How do you feel about your self?

[shyinsanity]

I want complete honestly. Go anonomously if you have to. I have some pretty big issues with my self esteme self worth. I know how important it is from the situations my lack of has put me in. So I wonder how people deal with this in themselves. I have looking down 'cause of the "second chin"thing. I think my thighs are gross. I look at my body and go back n forth. sometimes i'm like "Damn gurl you fine today." But othertimes i can't even look. I'm ashamed of my body. I wish i was a vergin again. I wish i didn't let people hurt me. But shit happens right? All i can do is think forward but what are your coping things? How do you stay sain?

[Anonymous]

Basically i hate myself.. I am a liar, i lie to friends, family and most of the time to myself... a lot. It has gotten better of the past months but its still a habit and a bad one at that... I started to lie about 4-5 years ago i was kinda in a depression had pathetic thoughts about life and suicide. Bad grades, high expectations from friends, family and teachers... I started to play games all day to drown myself in another world where i could live as someone else who was good at something, who was respected, not bullied an such.
But then I met my first girlfriend when i was about 17 it was like an angel came down from heaven to hell and gave me a lift into another world.. I started to get over my depression started to learn more, play less video games, i started to workout and work on my crap self-esteem.. Then about 3/4 years ago she left me for some reason since she wanted to be friends... i have asked her why she left but i never got a clear awnser.. just things like: "you were the best boyfriend i couldve ever imagined to have but there are some things i can't accept" .. no details just that.. i got desperate, my depression started to come back and then i developed a "i give no fucks about everything" attitude.. i basically try to smile my way through everything.. put on a mask of joy and cheerfulness but inside i feel like i could cry nonstop but tears just won't come out.. But i cherish these beautiful memories i have that define the way i am now.. my heightend self-esteem, my lean, muscular body earned through hard work, my knowldege of doing laundry and so on :D But its exactly as you say.. there is no point in trying to linger in the past what matters is what is now and what you can learn from what hasn't worked in the past
cheers mate :D

[Anonymous]

I do not like myself. Or, I should say, I don't think anyone likes me and THAT makes me hate myself. I'm a very loving and kind person, but I also have very little self-confidence and while I'm not bad looking, I have absolutely no "game" as it were. Chicks would rather scald themselves repeatedly with a hot metal cactus then even think about being with someone like me. I'm 20 years old. I've kissed one girl once, (who is now a lesbian), I've held hands with a girl ONCE two days ago, (my best friend felt sorry for me or something), and I'm just gonna die alone. All I ever wanted was a family, but it's not gonna happen. I'm not blaming girls or anything for not wanting to be with me, I don't have what they want, but it doesn't lessen how miserable I am.

[shyinsanity]

I think your sadness seeps though. Maybe if you work on your confidence in your self it might help? I as a girl and very open minded. I don't judge bast off looks but more your personality. That and you don;t need to have done all your firsts. Just find that girls to be the last. Maybe you haven't really done anything before but that's the same with a lot of people. You'll find a girl and she'll have been worth the wait.

[Opinion Owner]

@asker

I really, really doubt that I will, but I think you're right about my inner self showing. Again, I can't blame them for not wanting to be near me.

[Opinion Owner]

@asker

And it's hard because how confident you are IS your personality, and people always judge it even if they say they don't.

[shyinsanity]

I try and judge positively or at least have a filter. If anything i think of ways to help with the negative things say wise words if i have them.

[Aboredperson]

Honestly, I hate myself. I hate myself for not being pretty, for being too skinny. I hate myself for being a person who just can't seem to get their act together when it looks so easy for everyone else. I hate myself because I get too wrapped up in my own issues to notice if anyone else is depressed or whatever.
But, I admire that I can put it all aside and realise that life doesn't stop if you're in a bad mood or you're feeling sad. I can still routinely work on bettering myself, so that I'll be a good person one day.

[BelleGirl21]

I'll start with some positives. I'm kind, happy, very forgiving and accepting. I'm energetic, strong, intelligent and content with my looks.

Some negatives: stubborn, emotional (not like crazy mad but I get depressed easily), very opiniated, a loud mouth -like y'all have probably noticed. I'd like thicker hair and thinner thighs. Would like to lose a little weight but not willing to give up junk food. I don't have a cute cheesy smile. My face isn't symmetrical. I could go on lol...

[shyinsanity]

No ones face is symmetrical. that's physically impossible, Plus, give you character.

