... You think you're doing any good here? Nope.

[wolfie12]

Funny enough, for some time I'd find excuses after excuses to let myself overeat and not being able to do workout. I have asthma so that was my most used excuse. Then one day I snapped, I was sick of seeing my body in the mirror and I started simply eating less. Anyway through next 6 months I lost 14 kilos, I feel great now. My asthma doesn't stop me from workout any more (and it has gotten better). I'm still reluctant to take my shirt off, because I still expect to see my old body in the mirror, but it's funny how when I do take my shirt off I feel even better about myself. I still have few kilos to loose but overall my life got better. Oh and let's not forget that even my face looks better now.

[myTake Owner]

That's great man. So many people do have actual medical issues that they have to work through and over come, but they do it every single day because that end result is important for them mentally, physically, and emotionally. Glad you fought and fight through it to make it happen.

[CHARismatic110]

The funny thing is, I always hear people complaining about fat people complaining but I never actually see or hear actual fat people complaining. What I do see is this type of shit, over and over again though.

[myTake Owner]

It's simple. If you're fat and happy, as I've said multiple times in this take, be fat and happy. But in the cases I'm talking about you have people that aren't and who complain for years and years about how their life is crap because of their weight and their weight struggles and do nothing about it. The solution is simple. Stop complaining. Be accountable for your actions, workout and eat right. If you're offended--ask yourself why because nothing in that is radical or untrue. Also keep in mind, there is a bigger world outside of just you. If people don't complain to you, that doesn't mean they don't complain to other people.

[ichot]

*rolls eyes* You sure aren't browsing much of the web. There's an endless amount of fat people complaining and you're somehow ignorant of all of it.

Here's a trending hashtag for fat people complaining. #fatsidestories

[CHARismatic110]

Oh I'm not offended. Just tired of hearing the same things said over and over again. I don't fall into these categories that you're speaking about. And I'm not saying that they don't complain, I'm just not sure it's as much as people claim it to be.

[KittieCat]

Hey Nicole a couple of points
1. Thick = muscular. Regardless of body fat, if you are muscular, you are thick.
2. Curvy = Curvy. If your body has an inward curve between bust - waist - hips, you are curvy.
3. You don't know everyone's story so just stick to your own.

[Luci92]

This take reminds me of this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXFgNhyP4-A

[akadatank44]

I guess she is a terrible person overall. She was dating another youtuber and would abuse him. Wouldn't let hI'm leave her house and control his money and shit.

[NinjaZero420]

I was just gonna comment that this bitch reminds me of that bitch! Mind reader.

[Luci92]

@akadatank44 I didn't know she was like that... sounds terrible that's for sure.

[akadatank44]

Yeah I just learned that myself.

[RainbowFanGirl]

That is what I said. 😂Smh

[Luci92]

@RainbowFanGirl Haha great minds think alike, what can I say? :P

[posted]

Who is this dumb cunt? I tried to watch another video and couldn't stand it after 5 seconds. She really has no idea on anything she is saying. Which is bad enough, but when she tried to block comments/votes after talking shit about subjects it just becomes completely pathetic.

[Luci92]

@posted Just another idiot on Youtube, and yeah I think it's extremely pathetic that she blocked the votes/comments as well.
She's done some other videos, but none of them have gone as viral as this one did, but she even shit talks religion.

[Pilulu]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that.

[YourEnvy27]

@Pilulu I would love to punch the shit out of that ugly white ass bitch looking like a prostitute she must be funny if she think she looks good more like shit. Who tf is she talking all the shit has she not seen her ugly ass?

[RainbowFanGirl]

Tired of these anons posting the same stuff over and over again there are takes like this every other week

[YourEnvy27]

@RainbowFanGirl people that do this shit is pathetic with no lives like that dumb whore on top. So why can't they talk about skinny people because its not all about over weight people they already know how they look. I'd love to make an add about that dumb bitch of how stupid she looks like a slut.

[Luci92]

@RainbowFanGirl agreed, it's so old. Can't we find something more constructive to talk about?

[Omar5881]

When I was in middle school I was really fat , it wasn't a problem until I found some difficulties in moving , sitting , etc , then I promised myself to change it I lost 30 kg , I liked this take

[Prof_Don]

Props to you dude, I've been through that journey (and still through it)

[Omar5881]

@Prof_Don keep it up 👍

[LittleSally]

I agree with the first part of your mytake.

