Honest opinions, what do you think when you see a fat person? Is it different if the fat person is your friend or family member? Do you secretly think they should loose weight?
What do you think of a fat person?
When I see a fat person, I see a person that has had endured pains that, for whatever reason, they simply just weren't equipped to deal with in a healthy manner. I see a person that's screaming out for help, even if they aren't aware they're doing so. I see a person that could possible, just MAYBE, use a helping hand rather than a slap on the wrist. I see a person that YES, could perhaps use some tough love and constructive criticisms (that come from a place of love).
There are a lot of things that I DON'T see when I look at a fat person: I don't see a person that's lazy, I don't see a someone who is less human, I don't see a person who's less deserving of love, I don't see a person who's selfish and cares bout themselves and only themselves (often times, the exact opposite is true!!!), I don't see a person that needs to be shamed (social shaming can never be as terrible as the shaming that comes from within, anyways...).
I've seen this issue from both sides, as I used to be super healthy and active, then I experienced major pain and depressive states in life, and gained a shit ton of weight. I'm losing it now and getting my health back, which is of course great, but I don't think I'll ever be able to forget how horrible life was (and still kinda is, as I've got like 20 or so more pounds to go) as an overweight person.
It's something that I truly wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. It's...horrific. And the different way that you get treated by people is pretty eye-opening, to say the least.
Being overweight is one of those things that you'll just NEVER truly understand until you've lived it...like so many other things in life, you'll just NEVER get it. And that's something that I think many people would benefit to remember. Having a semblance of compassion for these people will not feed the problem, and it'll make you a better person in the process. Just food for thought for some of the shamers out there...
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I used to be fat back in the day in highschool but I changed and started eating healthy and working out. It changed my life. I don't look down on fat people at all but those who complain about girls or guys not wanting them because they are fat I disagree with. You don't have to have a perfect body, with six pack abs and big muscles to attract a girl and girls don't have to have a perfect ass and perfect boobs and a perfect stomach to attract guys. Most of the problems with these people are they reach for the top of the top attractive people and then when they get shot down they get discouraged. In my experience I really had to humble myself and look at myself before I could expect any girl to find me attractive. Its about self improvement. Its also about how YOU feel about your body. Screw what everyone else thinks is "hot" and "sexy and "attractive." If you feel comfortable at your weight then who cares what I think? Half the guys or girls that reject you because of your weight will find something else to reject you for something else even if you lose the weight so who the hell cares what they think? I don't lift/workout/run to get a body that girls want. I do it because it makes ME feel good and I enjoy it. I think thats the thing most people need to understand.
Honestly… it doesn’t matter to me. If it’s someone im looking at as a potential spouse then yes I would definitely want them to lose weight and work out more often. However, if it’s a regular person I’m just talking to, or someone who I randomly saw, I do not think much of it. I would look at them just like anyone else, talk to them just like I would talk to anyone else and I never, ever discriminate no matter what. I’m not gonna like them less because of their weight and im not gonna avoid interaction with them because they’re fat… if they have a nice personality then of course im gonna talk to them! The only time I pay attention to that factor is when its someone who I might want to date- then the weight would be a problem.
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I can gain weight very easily unless I'm keeping in shape so I know how hard it is to be sensible and make hard choices with food especially when it's shoved in your face left right and centre. But I also know how hard I try and I think everybody can make some healthy decisions sometimes if they put their mind to it. So I guess it's a bit of understanding and empathy aswell as a little criticism. But all in all, they're people and I don't know them so I don't have a right to judge somebody who is probably in a very different situation to me :)
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Well I do worry about both my sister and my mother because they're overweight, but it doesn't make me think any less of them. My mother is getting older though, so that's why I do worry about her. I don't judge her for it though. I get judged enough about my appearance (I have an ugly face) so I know how it feels. I just wish she would eat healthier and exercise. As for my sister, she's still young but there are still health risks but she also has lost a lot of weight. So I think if she keeps on the path she is going, she will be fine.
I think they both do want to lose weight though. I am thin, and they have both asked me how I keep slim and fit. So I think they do want tips. So I tell them if they ask.
As for strangers, I don't know them enough to give it any thought. Some people could have a thyroid issue. I don't know their story or why they are overweight. -
I think there is a line between fat and obese. A person who is 5 lbs over what they call optimal weight can be called fat, just like a person who is 50lbs over weight. I really don't judge a person who is large unless its obvious that they are just not caring for themselves.