[notverycreativeguy]

I don't really know,
I am too strange, I hate life, I love it,
I am a really bad person, I think I wouldn't even care if someone got killed right next to me,
but actually, in the right mood I am a good person, hoping to be able to help anyone who needs help, having the feeling that I am supposed to protect people, help them. Then again, I am basically never in the right mood, which means I am usually treating people like crap.
I hate myself, I love myself,
I dislike my looks, I accept them.
I never know what to do, yet there's always something I am thinking about, giving me headache.
After all, I see nothing good in myself, but I somehow want to show people that I am better, for in case of success, at least others will see me as someone worth being liked.

[Northeast106]

You worded that perfectly. I think millions have those exact thoughts, but don't state it as clearly as you have.

[Alexious]

Well.. I kinda regret my teenage life. I'm 20 in November, and I never went to all the parties like I wanted to. I didn't know the people and I wasn't ever invited.
I've only ever been to two.
I basically never had a teenage life...

I often feel undesirable, I always see my friends in relationships and going home with girls.. That doesn't ever happen to me. I haven't been in a relationship, and I haven't even kissed a girl legitimately. Like, I've kissed a girl on the cheek, but not in a love way.

I'm pretty skinny as it stands, but I'm working on that atm. I'm eating like 2500 calories a day because my metabolism is so high I burn calories by thinking... (literally)

I'm not sure as to what's going to happen to me in the future.. I finish college in the Summer, and I have a lot of work to do and I have to think about what decisions I should make.

[BelleGirl21]

1. You're cute
2. I never was the partying type and I turned out okay ( :/ debatable)
3. You're so young, you'll have plenty of chances
4. You probably don't want to hear any of that lol

[Alexious]

@BelleGirl21

Thank you :')

You definitely turned out okay xD Hopefully I will too :')

[Illusive_Man]

I'm rather insecure about my voice.
If I have a choice , I want to sound like Michael Ironside.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtV0r9Rt1V8

but no.
I sound like a chipmunk with cheeks full of nuts on Sulfur Hexafluoride

[HuckyHucky]

I'm like two people in one. So many things about me are contradictory.

I do like myself and I don't. I know I'm a good person. I think that's what keeps me confident. Knowing that at the core, I'm good. So no matter how I look or how other people are treating me I am worth something and I have a purpose, and I know it. Once you know that, nobody can take that away from you.

Otherwise, I'm full of self-doubt. I try to keep it on the back burner, though. 🔥

[Aristotle]

I like a lot of things about myself, don't like some. I'm painfully loyal. I'm generally kind and considerate, I have half decent morals and try and be open to everyone's opinions, even if I strongly disagree. I'm decent looking, or at least I've never had a problem finding girls, I look after myself. I do have some deep seeded problems though. I have major trust issues, I find it hard to care about new people and let them in. I force myself to be extraverted to be successful, when I really just wanna cuddle some cute girl and live isolated from other people. I've made some mistakes in the past, there are a lot of broken bridges but I'm just working on building new ones. Psychologically my mind is pretty complex and confusing, and sometimes I feel like my emotions make me lose control. Also, I let people I love have too much impact on my well being.

My problems are insignificant compared to other peoples' though. I generally have a good life, so I try and appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

I criticize myself a lot too. Especially about my body, but I have severe trust issues too. I have a bad habit of thinking all my friends secretly hate me even though I know they don't.

I dealt with it by going to therapy, but my therapist got the stomach bug one week and had to cancel my appointment. I called to make another one and left a message on the answering machine, but I never heard anything back so I haven't been to therapy in about three months. Which definitely doesn't help with my trust issues.

I don't know if you're religious or not (no judgement if you are or not), but I deal with it through praying now. It helps me get though knowing that I have at least one person who I can lean on.

[Anonymous]

I just don't give a s#it about anything or anyone except my finances and my body. My body just because it's the only thing that is mine, only mine and nothing but mine. Working out, keeping a 6 pack and stuff.
Was never good for my parents, have never been good enough for any girl. Every girl I meet wants something from me that I don't have, blonde hair, blue eyes, a more expensive car, my house in the inner city and not a suburb, tattoos... You name it.

Overall I do wish I was never born though, life just wasn't meant for some people.

[BelleGirl21]

Sounds like you're meeting shallow girls, that's sad :(

[shyinsanity]

I wouldn't worry too much about the girls. try making friends of all genders and some times that might get better from a friendship. might gerentee a girl who values you as a person.

