I am far to over sensitive?

[Anonymous]

I seem to get upset at thing far to easily, i do not upset when people call me names and stuff but when i get damaged feeling as result of my friends betraying me, or hearing someone has been talking about me for long time when i did nothing to them, i get so upset to point i am cry a lot, i know its stupid. I wish i was a strong person and just made it look like i didn't care, but i aways find myself having to explain myself to people and get upset when doing it, do anyone else get this?

Im sorry i know it is stupid question haha

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[SuperNurse42]

Nah you don't have to explain yourself to them. It sounds like some bullshit high school drama. Separate yourself from it. That shit stops or at least slows down when you get into college or graduate.

And it's not a stupid question, this is a lot more common than you might think.

[Asker]

Thanks for reply, yes recently my friends unfriend me because when i annoyed i swear, however i make up with them if you even call argument - and it okay next day but they didn't tell me anything was wrong and stop talking to me and leave me alone at lunch and breaks and left me alone kick out of the room we share for room trip which i made, and i understand my word swearing be hurtful but i don't mean them just words i say when annoyed, and they know, but they ignore me, tai about me make up stuff to stop me hanging around with other people so i alone in school now and i am quitting on Monday because i can't deal with the emotions i feel in school anymore knowing they never told me anything wrong or intact what i do, but they did they know would hurt me and just wasn't nice not apologise i say sorry and wished be friend but they say no, and i actually get upset write this as i defend my friend so much and have helped them so much they seem to forget about a lll advice i give them

[Asker]

But maybe i am just a bad bad person who is what i got made out to be which was a horrible person and feel sometimes i rather just leave the world and be happy cause i don't feel happy anymore they do this to me know i am not alway stable which things and i feel my life is just one big problem now

[SuperNurse42]

It's the people you are around that make you feel this way. It sucks, because you are essentially forced to see them in a social setting daily, which is school. The best thing you can try to do is tune them out. It's hard, but eventually you won't have to put up with them and you will realize your own self value as a person. Fuck them, they're nobody.

[Asker]

But do you not see me as bad person cause i swear when i am annoyed i do say harsh things about people but i not mean them literally like if i say the guy is a twat i mean idiot, but they suddenly nowhere say they don't like an don't want to be friends when they never tell me before they don't like, then say they give me chance when they never and say i have constant mood swings when i don't? I done so much for them i define them against popular kid in school and i look stupid for doing it i take shit for them and they say ' there more bad times than good' and i cry writing this as although this was months ago since this happen i found this people to be friends forever and now i have no one and say have you forgot about how i ended up in fight when a girl attacked my friend and i took it instead when i give a dive all time when i stick up for them but they UNFRIEND ME CAUSE I SAY BAD WORDS, i think nobody want friend like me, people hate me

[SuperNurse42]

That's a pretty dumb reason to see you as a bad person, but maybe you could be less harsh to others, unless of course you think they absolutely deserve it. Find friends that think like you, not against you lol. You're trying too hard to live up to these people's expectations. Set your own expectations for yourself. Can I ask how old you are?

[Asker]

Yeah i know i can be to harsh but i do not mean i said, so i try and stop myself but i tell them this but still i can not make them happy, if it is because my English you ask, sorry i am not English but i am 16

[SuperNurse42]

No I'm asking because it's common in your age group to desire to be accepted by your peers. What they think about you influences you more than what you think about yourself. Since this is the case, it's best just to find supportive peers and not negative ones.

Good luck to you (:

[Asker]

Aw thank you, sorry i think it was my english, i am italian! I am so grateful for your help, your very kind person, keep helping people :)

[SuperNurse42]

No problem. Glad I could help you (:

[ArabianPwincess197]

Hey it could be you're starting your periods and that's making it worse -talk to someone

[Asker]

It not like this it is just when i am upset over something i take to personal, its very stupid

[ArabianPwincess197]

I guess you need to talk to a counsellor - i. e. why you take things to heart - is it due to past experiences etc - she or he will help you re-evaluate things :)

[Asker]

Thank you! I get told this before, but i didn't want to do because didn't want to tell people anything cause i think everything is okay i am just a bit silly over thinking :)

[ArabianPwincess197]

No problem - glad 2 be of help :)

[Anonymous]

You will get a thicker skin as you get older

[Asker]

I really hope so:)

[Asker]

Im good at defending myself when i bullied but when friends say things etc i get very hurt and think about for week