P. S.
I've never seen a fat person blame 'the world' for their troubles. o. O They know it's their fault.

[ichot]

"I've never seen a fat person blame 'the world' for their troubles. o. O They know it's their fault. "

You haven't looked into the shit hole that is #fatsidestories.
All denial and blaming everyone but themselves for their weight.

[LittleSally]

@ichot Well... that's called 'first world denile'... No such thing in normal countries.

[Rissyanne]

Who put you on charge of other people's health? Did it ever occur to you it is none of your business? I workout a lot and I would like to see other people do the same but I'm not going to shame anyone. It's none of my business or yours.

[Blonde401]

👏 love this comment

[myTake Owner]

Please by all means explain to me where I shamed someone? If you want to get upset about the definition, then by all means, let's also get upset about the people who call people skinny. If you want to get upset about the rest, I've asked people to take responsibility for their health and their actions, something I expect of myself. I'm not making fun of or berating anyone here. I'm not pointing at fat people and laughing, I'm not posting nasty pictures on the web. I've done nothing but encourage people to adopt a healthy lifestyle through counseling, diet, exercise, etc.

[Rissyanne]

Sis you need to go back and read your own words.

[myTake Owner]

Why would I need to read it back. I know what I wrote, however if YOU are saying that I am shaming people, then by all means direct me as to where because I have not done that.

[Rissyanne]

The second to last paragraph. Where you are telling people not to complain. Why do you think it is your job to tell people what to do or live their life? This is not giving health tips or be motivational.

[davisgirl89]

Your tone is very degrading I must admit. Even getting past the title was a bit hard for me. But I was interested because I am fat ( I won't use curvy because you don't like it). It was a hard read. Not because I am the type that make excuse or because of my weight problems. But because you making being fat sound like the issue, which hopefully you mean the complaining is the issue. In one sentence you make an off put statement saying if you are happy being fat, be fat ( of course I am paraphrasing) and in the next sentence it sounds like you are saying being fat is evil! This of course is my own evaluation of the article...

[davisgirl89]

Oh and a p. s. You should really take tips from this author. Definitely a lot more motivational and actually provided great solutions.

unfit-to-get-fit-dieting-fitness-malpractices-that-put-you-at-risk

[Rissyanne]

@davisgirl89 don't worry I wouldn't take anything this girl says.

[myTake Owner]

@davisgirl89 Thanks for your comments and explanation from your POV. I've always felt that if a person is happy in their lives, in this meaning, fat and happy, then let them be happy. The world is tough enough, as I said, I will not stand in their way. However, if you're on the opposite spectrum, fat AND unhappy, and you've complained for years on end and done nothing about it--this is my take directed towards those people. As I said any and everyone can get mad at me all they want, but in the end, it absolutely comes down to personal responsibility, and seeking help, training, counseling, better diets, etc. b/c also as I've said, I can't lose the weight for them and neither can you. This message has and will fall on a lot of deaf ears! No one, no matter how educational, or motivational, or sympathetic, or drill sergeant that they are is going to get everyone to understand or relate to their message, but clearly by some comments, some people understand exactly what my meaning is here.

[myTake Owner]

If you hate me and what I'm saying, as I've told a few people already, if you feel that you are fat and unhappy, then find someone else who's message you understand and relate to and that can helpfully urge you to make better health choices because we're all in the same boat with exactly one life to live. I don't care if you get that from me or some other person you absolutely love to pieces, but we need to all understand that we can't keep waiting around for change, or for someone to stop making fun of us, or for January 1 to roll around before we try again. Kids are developing frightening health issues at an alarming rate due to obesity and many come from house holds where their parents are also obese creating a vicious cycle we need to break.

[myTake Owner]

A lot of people like to pipe up and scream, well that's none of your business. It absolutely is my business because I actually care whether you live or die as a fellow human being. I don't want to see potential and life wasted because everyone is sooooo afraid to say anything. Take care of yourself and find whoever you need to help you get there. If it's not me, I don't care, as long as you go and find someone who can motivate you if you can't do it yourself, to get on the path to good health.

[Rissyanne]

Sis you need to calm your drawers. I workout and I am in good shape. And I don't believe for a second that you care about someone that is overweight. I think you get off humiliating people.