[CHARismatic110]

I guess I have a love/hate relationship with myself. I've been through a lot. I went from completely hating myself to finally starting to be able to accept myself. I've been called names pretty much all my life. I know I'm not the thinnest or the prettiest girl out there. I have a big heart that has been broken more times than I'd like to admit. I'm scared to let people in. I'm a work in progress.

[BelleGirl21]

You've accomplished so much and I know you'll continue to conquer every problem in life!

[CHARismatic110]

@BelleGirl21 thank you so much!

[lonelycali]

It is hard to stay sane. I struggle with it everyday. But you have to take it one day at a time. I have very low self-esteem. I took a self-esteem self test the other day and scored a 3 out of 54, so I know what you are going through. My body image sucks, I think I am worthless. But I keep doing it, one day at a time.

[shyinsanity]

Every try to improve your body to a healthier way? make your self proud and work o0n it? i started on a diet. I try and take care of my body and look upwards. im getting better.

[lonelycali]

I have. I have gained and lost large amounts of weight (100+ pounds) and no matter what I weighed, my body image sucked.

[shyinsanity]

hm, i guess just trying to be healthy and be happy with your self. There isn;t much anyone can do to help with that. it's your own mentality.

[Anonymous]

I don't like myself. Sometimes I feel like a bad person, sometimes I feel like I'm mad. I feel like I'm both sometimes. I try not to dwell on such thoughts though because, in the end, they're not helping anyone. I may not be worth much but at least I can try to help those I love and contribute to society so that I'm not a complete waste of space :)

[springocelot]

i'm a plain Asian girl who many people think looks mexican. sometimes i get sad because i don't feel i have accomplished much in life compared to others my age. so this makes me think that mentally, i'm about 5-10 years younger than my actual age.

to stay sane, i exercise and remind myself that millimeter shifts in perspective can bring about lasting positive change in the future.

[etpige]

I use to hate my skin tone, my body type, my facial features, etc. But I've grown to love most of it, especially my skin, I actually love it. I think I look great in gold and white and reds/ oranges. I think that's what is important, to find things you can love about yourself no matter what day it is. My hair can be an ass to me sometimes, but my skin is always the same and I can enjoy that.

I'm a very happy person, and I'm being completely honest about that. It took a while though.

[11super]

I am very insecure I have been made fun of from fourth grade my last year of college when it started to get better and from all that I am still very insecure so when I feel that way I tell myself so what if you don't look perfect today who is going to see you that you care about and if someone your are going to see and you really care then they should not judge and if they do well then that probably means you make them feel insecure and they are just jealous of you and what happened in the past is in the past so what you made a few mistakes we all do so just don't live in the past because that's all it is is the past

[aamy811]

I feel really bad about myself but pretend like I live myself.
Looking at myself in the mirror is so very very hard and so upsetting. Every time I find a new imperfection I have to right it down and then I'll spend forever thinking about how ugly very one must think it is or how ugly every one thinks I am.
No matter how well I do I know someone is doing better so I feel so worthless.
I just overall never feel good enough with anything I do or have done with my life

[Anonymous]

Don't keep on reading if you don't want to be depressed.

I hate myself. Always have, always will until the day I die which I hope will be soon and won't hurt my family.

I'm ugly, stupid, lazy, depressed, worthless and broken. Death will be a reprieve.

[shyinsanity]

It's your choice to feel this way. I mean everyone is overcome by emotions but you let your self be drowned in it. learn to swim and things might look better.

[Klaatu51]

i feel like that i was born in the wrong era basically

i'm an 80s boy in heart and soul, living in the 10s

[DontDropIt]

I feel great about myself. You should feel great about yourself too :) You are your worst critic & all you can do IS go forward like you say. There's always room for improvement.

[Northeast106]

@dontdropit I wished more people felt this way, it's so true though.

[DontDropIt]

@Northeast106 yup!

[Tmega]

I'm insecure about how i look because i have older brothers who are ripped and i am supposed to live up to their athletic legacies but i like who i am as a person. I have pretty strong morals and like what i do. I wish i was taller and more confident socially but for now i'll be okay. At least i know there are people out there in the same boat. :)

[The_Technomancer]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgIqecROs5M

The lyrics at 1:40 to 1:50 about sum it up.

[zombiebabe]

i would say i feel like this about myself
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