Men look at woman as a complete package.
Looks are the most important, and its what comes first.
A thicker body is not preferable to a skinny one.
What is however is a hips to waist ratio.
If you don't have a good hips to waist ratio (the lower the better) then you have a bad body.
When guys say "i like thick women" what it really says is "I'm supplicating to you, and I hope by saying this that you will like me."
When someone uses the word "thick" most people think fat. Esepcially when it comes to the internet. Were talking 400lbs of gross.
Thick is not J-lo and its not Beyonce nor is it Kim kardashian. those women are THIN. How do I know this? look at their hips to waist ratio. Its LOW. Numbers and mathematics don't lie.
That's why they are hot, its because they are thin. They have a slim waist.
Is kim kardashian hotter than some swimsuit models with smaller asses? Yes Why? Because she has an even lower hips to waist ratio than even they do.
The truth is this. Lets look at the extremes here, men prefer anorexia to morbidly obease. Why? because the anorexic chick is just about one hamburger shy of being hot. The morbidly obease woman is probably years away from being attractive.
Its by far easier to get fat than it is to lose fat.
Sometimes people are really trying to say, do we prefer kim kardashian over some swimsuit models. But that's not what's some people are hearing and that's not what most people say when they say that. They are really trying to be supplicating losers by trying to make fat women feel better and thus making themselves look good.
Ok now that being said are stretch marks hot? No. they are a turn off.
Are they forgivable? sure. Depending on the rest of your body.
Dont feel bad though even if you gain 500 lbs and have to be craned around, there are plenty of desperate losers out there that will still want you.
But if you want a quality man, your going to have to be a quality woman and lose weight.
its entirely relative. most guys won't pick a heavy set girl over a thin one. one of my firends is a heavy set girl, she is bigger than me in every way (im a bit below average), except I'm about 3 cm taller (im 180 cm). this doesn't sound like a very 'classic girly' figure that most guys like. on the other side of the coin when you look at her, there is no doubt she has a womans figure, big boobs, nice ass, looks great in a pair of jeans, her waist is thinner than her hips, gorgeous face blah blah blah. she might not be a thin girl, but she is still one of the most beautiful girls I know. (as an aside she has a great personality, but that's not why I started talking to her)
From my experience with weight issues...when I was over weight people called me a fat ass every chance they got including my dad. My brother would too and his stupid immature friends they would say "Lose some weight, fat ass." So when I eventually developed eating disorders I got under-weight and the comment was no longer, "Lose some weight, fat ass." It was, "You need to eat something you skinny bitch." No joke. People will always use anything they can find against you.
I've learned that it doesn't matter what weight you're at but it matters how healthy you are and how you carry yourself as a person. It is amazing with the right kind of confidence can do for you. Looks only last for a while before they fade and everyone gets old and wrinkley. No one truly stays youthful and beautiful all their life.
My boyfriend who used to play semi-profootball who is built extremely big like an ox who is muscular tells me all the time that it doesn't matter what size I am that I could be 200 300 pounds he would still love me that it is my personality that counts and how I act towards others. Believe it or not my boyfriend melts when I am kind to others. My boyfriend is definitely the gentle giant type. A REAL man will love you for your personality and spirit; an immature guy WON'T. Before my boyfriend and I started dating I thought he was a cocky superficial asshole but once I got to know him he has the biggest heart. Pointing out my boyfriend to you I'm trying to prove that there are tons of good looking guys who find bigger women attractive. Don't you ever lose any weight for some guy if you want to always do it for yourself and what will make YOU happy, not someone else.
If you find the right guy it won't be a turn off.
You're only a turn off if you allow yourself to be...You need to love yourself more because if you think low about yourself now losing weight won't do anything for your self-esteem, you'll always find someting new. Monique (the comedian) is so beautiful to me. Not just her look but I really admire her self-eseem and courage. I love how she loves herself and say "F*ck you" if you don't like me for it. Love & Confidence for self is the key sweetie and if you don't have that you'll never understand true beauty
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I very much value character over appearances, because all of our bodies will change in time, your character and how you conduct yourself will stand the test of time. I have seen and been with many larger women and found them very attractive and exciting, however I'm not all hung up on weight. I feel this way because, I feel that if a woman can accept me for the way I am, then I can accept her for the way she is. I would like to believe that any man of depth and honor would feel similarly. I hope this helps you some, and that you find a good quality man who will love you for WHO you are and not your weight
Its not always turn off and I am sure there will be loads of guys who would be interested in you for who you are. But unfortunately if you are a BBW there may be many guys who won't take the initiative to even make an attempt to know the real you. However to each one suits their own. There are some guys who really are into BBW only and may even insist on you not to loose weight. So I would just recommend, be yourself and you should be in a weight that is healthy and most importantly that makes you feel good about yourself. And again my answer is based on the assumption that you are Big Beautiful Woman (BBW) who is at least 100lbs overweight. Otherwise just go with what Ephram says.
