How do I motivate myself to go to the gym?

[iCroissant]

I want a girlfriend so bad but I'm not sexy, just fit. I need to gain muscle. How do I motivate myself?

[Little-Hippie]

Motivate yourself with the understanding that the overwhelming majority of the women you encounter will be at least overweight,
but the dating economy is in such a state that the overweight women still have enough leverage to demand fit-looking men because they're aware the men's options are significantly more limited than previous generations when it comes to gaining the attention of a reasonably fit woman.

So in order for you to get a girlfriend who isn't part of the overweight majority, you yourself need to be in the top 1% fittest men that society has to offer.
Otherwise there is nothing visually separating you from the rest.

Fat acceptance culture has made women unapologetic about their appearance, which means that their standards will not budge while they get further further below your baseline standard.

Godlike fitness isn't optional at this point. Being incredibly muscular and aesthetic-looking is now the bare minimum trait that you'll need to get even a decent looking woman.

Are you motivated?

[iamwoot]

Put up a picture of a guy you want to look like. Like on your bedroom door or something. Your friends will bust your balls, but fuck em.

And whenever you look at the picture, think to yourself, "my life would be so much better if I looked like that." And then dedicate yourself to that future self. I like to tell myself, "sure doing 5 sets of 80% max bench and shoulder presses sucks, but I don't care about what I want right now. I care about what my future self wants. And he wants to look like a straight badass."

[Anonymous]

Attraction is a very complex thing. It is not as simple as gaining muscle. Though muscle is an indicator of high levels of testosterone as is facial hair and angular features which all increase mate value. High mate value is not always best though because only females who see themselves as having a high mate value find males with high mate values attractive. This is because as testosterone increases so does infedelity rates which leads to low mate investment. Therefore low value mates seek a comprimise between mate value and mate investment. And that is just the sexual selection side of it imagine if we brought the psychological side in as well. Moral of the story be yourself your mate is out there.

[iCroissant]

Well then my self improvement is for my mate. For her pleasure. And just to improve my health and mood.

[molllll]

Honestly you have to do it for yourself, it's the only way it works.

I actually really enjoy going to the gym at times, just zoning out with some music and working on my body. I think it's really refreshing.

Bribe yourself if you have to. But be realistic! Set yourself goals, which can be really helpful if you're competitive. Who knows, you may even meet a potential partner there... :-)

[cavmanier]

From my experience, I like going to feel good. It's like a health and mind boost for me. If you start going regularly, you may feel that desire too. I plan on going exercising the rest of my life. You don't have to go to the gym though. There's other ways you can workout which you may enjoy more.

[KonnichiWaZach]

The most important thing I can say is to train for yourself and not for anyone else. A subconscious goal of mine would be to look good for the girls and whatnot, but that's not really my whole purpose when it comes to training. You can also start by watching hardcore bodybuilding training videos as a start to get you fired up before your trip to the gym (which I still do to this day just to get me amped :P)

Man you can do this. Go out there and Kill it!

[dpg91]

My answer to this is always the same - stick at it for long enough until you start seeing and feeling results. As a beginner it won't take you long to notice a difference. Results are addictive and will in themselves keep you coming back for more.

[Máiiréad]

You should want to gain muscle for yourself, not for a girl! If she is worth it, she will like you for who you are already. May sound cheesy, but it is true.

[EdgarJude]

Getting muscle won't get u a girlfriend. U still have to talk To them and build attractio. Go to train but work on your flirting to

[LaFemmeFatale]

Just look at the picture of that girl you like.
To be honest, If she's for you, she'll like you the way you are now.

[NatashaJ]

start with something small like walking every then you feel more motivate after a while because you start getting the benefits of exercise.

[BellePepper]

Stop putting yourself and find reasons to go because you want to not because you feel bad about yourself.

[Tarvold]

Here's a start

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bz6Mehmvwgs

[Decentguy]

listen to some songs that get you motivated and listen to them while working out, and make a promise to your self that no matter what you will go to gym everyday and bust your ass there

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Everytime a girl crosses your mind, workout or something xD

[Ladyslipper]

Go on You Tube and watch documentaries of people getting fit and seeing the before and after

[Anonymous]

Just go once and you will feel good after and actually want to go again

[Xfitchick]

who told you you need to be muscular to be sexy?