Why do only fat girls like me?

Question

Seriously, I definitely don't try, but it seems every girl I know who weighs 180 or more lbs. becomes extremely attracted to me.

Most recent example, I was talking to this one chick I work with about the world cup. Not 2 min later, she's asking me back to her place so we can "watch a game together sometime. ;)...she made it VERY clear what she meant, btw. I was grossed out. This "girl" is taller than me, is well over 200 lbs, and to top everything off already has a bf. So she's a pos, too.

I keep in very good shape-I'm 6' 1, 150 lbs...fairly skinny but very fit.

Skinny girls, or even normal-sized girls, don't show near the interest in me that the borderline obese do.

What is it about these beasts that make them throw themselves at me like this? It keeps happening!

Thoughts?

ConfusedAboutAGuy · Accepted Answer

Firstly, Victoriathefirst, jump off of your high horse! Its people like you who make it seem acceptable to refer to someone who is overweight as a 'beast'. The funny thing is, I reckon that you either are or were overweight yourself, or you simply have a morbid obsession with your weight. Time to go and see a counselor I think.

Oh and for your information, it is only the shallow, bitchy women such as yourself who judge people so cruelly. If we refer to a guy as a jerk or a creep then there is usually a good reason for it, not simply their size/shape/colour etc. You see, human beings like to get to know each other before judging...Perhaps you hell-born demons should fall out of the nasty tree and hit every nice branch on the way down. It might do you some good. :)

Secondly, to the question asker, I think people are so offended about what you've said because the term is a tad harsh. I get that you've got caught up with writing the question, but perhaps a proof read might be a good idea in future. I agree that this girl has issues and is certainly not right to be attempting to cheat with you on her boyfriend..but the point is that she was just one of your examples, remember? And it isn't fair to judge and name people simply because of their size. Fair enough if you aren't attracted to them, but name calling is unnecessary.

I think hope_9 has it right though -- maybe because you actually talk to them they think they've got a chance, because most others won't give them the time of day. Or maybe you're naturally flirty and just don't realise?

Either way, perhaps next time just think before you post a question - if you use such controversial language then expect many of your responses to be about your terminology rather than actually answering your question.

I'm not sure why the skinny, 'hot' women aren't going for you...but perhaps they sense there is something judgemental about you. Most women have moments where they feel insecure, and they certainly won't want to be with someone with whom they don't feel comfortable enough to be who they are. Lose the attitude and the chip on your shoulder and you'll probably have better luck in the future.

I hope this helps...And please, please, please don't listen to people like Victoriathefirst; she is most certainly not representative of the general female populace and it is women like her who should be avoided at all costs and eventually bred out of the population. Here's hoping.

Elisha · Accepted Answer

Well wow, you are an ass. I would say that is harsh but it isn't. I can tell you have a problem...not sure what it is though. Did you get bit by a donkey and catch a bad case of jackass? (Bad joke I know, sorry!)

Anyway I feel you have need to show this side of yourself more. Then (as you would call them) "breasts" won't hit on you anymore because everyone will no you're a no good asshole. Note I can only go by what you wrote on here. If you're actaully a nice guy (which I doubt) then sorry.

Btw why would you post mean things online about people? I don't understand how on an advice site you feel the need to call someone or a group of people, breasts and borderline obese. I mean be enough of a human being and think before you post. I mean not only skinny or average looking girls are going to read this (duhh!). Unless you're that absent minded, then you posted this to also knock some of the heavier set women down! Just please stop with the slander of other people (knowing them or not). Anyway I wish you luck in life and with woman because you seem to need it.

hope_9 · Accepted Answer

lol! wow. I totally get it. It could just be that your a nice guy (in person...because right now ur not coming across too well) But most people are really mean to or ignore fat people. My best frien is slightly overweight and whenever we go somewhere together most guys don't give her the time of day. So maybe you just treat them normally or something and they take that as your interested. As for why the skinny girls don't date you idk? They could just be pickier or maybe your not quite as hot as you think you are.

IamThisGuy · Accepted Answer

First I just want to mention that it is incredibly disrespectful to refer to these women like that. Get that attitude checked ok?

Now as for your situation, I MIGHT know what's going on because it happens to me fairly frequently. As I'm going through college, I've started to gain more confidence around the women I'm interested in and being able to show it but that was not always the case. But before, whenever I was around my friends or people I've met or women I was not interested in (including women who would be of an obvious plus size nature) I would act like I normally would: I don't care what people think of me kind of mind set, I'm pretty talkative, engaging, and friendly to anyone who wanted to chat kind of thing. But when I was around any women I was fairly attracted to, I would tend to be more reserved, thinking for some reason they would be more judgmental oh what I would have to say or do (Ive come to learn this is not the case lol). But back to my point. I think maybe because I was able to just be myself and be friendly to these larger women, that might have gotten their attention. They might not have been used to a guy giving them attention or being engaging with them simply for the sake of making a conversation. (this is in contrast to what would be considered an overly attracted women probably not running out of guys coming up to them trying to start a conversation practically everyday). I don't know if I've adequately explained this whole scenario right but I think you get the idea: show a girl some attention who may not be used to it and she may become interested. Now when I'm in a conversation with someone who I'm not attracted to and she starts showing interest herself, I just start dropping hints left and right to delicately make it clear that I'm not. hope this helps

dbowdry13 · Accepted Answer

This always was a begging question for me. I'm just like you, but I don't work out at all, and I'm single...and I wouldn't use those rude terms. Hardly no one likes obesity, so they have to actually put forth effort since they aren't being courted by guys...unlike skinny, healthy girls with a sense of gradiosity all because they get approached by guys on a daily basis. It's these women who need to jump off the high horse. Not you. Obesity is a health problem that shouldn't be compulsively accepted and encouraged, and it also doesn't help to shame someone for not finding it attractive. It's not my preference either. Just don't be so cruel about it.

