My boyfriend said he would like me to gain to 350 pounds!?

[Anonymous]

I'm so much in love with my boyfriend, I thought I finally found someone who cares me as I am and doesn't mind I'm overweight. He's always saying I'm beautiful and sexy. I had hard time believing it but he really seems to like me.

I started a diet whatsoever, and first I didn't tell him because I thought I'd like to surprise him with my new slimmer figure. When I told him he said he doesn't want me to lose weight, but in fact, gain to like 350 pounds! That I would be sexier and prettier if I were fatter...
I feel really bad :( Like he didn't love me as I am.

[Paris13]

I find it amazing and beautiful myself when a man tells a woman he loves when she this heavyweight and doesn't mind. He loves you unconditionally on top of everything, sweetie, which is Music to your ears, I am sure.
And with telling you More of the same, he is also trying to tell you that by adding Fuel to the fire, I should say, he doesn't want any other guys looking your way or hitting on you by saying:I'm beautiful and sexy.
I read between the lines here, but of course, it Is your body, you own it, no one else should have to tell you what to do with it. And explaining to him that you would Feel Better in dropping a few, you can't and won't Put on any airs of "Putting on" any more Additives. Don't let it put a sour ball in your mouth or ever let you lose your own incentive to be the weight you want to be for You.
Just food for thought, but I know guys who are like this... Nip it in the bud now.
Good luck. xx

[Ray78me]

I think that he is being selfish i. e. he doesn't want you to lose weight for fear that others might find you attractive. By getting bigger, most men wouldn't want to date you.
Fact is: this is your life. You are losing weight to make YOU HAPPY. If he loves you, he would want you to be happy regardless of size. Plus, by telling you to gain 350 pounds he is not considering your health at all.
Finally, let's just say that you do gain these pounds, today tomorrow he leaves you, what then?
YOU SHOULD NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANYONE (THEY EITHER TAKE YOU AS YOU ARE OR NOT)

[Realistic07]

wow he has a fatty fetish. I suggest you tell him strait up to love you as you are and to respect what you want for your self and tell him that if he can't do that then leave him. life is full of twist and turns as you can see and some are for the best and some lead to dead ends. the good thing about dead ends is that we can learn from them and chose a new path for ourselves so we can continue to move forward. i say keep losing if it makes you feel good and you are happy with yourself and if he has an issue and feels that he can't love you for who you are and respect the choice you made for yourself then you leave him and move forward with your life. Before anything truthfully sit with him and tell him how he made you feel and let him know your decision. I wish you luck in what ever comes and in the choices you make for yourself just remember it is never to late to choose a new path in life. Good luck dear

[Asker]

thanks! i hope he would like me as i am :/

[Realistic07]

if he doesn't then are you really losing anything or are you just not wasting your time any more.

[Brianvv]

Leave the dude he wants you to be obese thats unhealthy if he wants a obese girl he should get one. People trying to change there partners is wrong unless there partner knows that they need to change and it would be good for them this would not be good for you in my opinion and think you would be very unhappy

[PinkAcid]

he sounds like a feeder (someone who likes to help their partner gain weight because fatter = sexier), which is dangerous because the more compliment you hear from him as you gain the more you want to gain until you reach extremes and put yourself at a giant health risk.

[Anonymous]

I think what he's trying to say is that he likes you for you... when your fatter.. He thinks that you didn't appreciate your body so you lost some weight.. When he said he want you to be fatter, he wants you to love yourself just the way you are.. before

[Mesonfielde]

That is a health risk, with numerous joint problems and cardiovascular issues. I would freak out if I was over 160 lbs with my 5'7".

[yourgeorgiapeach]

If your guy doesn't like your appearance, he doesn't deserve you.. He should've fallen in love with YOU first. The appearance is just an added bonus. ;) But seriously, do what makes you happy. If he can't appreciate that, then there's something wrong.

[Nsinger]

Yeah, like they said, 350 pounds is like adding the weight of 2 fully grown males to your body. Thats not exactly the best idea.

[abundantlyrich]

That's stupid.
He's better getting a huge bean bag and fill it up until it looks like the size of jabba and hugging it.

[abundantlyrich]

better off

[croxy]

You should continue with your diet. You will gain a healthier and more happy life

[Anonymous]

He's probably just meaning like hey I like you the way you are. Maybe that was his way of saying that you're not that overweight.

[front2back]

Wtf? Does he want you to protect the QB from the pass rush or some shit?

[AdamThomas]

He's a retard. Leave immediately.