What are some of your tried and tested ways to become more happy and at peace?

[Anonymous]

since I've been down sad anxious and overly worried for no to very small causes lately. my mind is a battlefield with lots of constant thoughts and worries. i think i should take up mediation and sign up at a gym. have u ever felt this way and how did u overcome it?

[octopicklets]

In times of stress or other similar duress, I prefer to be alone. Simply put, be alone. Let go of being in touch with everyone. Turn your phone on silent and put it at the opposite end of the house, sit down by a window and just think. Better yet, go outside and enjoy nature for a bit. It's just that opportunity of silence and calm that really gets you feeling like everything is in control. Use your time while doing that to actually put things into control or realize your situation. Sometimes it's just better to get over things or drop them out of your life.

Take your own breather, it doesn't have to be meditation or exercising, though I hear those help a lot. But anything that gets you to slow down and just enjoy life. Life is finite, and really you should enjoy it for the little things rather than worrying about them.

I don't know if you're into the religious kind of thing, but know that everything is in the most capable hands possible.

My mantra for anxiety is, " I am cool, calm, and collected." And a bunch of little things like continuously drawing infinity signs (it's supposed to be calming and I find it actually is) or comparing and contrasting things/people around you.

Hope you feel better, bud. I know anxiety sucks a load, I go to school 30 minutes early to sit in my car and say my 'mantra' over and over again every day. But if you really have to worry, worry a lot and make sure it's worth every second.

[Asker]

yeh I guess I just need to find ways to quiet down my mind like when im by myself I have many thoughts overlapping each other mostly negative thoughts and worries. the thing is I know they are not even worth it and im really just overthinking it but I can't help myself. I've been feeling pressure on my chest and actually feel sick from thinking. there're no major problems that's the thing they r just thoughts

[rollsroyce12345]

QA your mind is a reflex organ, your thoughts reveal nothing more about you, than a spot at the end of your nose. good luck

[rollsroyce12345]

The reason your not happy, is because your not doing the right things for yourself. Your not going out and achieving goals for yourself, and achieving them. Humans by nature are selfish, and if we go against that, we become unhappy, because we are not filling our own needs first. Instead we worrying too much about pleasing others, friends, family etc. We also rely too much on others on making us happy, and that we never happen. You take responsibility for your own happiness.

If your not for filling needs, you then become unhappy.

[rollsroyce12345]

I am not saying you have to be a people pleaser, or become asshole. Its about becoming a grounded person. Knowing when to put your needs first, and knowing when to help others.

[Asker]

I have worked and achieved some of my own important goals last year they were stressful but once i achieved them they gave me a short high. However im on my next things now and its getting stressful again I guess im just getting tired cuz I feel like life is like jumping from one obstacle to the next to a point that once i achieve somethingit doesn't make me happy anymore cuz I know more are waititng

[rollsroyce12345]

Start taking responsibility for your own life and fixing your own problems first, before fixing other peoples problems. Then only you will achieve happiness. The best relationship you can have, is the relationship with yourself. If you haven't got a good relationship with yourself, its going to be impossible for anyone else to make you happy.

[rollsroyce12345]

what are those goals? I don't mean goals as in problems? When I say goals, I mean like achieving something good for yourself. getting a good career, being able play the piano, becoming good at martial arts, getting a black belt in a art. achieving something that's out your comfort zone. Are stressed because you don't like going out your comfort zone.

[rollsroyce12345]

The other problem your having, is your thinking that goal is going to make you happy. Here is a video. I suggest you watch them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfwEjBwUtoM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BHVdFLti6UI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6nnzCeeAYT0

[rollsroyce12345]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDnPCLnNfhg good video, how to feel happy.

[Asker]

like last year i changed job got the job that I really want and successfully migrated into another country. they made me very happy for a short time but lately I just feel sad like there're no major problems I just think and overthink too much of the smallest things. and I found myself writing down again and again all my thoughts obsessively. a big book is just full of my writing of all my thoughts mostly negative. there's no major problems going on though that's the thing.

[rollsroyce12345]

Could you possibly have OCD? Obsessive compulsive disorder? If your like that all the time, its something you should consider checking out.

[Asker]

I've googled OCD I dun think I have it but I think I might have generalised anxiety disorder though, some of the symptoms are pretty much the same as mine

[rollsroyce12345]

OK, Go to your doctor and find out. Ask if you can have therapy, CBT or the linden method helps for those. I wouldn't try medication, unless its really bad.

[rollsroyce12345]

Anxiety can also cause depression, if not treated. So that might be why you feel sad a lot of the time. But exercise is the best thing for anxiety. Yoga is the best, because it will make you calm, and it help you to relax. Trying giving yoga a go. I think it will help you a lot.

[Asker]

Yes im signing up for a gym they have yoga classes there too. Thank you for all ur input really helpful!

[rollsroyce12345]

No problem good luck. All the best. Thanks for MHO

[rollsroyce12345]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDnPCLnNfhg One more video, it will help you with depression

[Xelebrum]

Injecting 3 to 5 whole marijuanas into my pee pee.

KIDDING, just kidding.

For me playing video games would help me feel better when I would have moments of depression and anxiety. As for long term, I actually have not experience depression in over 4 months all thanks to this girl I'm talking to. Man.. she means the world to me. I actually haven't cried myself to sleep in months, which is HUGE for me.

But yeah video games are pretty great :)

[MadeInAmerica]

I run, box and sometimes just try to clear my mind just relaxing and playing with the kids. If my mind is feels over stimulated I play video games too. Just find more things you enjoy. Don't mask it. You have to battle them.

[Illusive_Man]

Lift heavy weights.
Weights so heavy you clench so hard you feel as if your teeth are gonna crack.
Then drop them.

FEEL THAT DOPAMINE RUSH THROUGH YUR BODY!!

[DaveyBaby107]

Yea, I quit giving a damn. People like to overthink things or whatever. I found it very freeing to just be me.