Would you wait to get married until you and your SO were in physical shape?

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As in if you and your SO want to get married but are both over weight. Would y'all wait to get married until you both where in great physical shape or say screw it?

Cosytoasty · Accepted Answer

When both partners get into great shape - a couple that might have "settled" for each other previously might, well be looking outside at more attractive options.

Now if they are truly in love with each other then they'll get married and great, however i've heard of men and women at the gym who have actually gone and divorced after getting into great shape because they can now pull the people they find attractive.

So it's abit of a double edged sword this. I suppose good in that you can "test" your relationship so to speak before committing fully.

Dionysos · Accepted Answer

If you both want to spend the rest of your life together, get married now.

Life is too short to wait.

One thing to consider though. Are you both a good influence on each other? It sounds like you might be like me, fat turning you off because it's something that bothers you about yourself. If that causes you both to be healthier and happier, it's good. If it makes you or your partner lose self esteem it's not good.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would probably just say F*** it and get married. Life is too short, and I really don't care if I'm super skinny at my wedding or if I am just me at my wedding. I don't want to look back on my wedding pictures and be sad that I don't look like that anymore. Society punishes overweight people enough for not fitting into society the way they think they should. So why not just enjoy life and get married?

I can always work on getting fit anytime. And I wouldn't want the wedding to be my only motivation.

XOXOME16 · Accepted Answer

Just get married. That should be a challenge you guys do together when you're already married. Because working to lose weight together in order to get married can cause frustrations and annoyances that can lead to problems. Losing weight takes time and patience. Doing it after marriage wouldn't be rushing anything. You'd have all the time you need to really lose that weight in a healthy way.

Smmyskittles · Answer

My wedding right here [[lol, some day]]. I'll take him to the gym. Show him a good time. ;)

Ginnyweasley97 · Answer

It's not a bad idea. I have decided I am not sure I want kids but I can be convinced to have no more than 2. I saw a woman on some talk show she talked about how she wants to weigh a thousand pounds. (I wish I was joking) She was pregnant during her massive weight gain journey and as a result her son has a ton of problems.

code3 · Answer

But why would you suddenly make weight an issue in your relationship if it hadn't been previously? A wedding is a commitment to your lover not a get fit challenge. I dunno, I just don't see why anyone would want to do that unless it's just for looks on the big day.

Kiwedin · Answer

If I'm going to be looking at these wedding pictures for the rest of my life, then I definitely want to look hot as fuck. Health is something that should be long-term though. I'm not losing weight to look good for one specific event in my life, I'm losing weight because I care about my health, I want to minimize my risk of developing a debilitating disease, I want to extend my lifespan, I want to feel good.

Heera · Answer

You should never rush a marriage, that would be a big mistake. If you're good for each other you'll still love each other no matter the time.
Also I think you'll enjoy more your wedding photos if you would have been more confident in them!
I think you should take this journey together before taking the bigger journey we call "marriage"!
Hope this helps. Wish you the best!

jesshkah · Answer

I don't think weight is something to hold someone back from marriage.. My requirements are more logistical. Like money.

Tanuron · Answer

Dont see what weight has anything to do with marriage or a relationship really. Certainly would never decide or make my decision based on anything like that. Bad idea in either case to either wait or get married cause of things like that.

sixnineanon · Answer

I'd wait till we're both in good shape because I wouldn't my wedding pictures to look like this:

RandomBritishGuy94 · Answer

If it means something to her I would. I'm marrying someone. I want them to enjoy the day not worry about what they look like.

I probably wouldn't care about myself. I don't look unhealthy and am happy enough with myself.

OrangeBoy · Answer

But what about all that delicious wedding food? We go fit, then we eat then we are fat again next morning :' (

Sure i wait, just don't bring the no sex before :p
Actually, if we both work together, it's an activity that can unite us more, and even help us learn and know more about the other person. May help getting that love stronger.

Cashew72 · Answer

get married and get in shape together! If you aren't careful, you will be waiting for the world to be perfect (i. e., Planets aligned, graduate college, buy a house, pay off student loan, start career, travel the world, blah, blah, blah), just do it!!!

vishna · Answer

I would get fit in the months leading up to my wedding with my fiance, but I wouldn't postpone anything because of my weight if I didn't meet a goal. So, I better get in shape because either the dress fits or it doesn't.

AzureGirl · Answer

Eh, love shouldn't matter what weight you are. If you want to get married then get married. If both partners want to lose weight and get into shape then they could work on it together both before and after getting married.

justbanANNAz · Answer

hm i reckon i would. i'd wanna look nice on the day and I'm sure he'd want that too. not only is it about looking good, but those photos will be a reminder of what we can achieve when we support one another, which i think is beautiful.

LittleMissCuriousity · Answer

I'm overweight, and have been since I hit puberty. No amount of diet and exercise will change that. Even if it would, I love myself. I will be a fat bride in a gorgeous dress, and I no one at my wedding will judge me.

ElissaDido · Answer

Sure! I would want them to feel confident and good looking on their special Day, of course, he has to be serious about it, and not make me wait 2 years lol

GingerBear · Answer

If either me or my partner were overweight, we never would have started dating in the first place. But yeah, I'd want to look damn good on my wedding day.

slatyb · Answer

Only if there is a definite plan to get in shape, like you are both going to gym every day or four days a week or doing something. Otherwise it will never happen.

Anonymous · Answer

I think getting in shape together is a great idea, but I wouldn't schedule the wedding around it, i'm not that concerned with the wedding pics.

If you look way better two years later, you get more photos.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah I would wait until I got in shape I wouldn't be happy until I gave her the hour glass body shape she has always wanted.

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