Anger issues A little understanding would be nice?

[Anonymous]

Hi all,
I've been told in the past that I have anger issues. Mostly from one source, but I do get angry about things. However, I have worked to have a control on it. Also, I like to use my anger as a source of strength when I can. I don't think others understand that part.
The only time I really get angry is when someone "hurts" an innocent, like young children.
By hurt, I mean yell angrily at them, or neglect them. I'll yell back at the adult.
I also get angry, over a long time, by being annoyed by stupidity and inefficiency.

I'm also not afraid to get physical if the confrontation allows for it. I've taken many martial arts so I can properly handle conflicts and protect myself and others.
What do you think?

Thanks

[ak666]

Temper + martial Arts can make a bad concoction for relationship settings (companies, lovers, family, etc).

You might never lay a finger on an innocent person but punch a wall or just get really aggressive. Being able to channel anger like a soldier to get an adrenaline boost would be useful if we were in a battle, but we're not typically.

A lot of the battle in a civil setting is being able to control your emotions, to be able to breathe and calm yourself down. That's practical "manliness" in an environment where there is no enemy to destroy.

In relationships with women, this is especially important to learn how to decrease rather than escalate tension. So breathe and relax when that anger gets explosive, try it a bit, it'll really help.

[Protagoras]

Everyone will have different opinions about how your anger, but only you can really assess it with deep introspection. If you feel that there are certain areas were it is problematic, than you'll probably want to improve on that.

[BellePepper]

It sounds like you're a on a path strewn with justifications and excuses that's going to get you in trouble. If you know your anger is a problem, you need to seek professional help before it makes YOU a problem.