A prime example is 2 female friends I have both have had kids one exercises and eats normally and she went from 60lbs over weight to high average weight for her build (she was a large build before preggo). The other one (skinny before preggo) just kept eating and doing nothing after child birth and now is the size of a house. - 655 opinions shared on Health & Fitness topic.
Yes I secretly think everyone who is unhealthy should become healthy especially if they're friends or family. It improves us mentally and physically. There have been 2 times in my life when I've weighed over 350 lbs and let me tell you being that overweight isn't fun. Being that fat doesn't just hurt you physically but mentally you feel drained and depressed for looking hideous. I know how it is and I encourage everyone to make a major change in their life who is. That's what I think when I look at heavy people.
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Is he/she fatter than me? God I hope I'm not that fat.
If they look like they're uncomfortable in their own skin, then yes, I think they should lose weight or at least try to. If they are confident and sassy, I admire them.
Mostly I see them as people. People come in different shapes, sizes, and colors. Big deal. -
Well, it depends on how fat. If they are obviously obese and look nasty cause they are so fucking fat, then I think they are lazy, don't exercise ever, and eat mcdonalds and candy and drink soda all day long. I won't even lie, I look down upon really fat/obese people. They're disgusting, and most of the time they have bad hygiene as well. Meat consumption also negatively affects our environment, so I see them as either ignorant or uninformed and uneducated in addition to all that.
No, I don't think they should lose weight. They can stay fat and gross and continue eating like a hippo all day long, I could care less. I love freedom of choice. -
If I see someone who looks unhealthy/overweight, I first wonder how they became that unhealthy (emotional issues?) and then why haven't they done something about it. Just want to shake them and be like "you're worth it - so take care of yourself". My friends and family are not excluded from my honesty as I expect them to be truthful with me.
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I 'm an overweight person and I definitely get a lot of hate from younger people and peers, older people are way more tolerate and accepting of me. Like I can get my work done and I'm not lazy or smell bad.
Personally when I see big people I feel sorry for them cause I know how they must suffer. I know how hard it is to do this to yourself and not being able to change.
A positive thing is that I don't get bullied as much since I'm in uni and I like that a lot :) - 532 opinions shared on Health & Fitness topic.
I don't think anything. I don't care, unless they're morbidly obese. But for normal overweight people, I really don't pay extra attention to them just because they're overweight.
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Not particularly much, and thinking that someone should lose weight if they're a fat tub of lard isn't wrong. I find it funny how you're allowed to call someone a monster for smoking fags, but if you're judging of someone for being fat you're the next Josef Mengele.
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I think the USA needs a massive fat shaming campaign. It could save billions and billions of dollars via healthcare. And since Obamacare requires less patient discrimination, and also charges young, healthier people more to cover sickly/fat/older people, I actually have a right to fat shame people who have health insurance!
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I think stupidity, laziness, greed and I personally find it quite disgusting that a person could let themselves get into that state, or if their young how their parents let them get into that state.
I don't have any overweight family members but if I did I reckon I'd be a bit ashamed of them. -
If they're really heavy then I think they should lose weight only for their health. I wouldn't discriminate them for the looks. I just feel like they should try to be healthier. This is coming from a person who use to be very overweight, then I realized that I need to become healthy. I lost it all and I do try to help those who are needing to lose it and keep them motivated.
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Yes it's a negative. Yes I think they should lose weight. No it's not ok to be fat. Yes I think less of them.
The thing is about being fat compared to other negatives, is that it's obvious as soon as you see them. Most other negatives aren't apparent so easily. -
I feel bad for them. I wouldn't want to have to have a pilot car escort me everywhere and have to worry about always having my over size load banners up and wondering if ill fall through a bridge or if a port will let me pass through or if ill get a fine for getting stuck on the scales
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when i see a fat person, i think of the diseases associated of being fat, i'm kinda worried for them. i couldn't care less of their appearance unless if he/she has a beautiful face. to my mind they would look way more attractive if they lose weight.
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They eat a lot and don't exercise. It's that simple really. So they should adjust their diet and exercise. People make it harder than it sounds.
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I feel bad for them. I also don't like that society tells thrm it's normal and fine to be like that. It's unhealthy and hurts your chances in life.
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I really don't think anything...this could be because the area I live in...we are one of the top 10 fattest cities in the nation...so it's not something that phases me at all...it's actually the norm
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