Why am I so lonely and have no life at all?

[Anonymous]

I met some people that are similar to me and don't believe them!! There online status is good, like on instagram like thousands of followers.. I have no life, I like being alone, but not to the point 24/7... this is the end of me, my future will be putting down anyone... I'm a devil now... listen to the sound of roaring thunder..

[ak666]

Under 18 -- assuming high school. It can really suck.

The thing is, later you find that you might have more in common with more people than you think. In high school, it's the peak of conformity, superficiality, things of this sort.

So people start to dress, act, behave in a conformist sense, conforming to whatever clique to which they belong. That may not even reveal their true selves so much, only that they want to conform and belong.

Later you find a lot more people with whom you share similar interests, at the university level and beyond.

Just try to hang in there and not judge people so much as a spectator looking from the outside. You'll develop a very negative view of people that way, looking only at the surface. Have patience and find the right environments where you can know a lot of people from the inside, their genuine fears, vulnerabilities, life goals, etc., and you'll find a lot more you can admire, as well as a lot more you find in common about all of humanity in general.

[Asker]

Reading this made me think u know nothing.. I'm don't wanna say the 4 letter word that starts with d... coz the question get removed.. I'm will do it naturally with some tricks.. it's useless. . it's traveled e erywere and nothing changed,, I'm 17 and next year I'm 18.. wich is my last year I live here... even the people who have mental ikenss. . I don't believe that when I talk.. they say there alone.. but if they were. . they'd talk to me more. . I have low self esteem to do... it's over. . it's not trying to be attentionn seeking. .. or am I?

[ak666]

Are you talking about opposite sex (girlfriends), just friends, or both?

[ak666]

Being alone isn't a quality to have in common. Preferring to be alone might be, but it's usually not enough to make a friendship last. Having the same interests might establish a stronger bond (ex: if both of you are artists).

[Asker]

She's a girl yes. . and yes a great bond.. but fuck it. . I'm done seriously... happens so much and I end up deleting them coz I get med when they don't start a conversation and there online.. I am low esteemed more then I know. . I have problems. . and I know people have worse.. but everyone is dkfferant and I just don't take life seriously at all anymore. . I don't want a girlfriend... a good friend is great. . but that's impossible and Idc. .. no more

[ak666]

Ever tried traveling to a new country or a completely different kind of region in the same country? Sometimes I've gotten so sick of the people in a country in general that I just moved overseas and found a totally different kind of people who value different things and tend to be far more welcoming and kind in general. It's kind of a huge and desperate move, but it can work if you just feel miserable and trapped with people you find to be obsessed with bullshit all the time.

[ak666]

Mostly all this idea of living and thriving in society is based on buying into social constructs -- which get further and further abstracted from our primitive state which is just kind of eating, breathing, shitting, fucking, simple stuff. If you feel detached from society and like an outcast in some sense, it might be worth seeking a change in environment -- you might be seeing beyond all these constructs and seeing deep down and realizing it's all BS. We tend to get happy from illusions -- constructs we build like "career", worshiping paper and metal we use to trade for goods. You can kind of find people who are less abstracted and enjoy simpler things in life with a change in environments, traveling can help a lot to expand those horizons if you feel trapped as an outsider.

[Asker]

Yes I hate the people in m country... and I hate Canada as well.. the only people I truly love is Japanese and Korean. . wixh is more then impossible to go there now.. but still.. I can't. . sorry man.. just forget it... I don't wanna involve u.. I don't want to be a seeker or something if I don't hear your words... I guess I only have therapy left.. sorry..

[ak666]

It's all right - this is more interesting to me than some question about whether a girl or guy likes the person asking the question or not. But if you prefer not to talk about it so much, it might help to seek a professional opinion.

[Asker]

IL try.. thanks for the answer tho

[Shorty1991]

Yeah I'm getting pretty fed up of those questions too. It just ends up going round in circles.

[Anonymous]

It's much better to be single, than with a modern woman.

Secondly, many people are in your position. As long as your standing in society isn't affected you shouldn't be dependent on others... I mean it would be nice if people weren't so mean, but that's the world of the modern west

[Asker]

I would abuse someone.. if I still like this in a few years I will be called a sexual abuser... even tho I don't want.. but I wanna be a devil.. even if it involves no touching.. actually.. hurting the heart matters more to me.

[Opinion Owner]

First of all, it's up to you. Secondly, I think you need to learn about the pre-feminist history of our world, and know about non-feminist countries... you will learn a LOT... Marital rape still isn't a crime in many nations, just so you know. Things have just become shitty since the 20th century. Third, you can always use hoes

[Asker]

U mean bitches. . ya bitches that's right!👍

[Opinion Owner]

It's not that every woman is a prostitute all the time... but the natural apotheosis of the feminine attitude is prostitution

[Asker]

It's so sad.. I have the most wonderful heart ever to a girl... but I do it on purpose to be mean... I have to be mean

[Opinion Owner]

Delusional kid... you think this sounds cool? Stop watching stupid western/japanese media and throw all the women out of your life.

[Asker]

Man fuckwoman... do u really think I go give flowers to girls.. I don't even talk to girls..

[Shorty1991]

Yes there are probably thousands of people around the world who are the same as you. I think the main problem stems from the fact that most people would rather stay at home all day playing console games, watching tv, on their computers or glued to their phones. It all becomes so addictive.
Your not alone, I have been through the same phase as you but it was after I left secondary school. My so called friends messed me around. I decided to sever all ties with them as I had enough of them treating me like shit. Then I was left with no one and became a hermit. I didn't find any real friends until I started working. There are so many twisted people out there, just out to manipulate you. It's hard to find true friends that you can actually trust.

[Asker]

Yeah
... I was just watching videos on how lethal injections work and they were doing it and how they hang people to death .. you see my negative mind. . it tells me "ITF u really had a miserable life and me talk illness, then prove it to me by going suicide, if people don't go suicide, that means there life is painless"

[Shorty1991]

Only you can make those changes by getting out more and meeting people. Believe in yourself. Unless you want to stay, lonely, depressed and sexually frustrated for the rest of your life. Suicide is a cowards way out. You won't solve your problems by running away from them.

[Shorty1991]

Block out those negative thoughts and think positive for a change. Nothing will happen for you if you just sit back and wait on it coming to you.
I watch horror films with blood and gore. Hell! I used to be an Xbox addict, when everyone else preferred knitting I would be too busy shooting zombies, racing cars and knocking people down. It doesn't mean that I would even contemplate doing it in reality. That stuff is best left in the world of virtual gaming. Same goes for your movies. That's what they are, those people aren't really hanging themselves. It's just made to look like it. Too much doom and gloom in your life, the odd comedy wouldn't go a miss. Look, dude. All we can do is share our opinions with you. If you don't think they are very helpful then I suggest you seek professional help.

[Asker]

I do need professional
Ssional help... really do.. my mind is a bitch