[davisgirl89]

I agree with some of the things you said but my comment was more toward how you carried out your mission. Everyone should take personal responsibility (even if we write an article that comes off as slightly offense or fall prey to over eating at time) which is why I pointed out my criticisms about your article. Not to shame or tell you your view point is wrong, but to say maybe you can approach it from a different direction. And yes I am the happy and fat type ( saying that made me feel like Santa Claus lol) I am a beautiful woman, hard worker, strong, and fiercely loyal to a fault. And my fat makes great cushion for cuddling with my guy, my dog and a prefect tummy for babies to stand on and bounce when they are happy and cooing.
But I do have a question. Is the internet the only place where you here fat people complaining about losing wait? Or is it your job as a trainer assuming that was the correct assumption of your career. If it's the internet can you not avoids those sites?

[Rissyanne]

@davisgirl89 it is real easy for her to bark about people... especially since she is anon.

[davisgirl89]

Honestly her words don't offend me on a personal level. There are always going to be people like her who knows what's best for everyone. And who wants everyone to fall into their agenda. And like her I do have an agenda. Mine though is for her to try and show a little more compassion when dealing with people. Because someone maybe having an off day and come across this and instead of helping it my stop all progress that they have made and instead of over eating they may stop eating... Now my example may be extreme but so is depression and the misery people may suffer from low self esteem and harsh and hurtful words.

[Blonde401]

@mytake owner cause you blocked me on my own comments cause you're a sad pathetic little girl and you have no argument left, clearly. Yeah someone who makes bold claims needs to prove who they are or your opinion is worthless, much like your argument. if you had any, you wouldn't hide anon and you wouldn't block people who don't agree with you. It's agree with my ideology or you'll get blocked cause I'm such a dictator.

[Anonymous]

Well if I'm allowed to complain about my diet...
I started a diet/workout routine a few months ago. It was going really well, in the first 3 months I lost 10 lbs.
But then I had band camp, basically a camp where you learn about music, and you have to memorize 4 songs and write another song in a week. The problem is I was so tired from band camp, and had so much stuff to work on. I didn't have much time to workout and the time I did have I was waaaayyyyy to tired to workout. So I kinda decided that I'd take a break and then start working out again after band camp.
But I've been having trouble getting back into it, I just plain out forget to workout. And with school starting up... you get my point.

[myTake Owner]

You want anything bad enough in life, you go after it and you most importantly make time. At 14, I doubt you have a job or kids or anything extra taking up your time. In fact, you're on GaG right now indicating you do have some free time somewhere in your day even if it means you break up the workout and do 15 minutes in the morning, 15 at lunch, and 15 and night. We can all find excuses to not do what we need to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes because I'm 14 I obviously have all the time in the world.
Because you know schools only 8 hours a day, and then I have drama twice a week after school, music twice, then there's homework... oh and I have a part time job, can't have a full time because ya know school, and you know I sometimes like to spend time with friends. But you're right, I have ALL the time in the world. I mean I'm on GaG during summer break.

[Opinion Owner]

I do exercises for 15 min in the morning and evening (can't at lunch because I have to stay in the cafeteria) I just don't consider that a workout.

[myTake Owner]

You're getting frustrated at the wrong person. Turn that anger into action. I didn't say you had all the time in the world, I said, you're on gag, so you've got some time in your day to exercise AND if you want it bad enough, you'll turn off gag, flip off that phone, turn off the television and go for that 15 minute walk instead. Hon, A LOT of people have incredibly long days and hard schedules and they still workout. IF you can't do an hour straight, like I said, grab that 15 minutes, hell, 5 minutes, here and there all throughout the day because it adds up. Take the stairs, get dropped off further from school and walk to the door. Saying you don't have time, whilst your own social media not doing homework, not taking your drama class, not getting paid... indicates, you have time in your day, you just have a choice to make whether you want it bad enough to get in a workout or you just want to use it as an excuse that you're super busy every second.

[Opinion Owner]

I never said I'm not working out. I do work out on a daily basis, I just sometimes miss a day because of my schedule. I said I was having trouble getting back into my routine, not the I'm not doing my routine.
Right NOW I have a ton of time, as such I'm having no trouble working out. But in a couple days all this stuff is starting and it's going to be difficult.

Why I'm annoyed is because
A) You assumed my life's easy because I'm 14
B) You are accusing me of making excuses for not working out when I never said I'm not working out
C) After I said the reason I have time for GaG is because I'm on summer break (non of my stuff ecspet work is going on) you're still saying that because I'm on GaG I obviously normally have time
D) You're still saying all I need to do is put in 15 minutes a couple times a day, after I said I do that I just don't consider that working out.

