I'm so sorry that you are in this position. I have similar disability issues though I'm not married. It was so hard for me to accept all the things I won't be able to be or can't do any more, I'm not sure I ever really will accept it. Working full time is just never going to happen. I often feel like my body has betrayed me. I wonder who I would be with out pain, fatigue, and pills. I've found in dating it's very hard to find a guy who can cope with helping to care for me. I would settle for someone willing to listen and learn.
It sounds like your hubby is stuck in the past. He might be trying to stay positive about your condition (as unhelpful as it really is). He might be having a hard time accepting that the old you is gone (as you may be at times too). He might really not be listening or understanding.
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I think you should be honest with him, tell him how this disability is slowly taking over your ability to work. And after all government pays you if you're on disability hopefully where you live. SO you will still be contributing to the household income, tell him that you hope he loves and supports you whilst you're going through this rough time. If he takes it well and genuinely loves you, he won't feel like there has to be a certain fairness, but if you're at home, its important to do your part too.
Take him to a doctor with you. If he doesn't accept it after a doctor tells him that you can't work, then he can go F him self
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Whats the disability?
Does he know about/understand the disability? Go online and teach him about it or take him to your next doctors appointment and have the doc explain it to him...May I ask what disease you have? I am in the same boat and maybe I can help you
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