Well skinny people are glorified and "bigger" women are constantly put down, so it makes sense that those who couldn't lose a pound even if they started starving themselves until their time of death should also get some kind of confidence boost so that they wouldn't feel shit about themselves. @AdamThomas loves skinny girls, personally I'm not attracted to them or at least so far I haven't been nearly as much as to curvier girls, and @lumos would come and tell me to go fuck myself for "skinnybashing" yet again. (it's happened before)
Technically you'll get supporters and admirers no matter what your weight, hell even some obese people over the weight of 210 lbs tend to find someone who finds them attractive (please note that's a health risk though). You don't have to lose weight nor have to gain weight for people to love you, the most important thing is for you to be healthy and stay healthy and accept yourself for your naturally optimal weight.
The whole problem here is cultural disconnect and the emphasis on weight. Some people find different shapes and ratios attractive, that's just how it is.
First off, we're not doing fat people any favours by telling them that it's OK to be fat. Keeping in good shape is ultimately about self-respect. It's true that, just because other people want you to be a certain way, that doesn't necessarily mean that that's the right way. But, it's also true that, just because other people want you to be a certain way, that doesn't necessarily mean that that's the wrong way. Rebelling for the sake of rebelling is pointless, and that unfortunately is what the fat-acceptance movement is all about.
But, really, I think the fat-acceptance movement is the nonfat-unacceptance movement. The truth is, unless someone is really obese, people aren't going to glare or make comments, and they never have done. So, the whole movement is based on a lie. This is really about shaming people, as you say.
Yeah, they are offensive. It's not ok to bash skinny girls, just like it is not ok to bash bigger girls. Sad truth is that girls who are overweight or fat get a lot of hate or get made fun of in real life, unlike skinny girls. I would know, I am overweight, if not fat. It rarely happens for a guy to turn a girl down for being "too skinny" , but it happens quite often for a guy to say "she's overweight" or "I like skinnier girls", which is probably the main cause of why those "Real men want curves, only a dog wants a bone" insults appeared and sort of make the bigger girl feel a bit better. In my case not, I personally believe making fun of people , no matter fat or skinny, is WRONG. I understand you, one of my friends is pretty skinny and she simply can't gain weight, even though she eats twice more as me, that doesn't mean we have the right to criticize her weight.
I personally think you should learn to ignore these types of observations, just like I did when guys made fun of me, because in the end all that matters is for you to be healthy and to feel good in your own skin :)
I don't think it's bad at least not worse than guys idolizing women who are clinically underweight.
Ideally we'd have a body ideal which is just healthy and somewhat realistic but I don't see that happening anytime soon, so what the hell.
Bigger girls get a lot of ridicule too despite the whole big butt thing that is going on. I actually really hate that. You know how nicki manjis anaconda is supposed to be about body confidence. I think implying that being stick thing with a huge butt is the only way to be attractive is far worse than any of the above
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I don't mind that bigger people are accepting their bodies and loving their curves. That's great. However, when they feel like they have to put other people down (thinner people in this case) in order to love themselves and their body, it shows that they are still very insecure and that they still actually don't really love themselves. Because if they truly did love their body, they would be able to do so in peace, without having to attack anyone. I also really hate how some of them try to justify it by saying shit like "well, now you know what body shaming feels like". That's just as stupid as bullying others just because you were/are bullied. It doesn't help anyone. You simply can't justify that.
I don't think it's doing bigger girls a favor at all. People should stop saying it. Plus it insults one thing to makes another thing sound better. I personally don't care if a person is heavier but if they are truly damaging themselves, I can't support that. There is also a big difference between 'curvy' and overweight. When I hear curvy, I think large breasts, wide hips, smaller waist, thick thighs. People use that term too much and often are incorrect. Being body positive is important to me but I'm completely against insulting another woman's figure.
Their excuse for doing this is simply that, bigger women are ridiculed in real life, so it's fine to say things about skinny women to make them feel better.
We have these trends, earlier in the 60s where a full body was attractive and later when they liked skinnier women.
In the middle sometime, men started going for more fit women and it keeps going back and forth.
The point is, the media affects people a lot. When I was 15, being skinny was the coolest thing ever. Suddenly, 4 years later, you need "curves" to be attractive. It keeps changing. Also, "curves" are defined by different people in different ways. Some women think curves mean being overweight, while some think it's literally having a curvy body.
I honestly think people should just stop putting each other down, and it's senseless for the media to have one body shape deemed as the most attractive.
Attractive people come in all shapes and sizes.
It's kind of like the romanticizing of black guys and their c*cks or maybe buff guys if you're a skinny guy. Many girls are into skinny guys and don't want to get destroyed by a monster c*ck. The same can be said for guys, curves do look amazing on some girls but most guys still prefer skinny on most girls.
You have to realize the media's perception of 'big' is nowhere near reality. All those posts about curves really just mean a relatively thin woman with large breasts and a butt, as opposed to a thin woman with neither.
For some reason people got it into their heads that the withered-away anorexics you see on runways were being promoted as sexy for their size, rather than the equally unhealthy women who starve themselves to stay thin but don't go to that extreme with it.
Personally I say if you're naturally thin, cool. If you're not, don't obsess over losing weight. And if you have curves or you're actually overweight, that's fine too as long as you're healthy and look after yourself.
Its nothing really new. During the renaissance and romantic period, women who were curcier were considered beautiful and the ideal body type. Dont get offended. For the past I dont know how many years media has been bashing fat women into thinking they aren't beautiful cause of their body types. The way I see it is if you're comfortable in your own skin thats all that matters. Try not to let it get to you.
I think it's a double standard. They'll talk all about body acceptance then you have people like Meghan Trainor (no idea if I spelled that right, don't care) and Nicki Minaj bashing skinny women.
I think it's laughable anyway. If you have to tell people (and yourself) and try to convince them that you're attractive, you probably aren't. Let them keep lying to themselves.
It is what it is. Some people are naturally skinny, some are heavier, some girls have larger breasts, some have smaller. Some guys are blessed down there, and others come up short. Everyone has their own definition of ideal, and there will be lots of people who don't fit that.
TBH I think those pictures are directed more towards women who starve themselves so they're skinny. If you're just naturally skinny (and healthy, obviously) then the pictures aren't directed toward you.
I don't lean in any direction, I like skinny girls, and I like bigger girls. As long as they're healthy and in moderation lol
Yeah that's not true. All of us like different girls. Thin is by no means unpopular though lol. Have you looked at who those Hollywood actors date and marry? It's safe to say they aren't desperate.
Well i guess that doesn't mean bigger women in the normal sense but it means skinny women having a cury body. Its not like being the "overweight big" is attractive but the skinny with well proportioned "big" curves is sexy. Anyways different men have different tastes so its not wise to generalize.
this is bullshit. that's why I went of facebook, you also see a lot of girls liking the "a guy has to be.." stuff. most are bullshit.
SOME Real men prefer curves. That's what it should read. Skinny is best for me
I don't like it. I mean I like them being romanticized a bit, but not at the cost of others being put down. It doesn't help the situation.
You don't need to gain weight. I prefer skinny girls over thicker girls any time of the day. Those pictures are just to make thicker girls feel better about themselves.
Just ignore it. They just feel big about themselves.
People putting others down to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities. Love yourself and the rest will follow :D
u She would have to be trying to lose a lot of weight and have a really pretty face for me to do it
say nooooooo to de fattie boom bahs!
i'm sure a lot of guys would like you
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