Why is it SO important to be slim?

[newprecedent]

Do people in all honesty care that much about how SKINNY my body parts are? I have a mother who is telling me off for not being slim like my cousins and friends, it's ridiculous, as if I had committed some wrongdoing ><. I'm not fat, I'm simply average but in this society there's no middle way it's either skinny or fat!

So: Guys - How important is it for girls to be slim?

Girls - How much does it matter to yourselves?

[angel-gt]

One of the first expressions one learns when he ventures to learn english is that beauty is skin deep . I have to partly agree to that . It is sure reppeling to see a girl who's obese . Yet , a few more kilos than average is not a big deal . To be more precise it is healthy to be fatter than the average man or woman since the role models we've been given as a generation are way too skinny .

To make a long story short , I suppose that you are a nice looking curvy girl that fully depicts the beauty as all the artists from the classic era to the renaisance have seen it in aphrodite and such works of art . If you feel ok with your weight , you don't have to worry about other people's oppinions .

P.S parents most of the times try to force onto their kids the people they've failed to be . (not that this is in any way degrading of any parent . Just the ways of man . )

[newprecedent]

Thankyou I couldn't agree more. My own mother has never succeeded into becoming as skinny as she wishes I was.

[johnny_hustle]

I don't like a girl who is too skinny, if she's thin then I guess its alright, and being huge is obviously a turn off as well. I would say normal with maybe bit more leaning on the heavier side is fine. If she's healthy that's always good but yeah having sex with someone who is real skinny would feel like I'm going to break her. while a girl on the average maybe leaning skinny or heavy either way would be more comfortable and hey more cushion for the pushin =]

[rasa_aesthetic]

Im one of those people that need to be a certain weight for a certain sport

for basketball I need to be average so I can use my booty to knock people around

BUT

during track season I have to be under weight so I can make it over the high jump bar easier.

so Right now I have about two months until track so I'm cutting my calories WAY down and drinking lots of water, and exercising outside of practice. so far I have lost 15 pounds.

I don't think I get any more male attention either way, but I feel better when I'm underweight.

[justkissher]

Haha, it's funny. I'm actually really skinny, but I'm trying to gain more weight. Guys like 'more cushion for the pushin'.' ;) But on a more serious note, as long as the girl is healthy, what much matters more? I was telling my mom how all my friends kept saying I was too skinny and she replied back "Are you sleeping well? Are you eating? As long as you're healthy, what does it matter whether you're fat or skinny?"

[Vivaldi]

For example I smoke cigarettes. I am too unhealthy.

[poulette12]

How much does it matter to me? The answer is: it depends. Sometimes I feel like being skinnier would be nice. But most of the time I think losing my curves would suck! I'm a healthy weight so I try to be happy with that. Moreover guys always seem to like my curves so...

[OutOfMyElement43]

I don't know how you're defining "skinny" or "slim." It is important for me to be with someone who wants to stay fit, and in shape (not obsessive about her weight). It is important for me to be with someone who cares about eating a healthy diet. Overall, It is important to me to be with a girl who wants to be healthy and live an active life. I wouldn't want a couch potato.

[Killfest400]

Weight is only really a deal-breaker for me if you are actually unhealthy because of your weight. Being average is fine. Being a bit chubby is fine. Being unable to jog because you can't carry your own weight (literally) is pathetic and extremely unattractive.

However, self-image is very important. I don't want to be with a girl who constantly needs reassuring that she isn't grotesquely obese. If you don't like you for yourself, then how can I like you for who you are?

[Deathecutioner]

Theres difference to skinny and healthy. You can be over your wight limit for your hight and still be healthy.

Some guys don't really care about weight others do. its a mixed bag, just gotta pick the right one.

-Deathecutioner

[soldat]

A girl's weight is pretty important for romantic interests. If you only want platonic guy friends then weight isn't very important. Btw, the average American woman is fat, so you should aim to be below average.

[Standingpretty]

Sometimes I feel as ifit's important for guys to like me, but that's definitely not most of the time. I am me and I can look good without being a "lollipop".

[justaroo]

if ur not fat , and being slim doesn't matter to you , then its not an issue at all. chances are ur cousins and friends are too skinny for my liking. seriously some of the super models are so gross due to their skinniness.

[shes-a-lady]

as long as I feel comfortable in my own skin I don't care if people call me fat or anorexic =)

[Anonymous]

Well for me it is only important if I were dating the girl. I prefer the skinnier girls. Any other time, I couldn't care less.

[tyrantfuryre]

If for no other reason...uh, health..maybe? :|

[Anonymous]

I think your mother is crazy.