Okay, let me put it to you like this
any man who judges you because something as stupid as your looks,
Doesn't even deserve to be with you.
There are plenty of other fishes in the sea.
You shouldn't even be asking if it's a turn off or not!
Because you shouldn't give a d*mn if you're going to spend the rest of your life worrying about what everybody else is thinking about you mite as well tie the string to you arms and feet mami , Because you are just letting society control how you look, think, and feel. so if you're thick and beautiful you better work what you got and let them haters hate.
P.S
Keep your head up :)
Weight is a turn off generally but there are other factors involved such as you mentioned. I was very much in love with a heavy set girl in my 20's. I wish she had a personality like yours, I might have married her. Than there are the guys that like heavy women and all the heavy guys with your same body type, if you live in the USA that would be most of them. So I wouldn't worry. If you want to look really hot, loose the weight, it's much better for your health also. I never could loos the weight I put on till I was older for some reason, I guess I just developed more discipline, I haven't eaten junk food in years now and don't ever plan to.
first off I will say that almost every woman I know says or believes that she needs to loose weight. Why, I'm not sure, but they all feel that way. I, as many guys, believe that a thicker body on a woman is much more appealing than someone that's too thin. It's perfered that a woman have curves and thickness in order to be sexy. So question is do you truly really need to loose weight? Without seeing a photo of you its impossible to say, but chances are that you do not and many guys like me would find you more than appealing and sexy.
The real issue hear is your health. I would try to loose weight but first and for most, do it for YOU. Try to become healthier, not skinnier. The reason why a lot of men are attracted to fit women is because we want a healthy women who can bare children. So there are more reasons to lose weight then it being simply a turn off. Eat right and exercise; there are no short cuts and it takes time to get in shape but the confidence you get from it is priceless. Good luck.
-MaxPrime
Of course it can be a turn off, but I think it doesn't matter that much - or at least I have no idea how much it matters. I guess other things can be a bigger turn off or obstacle, and maybe sometimes weight is not a turn off. Sometimes it can even be a turn on :-)
(PS : I'm a guy)
A heavy girl can be very attractive. I'm attracted to some large girl cause they have large hips, buttock and nice curve.
If you want to attract attention, bet on your clothing. Men like black soft pant (not jean) with a small yellow motif at top of pant and golden flip flops/sandals. With pink nail and foot polish. And a nice jacket.
It really fits on heavy girls.
I don't like too skiny girls with skin on bone. So you have advantage.
to be honest, some guys don't even notice stretch marks except for the really extremely shallow and knit picky ones that I prefer not to date. my body is fine, but still. being in a good shape is also a healthy choice.
Character is way more important, I agree. body isn't everything. but some people don't realize that a body and physical appearance are not everything :)
I know plenty of guys who dig bigger women, and even my husband was happy when I gained some weight. It is all up to the individual. People called me fat when I was a size 2 people called me fat as a size 12 essentially people are f***ed. Don't take that out on yourself. Good luck!
Uhm... it depends. Weight CAN be a turn-off, but only if you have A LOT of it. Most girls who THINK they're fat, are still attractive to guys.
If you're 100% sure you are NOT fat, then I wouldn't worry about it. As for stretch marks, that isn't really a big deal for us.
No it's not a turn off. I like women with curves, my recent ex was plus sized and she was beautiful and I let her know that everyday. Also sex was better, it really was. She used to be ashamed of her body but I let her know she was beautiful in my eyes. Not everyone likes plus sized girls just like everyone likes skinny girls. Be yourself someone out there is going to love you for it.
How Heavyset?
Can you give a height/weight example, what size you wear, and possibly reference a picture of either you or someone who is close to your size?
b/c "Fat" can mean different things to different people.
Are you like a size 14 plus size model Crystal Renn?
Or are you obese like a size 20?
People are horrible, people will judge you, people will cut you down for your appearance. Doesn't matter - going to happen to matter what. Lose weight to be healthy, for you. Confidence is sexy to me, not what number you are on the scale hun
for some, sure but keep in mind that you don't have to sleep with everyone, just a select few.
No, the majority of guys don't care as much as girls think about weight/stretch marks/etc.
well most guys are assholes but me I don't really care if you have a bubbly personality that's good enough to me but ther are some guys actually consider that a turn on actually
Sorry to tell you to some people you maybe. I'm black that turns some girls off
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