There are a lot of things you should do, on a variety of levels. And considering you didn't give many details, these are all fairly general...:
1. learn some self respect. And I don't mean that in an insulting way. If you hate your job, stop torturing yourself doing it. If you and your bf argue all the time, stand up for yourself and tell him it bothers you/you're sick of it or that you'll leave him if he doesn't stop. Yes, these aren't easy things to do, given your living, financial, emotional, etc situations. But if you don't do anything to make change, then most likely nothing will change.
2. put things in perspective. You hate your job, sure. But is it THAT bad? Are you digging graves for minimum wage? Are you wiping old ppl's asses? Are you getting abused? I'm sure others have much worse jobs than you...or NO JOB at all. Your bf, maybe think of all the good things (if any) he does and try to weight if its worth the emotional state you are in now.
3. take time away from both. Maybe take a day off work to just enjoy a day to remember how good life can be. maybe take a couple weeks off from seeing your bf to either realize how little you need him or how much you want to still be w/ him.
4. think about what you need to change about yourself. There's nothing wrong w/ being emotional. But do you ever think WHY these things make you sad? is it an insecurity? fear? anger? Why do you feel get affected by these things and what can you do about yourself to no longer feel this melancholy? Maybe learning to accept whatever problems you have at work? Or maybe try to change that thing at work? With your BF, maybe learn to bite your tongue more often? Or maybe try to understand his perspective? Or maybe just try to get him to calm down and understand yours?
Well, you've got some decisions to make there, missy.
The first of which is deciding that your happiness, and not that of others, is the top priority in your life.
Once you clear that little hurdle, you'll be well on your way to a new job and a new boyfriend.
Then message me. I love listening and helping. I am only 16, but I am a volunteer psychologist's assistant and I would love to help you.
oh babe i'm sorry to hear that but you have the right for happiness...
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Explain to your boyfriend how you feel and that you love him.
That's what it means when people say "we're in this together". Seek support, if he loves you he'll be there for you and help you to feel better!
Wish you lots of courage, keep your head up and make it work!
Why are you afraid to tell others? If you talk to your family or friends, they will support you if they are good people. They also may be able to help you turn things around, it sounds like things haven't been going well and it can help to have others to lean on in dark times
Change. Do something with work that you can tolerate or even enjoy and or train yourself for a skill that you would enjoy. Leave anyone's company that you do not thoroughly enjoy. You live once so don't fuck it up wasting it being unhappy. You are in charge of you and no one else so from now on make better choices. Feel happy and free. Spoil yourself and smile more. Dump the guy and do not worry about dating. Improve and enjoy yourself.
Find a new job you don't hate and scale back your relationship until you catch your breath. You are a candidate for depression and you do not want that because you can lose EVERYTHING.
Uh... we can't help if we don't know why you're fighting.
Get a new job. Talk to your closest family members and friends.
Drugs..Drugs lessen everything
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