The best thing to do is to talk to someone about this problem. The adults in your life who care about you aren't going to be horrified and angry about what you're doing. They know that this is a common problem. They will probably direct you to a therapist, where you can explore your past and learn how to change your life.
Besides being an effect of depression, it's also a cause, because it reinforces your belief that you deserve pain. You need to gradually build a lifestyle of avoiding cutting yourself, but it doesn't have to happen overnight. If it's possible to throw away what you're using to cut yourself, please do so. If not, put it in an inconvenient place. Whenever you feel like going to get the knife, try to figure out what you're thinking at the time. It's not easy to do that when you're depressed, but try to focus on your thoughts and examine what you're thinking. You're probably thinking, for instance, that you'll feel better or less guilty if you cut yourself. Challenge that thought: "What good will pain do me? Why do I think I'm deserving of pain? I've made some mistakes in the past, but does that really deserve this? I may not feel very happy right now, but people get better from this all the time, and they get stronger and more resistant. Besides, I'm going through the most anxious years of a person's life right now."
I have a scar from the last time I cut myself. It is possible for things to get better. We live in a time when the sum total of human knowledge more than doubles every ten years, so there are becoming better and better treatments for depression and anxiety or whatever issues are at the root of your cutting.
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Okay. I dont know what you're going through. im not going to pretend that I do. I can be the most depressed person in the world but I have different ways of dealing with things. In my opinion, scars have a sense of beauty to them. It shows how low people have been and how strong they are to still be here. Theyre something to kiss to try and make the pain go away. I wish I could be the person to help you to get over whatever it is that started it, but I cant. I wish I could be the person to sit down with you, talk to you, tell you that everything is going to be okay. But I dont know you, I dont know your situation and I wouldn't know where to start.
My advice, or as much towards reasonable advice as I can give - Try and find something to replace the addiction. Something to be a distraction. You could try something creative, physical, artistic. I found physical more useful. Id be so worn out, i wouldn't have time to be depressed. I could only ever be at my worst when I was alone and I could really over think the situation. So because I was so worn out, i'd just fall asleep and never be awake to be in that state.
On a brighter side (not sure if that helped), I see you're a gamer, what sort of games do you play :)? Im not like hitting on you xD I have a gf, I just like talking to new people, but im socially awkward now and I miss how talkative I was._.
Firstly, do you know what's causing it?
I found I had a trigger. I'd cut myself when I was depressed, especially about my weight. I would cut myself, as you say a little deeper each time, as a punishment for being my size and weight. Every time I thought about food I would punch my cuts to remind myself I couldn't eat. I felt in control, it was crippling pain, but it was pain I had control over.
The thing for me that made me stop was seeing a councillor. She asked me to start a diary, the idea being every negative thought, every worry, everything upsetting me I would put in the book. I wouldn't bottle anything up, and I wouldn't feel like I was pressuring my friends.
She made me understand why I reacted to things the way I did, inwardly rather than outwardly. As soon as I started to accept why I reacted the way I did, I felt it easier to control.
I didn't see a councillor out of choice. I saw one because my friends and teachers were concerned and put me with her.
Stopping on your own is extremely hard, even with a friend there it's easier. Do you spend a lot of time alone? Perhaps being with close friends and family more might help you stop, distracting yourself. Cutting is an addiction, but you can stop. And when you stop once, if you ever (please don't) relapse, it's easier to stop again because you've proven to yourself once before you can stop.
First step, since you're feeling this is an addiction, is to get away from objects that could be used for cutting... at least for a while.
It's important that you rid yourself of THAT kind of temptation.
Next, you need to talk about WHY you're cutting.
You need to talk to your parents about getting help from a professional.
It's all about learning what you're having issues coping with, and then developing the skills to cope with those issues in healthy ways.
I know you're not talking about suicide, thankfully, but the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline may also be able to help in some way. You can call the NSPL at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) too; the call is free, confidential and they are there for you 24/7/365.
Please keep seeking help as you're doing here!
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Instead of cutting to deal with your pain, try changing your life around so you don't have (as much) depression. Easier said than done, but let me give you a perspective towards decision making that might better your overall life.
It is a common, and perhaps the most immediate belief, that we can't change people around us... after all, they're just as vast and complex as you..
But a strong foundation in statistics will show you, the world is governed by probability. From your likeliness to develop cancer, to your chance of success approaching the girl you like. 100% probability is rare, too rare to seek out and making a living off 100% expected results. But there is most certainly better probabilities than you're dealing with currently..
FOR EXAMPLE, if you're 1% likely to get the guy you want without taking action and that jumps up to 15% if you say something, 25% if you get fit, etc... The chance of failing is still great, and that's how most people look at the world and their life's decisions.. but if you want to be happy, life is about bettering your odds, regardless if there is a greater chance you won't succeed.
You can manipulate ANY circumstances through effort. You can seduce your boss into paying you more. You can have sex with someone until you find them attractive. You can manipulate yourself and your environment. It is most accurate to believe that the only change in the world is made through YOUR actions. Everyone else has a set course, which you can manipulate through effort.
The most common mistake people make is expecting change to be someone else's responsibility or that the situation is out of their hands. If you want someone to change, change them. If you want things to be a certain way, manipulate the world into believing your perspective.The only way to stop cutting is to stop for 1 minute, then 2 minutes, then 3 minutes, working up to an hour, then 2 hours, 3 hours, working up to 12 hours, then 12 hours to one day, one day to two days, two days to three days, going up to a week.
It is not easy and the pressure will build within you. You will have to have strength and resolve to stop. I don't know how regularly you cut either.
Identify your triggers and remove the triggers from your life. You might need support but it can be done on your own too. If you feel you do not have the strength to do this alone seek help from your family and a trained professional. Good luck, you can get through this!When the emotions get too heavy, stop thinking about what it is that makes them come up. THEN just notice how it feels. NOTE: this is going to feel VERY heavy.
Just notice how they feel and how they are changing in your body. Stop thinking about what bit causing them to come up and just sit back and watch them. They will begin to change and travel through different parts of your body like your chest, arms, etc.
Keep watching them. Just watch them. As they change, eventually they WILL subside. Then, you will be freeGet help. Think about it when you cut, your problem is still there. It doesn't help anyone, it doesn't solve your problem. You just hurt yourself and things still suck. But instead, you could proactively try to fix the problem. If you just let the problem sit there it won't get better. But if you go out and try to fix it 9/10 times it will be better
Hun... first question is why do you do it? Second is what do you feel when you do it? Third one is, do you think you can stop it without help? I used to do that... cut myself, and I stopped at one point. If you want to, send me a pvt and I'll tell you about it, maybe that helps.
You need to sit down with your parents and tell them what you are doing. Then you will need to get help from a professional therapist to deal with your issues. Good luck.
This is serious. Talk to a psychiatrist. Like... now. Then get set up with a therapist who can help you work through why you have the urge to hurt yourself.
You don't have to live with that.You will have to see a therapist because cutting is the surface issue to deeper issues. You need to find solutions to the deeper issues first
Is there any real reason to cut? Or any particular reason? Because my question to you is why? Does it turn you on?
I wouldn't be able to help you.
The only time I cut myself is while shavingif you like it then keep doing it
Nobody like scars. If that helps. lol
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