People that have cut I need your advice?

[Doglover417]

I've been trying to not cut and it's been 5 days I believe but in at my breaking point and am so tempted to cut. And I've been doing the butterfly project. Most people don't know about it but anyway. My bf well not really bf just cut his thigh and usually it's just a scratch and goes away in a day and idc because I've done worse but this time he drew a little blood and I'm so tempted to do it. But luckily for me my sisters in our bed room so I can't. Is it always this hard trying not to. And is there any other was to try not to cut.

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[Anonymous]

I used to be a cutter. I quit doing that because I was about to lose my friends over it. Ofcourse they supported me and were there for me but support only goes so far and after years of advice and watching me not following it, they had it. I don't know how I actually stopped and quit like that. Ofcourse I had a few set backs, but now I think I haven't cut myself in almost 8 years or something. I think I just realised it doesn't solve anything. Hurting yourself isn't the way to solve things, it won't change the situation. Plus, the scars are still there years later, reminding you of (let's be honest) a stupid mistake. I have some large cut scars on my arm and every year my mom asks me how I got them, new friends ask me how I got them but I'm ashamed of telling the truth. To be honest, I'm not even tempted to cut myself anymore. The first months were soooo hard, with every little thing I used to cut for I had to restrain myself from doing it.

I'm sorry I couldn't really help, I guess I'm off it for too long to remember how I actually got over it.

[Anonymous]

Oh, good grief. It's the worst feeling, isn't it? You need to keep yourself busy. Exercise, read, watch a movie, talk to some friends, go shopping, work. Whatever you can do. Once you have cut, you will always be a "cutter", but you don't always need to cut. You will always have the urge, but it will weaken with time. You might mess up and do it again, and that's okay; it happens. Just remember that you want to stop and to be strong, and focus on the positive things in life. You'll pull through. It's tough.

[Dionysos]

1. Salami slice time into manageable chunks. Tell yourself you're not going to do it right now.

2. Don't be with people that cut.

3. Be physically active as much as you can.

4. If you're going to cut, put it off for a bit and get help in stead. Call 911 if you have to.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

If you don't think you can make it today without cutting, try making each hour without cutting. If you cannot make it a whole hour, try to make the next 10 minutes... then the next 10 minutes after that.

You really should be getting professional help.

[Doglover417]

I think I can make it today if he doesn't keep trying to FaceTime me of message me while he's crying...

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Why would he even think you'd want to see him crying. So if you can make it today, then you can make it tomorrow. If you make it tomorrow, you can make it Wednesday. And so on.

[Mesonfielde]

Cutting yourself is so pointless. It literally solves NOTHING.

I'd rather just spend my days watching videos like

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3W3Q3FHzA-g&list=UUGtGTAa-xarr2HrEKRgRUHQ

[electromagnetic]

You should seek some professional help since you're trying to stop. It's a sign of recovery. They may know ways to help you pass time and not think about self harm.

[Doglover417]

I was fine not thinking of it then he went and cut himself and made himself bleed.

[electromagnetic]

That shouldn't effect you in any ways. That's his perception. If you cling to this self efforts, it'll only bring you back to self harm. You already said you wanted to stop. He shouldn't be your cause to return.

[beastman88]

i just work out, one day i really lost it and punched a huge hole in the wall with a boxing glove on lol i really didn't mean to, meant to hit a stud but i missed. really gotta hook up my punching bag again

[beastman88]

take your anger out on the outside world not on yourself, try to do it in positive ways though

[Anonymous]

Really sort of curious why you cut. What benefit does it bring you? What do you expect to gain from it? What's the desired result?

I've looked this sort of stuff up on the internet, but what I've read doesn't make much sense to me.

[Melisa321]

It releases anger. Brings physical pain so you stop feeling sad/anxious/depressedetc. for a few minutes

[Doglover417]

Exactly what melisa321 said. Also so you can feel In control of the situation some times.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess... still doesn't really make any sense to me, but that's probably just a difference in thought process.

Anyway, if you're not inflicting grievous injury upon yourself, what's the harm in it? Cuts may leave scars, but they heal, and won't cause permanent damage. If you feel that it brings you some sort of benefit, then why do you feel that you need to stop? Is it just because people tell you that you should? Does it cause more problems than it solves?

[Annymous8]

I used to, but I had my reasons. Now, I realize it wasn't the best thing. Occupy yourself with things you like to do.

[Doglover417]

That's a good idea. I can go back to making bracelets. Thanks