[Noxifer626]

What makes you think fat people haven't heard this before?
Come back when you say something people haven't heard 10 times before. A take exactly like this one you just made pops up every 5 days.
Just stop.

[Anonymous]

It's not like no one doesn't do anything. A lot start dieting and working out for a few weeks to a few months but they don't see any results or not any noticeable results at least, get frustrated, lose their motivation and start eating unhealthy and being lazy again...

[Anonymous]

Dude, don't you think fat people have heard this shit before. The constant reminders are not necessary.

[anonman32]

Yeah, yes they are.

[Opinion Owner]

@anonman32 For what? I'm pretty sure everyone knows that healthy foods + exercise + strong will = weight loss. That's not something the world needs a refresher course on. Literally everyone knows this. Most people lack the strong will to keep up with the process, but that comes from
inside themselves. A random ass post on the internet is just gonna magically make you dedicated to getting into shape. The constant reminders are completely unevessary.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Yeah, a random person on the internet saying these things over and over will not motivate someone into losing weight

[myTake Owner]

@RainbowFanGirl Random people on the internet, on tv, in books, at fairs, at expos, etc. have forever motivated people to lose weight. Motivation comes from all over and you don't get to choose who and how people get motivated. A PSA is meant to be put on repeat. It's meant to be an ear worm. It may take a person 15, 20, 100 times of hearing something before it clicks in their mind that today is the day and they get inspired to change. Half of the takes on GaG are written on repeat because it may take you or I saying the things we say to be that thing that makes someone understand something in a new light or motivates them to change. If you don't like this message, than find another, I'll not stop you.

I am however, going to keep trying because health is important. Having people not die at a young age of preventable disease is important. It can be hard to hear that message when you're wrapped up in bad habits, but you keep trying to reach those few who are ready to hear it today.

[SirenDep]

As you state, loosing weight is a personal matter, and as such, the decision on loosing it lies on the individual. Of course someone shouldn't suffer from having extra weight, he should either accept it or loose it. However, this doesn't justify fat-shaming and excluding fat people from society. An acceptable enviroment is always beneficial to inspire and support an individual into changing and becoming better.

[RachelBrigs]

I agree that a lot of overweight people use endless excuses for their lack of effort, but at the same time, harassing them about it isn't going to change anything

[myTake Owner]

Well thank you, but this isn't harassment. There is nothing in this take that isn't built on the truth. I know I can't lose weight for others, I've said as much, but what I can do is reach out to those who are relying on those excuses and hope that something clicks. You can't get to everybody, but there will be somebody reading who gets it and wants to make that change.

[RachelBrigs]

Even if it's true, it can still be seen as harassment. I think you could express your points more politely.

[Ntnrmlchck]

While I can agree on some of your points, it's important to remember that eating is an addiction for a lot of people. Unlike other addictions, though, you can't put food down and never touch it again.

[myTake Owner]

I absolutely agree with that. There is a huge psychological component in weight loss which is why I did in fact mention counseling, however, it still comes down to personal accountability. Your fridge does not have to contain junk food. In fact, if you are a person who will eat and eat, stock your fridge, the desk drawer, the car with healthy food and water for an example so you don't give yourself a chance to slip up. But you can't say I've tried everything and done everything and you're the only one on the planet who can't lose weight if you haven't gone to that counselor, and haven't cleaned out that fridge, or haven't been honest with yourself in the steps you've taken.

[Ntnrmlchck]

I agree, it just felt a bit over simplified which could be taken as belittling. For someone who is struggling to do the things you mentioned, all absolutely true by the way, the tone of your take could be the next excuse they use to give up. Depending on how deep rooted the psychological issue is, it could take quite some time to make headway and rewire a person's view of eating.

[myTake Owner]

Believe me, I could write an entire thesis paper on this subject dealing and working with the people I do. Weight loss is a process but people need to allow the actual process to work. If you're dealing with depression, divorce, sexual abuse etc. all of that can affect a person in all aspects of their life, especially weight loss, but not doing anything and being miserable and complaining all the time is not a solution. I will always encourage mental help first if needed. Even though it's not diet or exercise, it IS doing something about their problems and trying to find ways and solutions to help themselves that isn't just complaining about how bad things are.

[Svengodofman]

When I see really fat people at the gym, I don't think "wow what fat tub of lard", I think "Wow, that person is really brave". The people who do something about it for their own health are really the people that I applaud, because they are trying their best to lose the weight so that they can be healthier.