StancedTaco · Answer

I'm kind of in the same boat. I'm a 32M who is 6' and 170lbs and pretty fit since I travel the country and hike all over the place on a weekly basis. Every time I get "liked" on dating apps it's always the bigger gals who would never be able to keep up with me in a realistic life setting with how active my lifestyle is. Sad part is, I have it stated right in my profile that I snowboard, downhill mtn bike, hike, rock climb, and go camping on a monthly basis year-round but these fatties seem to think they'd fit right in lol.

I'm not being a dick either, I'm just telling the cold hard truth here. I don't want someone who doesn't take care of their body and doesn't care about their activity level and there's nothing wrong with that.

OP, my guess is the fatties who keep diggin' you are probably just looking for an easy out and they're taking their chances on anything they find remotely attractive since they subconsciously know they're bigger but have accepted their size and unhealthily labeled themselves as "curvy" or "fat and proud" or some lame excuse crap like that.

But the truth is, being fat is NOT a healthy life choice, it's honestly worse for your health to be fat than it is to smoke cigarettes in all honesty. Research it!

babymama2010 · Answer

I was going to say that maybe its your personality that's attracting so many girls at first, but after you referred to the girls as "beasts"  and "borderline obese" I kind of doubt it's your personality! Lol. Maybe its just a coincidence that all these girls that have liked you have been bigger girls.

KingCheshire · Answer

I’m in the same boat as well man! I have a better job, have been working out and am improving my life over all but the quality in women that are into me hasn’t changed. I put all this work into being the best version of myself. Why aren’t the best women becoming an option! You’re not alone with these questions man and the women on here will attack you for having preferences because they probably don’t meet your preferences. You hit it on the head with words like obese and beastly.
ladies we want dainty and feminine women! If we are working on being fit and healthy then yes we deserve that type of woman.

vmw2008 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with wanting to date a woman who takes care of themselves when you take care of yourself too. Just watch the attitude. Attractive women aren't going to be interested in you either if you're rude to women who like you ( no matter their size). You'd think a girl was a jerk if she was going on and on about all the nasty beasts coming up to her all the time. You probably wouldn't be very likely to be interested in her or ask her out.

Anonymous · Answer

6'1 and 150lbs? I'm 6'2 at 230lbs. and I know I'm a little chunky but still, that sounds pretty thin.

as for why? I dunno. your current case is right out as she's already taken, but fat is also a very broad definition. one mans fat is another mans comfy. and a 6'1 180 girl sounds fairly curvy to me. but what do I know. short answer, I have no idea why large women are attracted to you. maybe you're flirting with them. I dunno.

Anonymous · Answer

Women reject guys for much more shallow reasons and they do so in a much more disrespectful way.   What's more shallow?  Reject a girl because she's overweight (something she can change all by herself and no one can stop her) or for a girl to reject a guy because of his height?   I mean weight is something a girl can do something about.  Women reject men for Hair, Height, Looks, and lots of things they don't control.   Even his financial situation is not as easy to control as a healthy lifestyle.   Guys will still give women a chance but women completely reject guys for things they can't control.  What's more they will ridicule him to his face about it or post in singles ads not to have those qualities.  You almost can't watch a movie that doesn't have a woman making fun of a man by referring to some aspect of his physical appearance which he has no control over and making fun of it.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow no reason to call a girl a beast just because she's overweight and you're not attracted to her. Perhaps these "beasts" don't get much male attention and since you talk to them and are nice to them, they think they have a chance with you.  Fat women are still people

Anonymous · Answer

I understand your plight. Yes the unequal attention might be more bearable if at least a few of the desrirable women said "hey do you want to hang out?" What might me missing rather than your "nasty" attitude is you haven't addressed women in the right places. Is your problem online? In a bar? In even the gym? Well then the bigger problem than being mean is you Gigantic competition... 3/1 ratio online and more likely 10/1 when narrowed to desirable women; in the gym the odds balance more but women's insecurities and guard are up. Get the place to approach women down first then the attitude second.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow you sound like a completely shallow jerk. I'm betting a lot of girls pick up on that. I think you can die alone and the gene pool will be better for it.

martyfellow · Answer

Maybe your thick moustache makes you look a little like a bull walrus, something they can relate to!

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are ALL self conscious about their weight. That's why they are all calling you an ass hole and think you are disrespectful and shallow. The truth is girls that are overweight have learned to be more outgoing else they will NEVER get any! How many times does a borderline obese girl get asked out a year? The answer is probably not often. If they really cared they would go to the gym every day and work out like I do. Don't feel alone because I definitely can relate to your situation.

Jack1029 · Answer

Haha dude your such a jackass... Bahahahahaha and I'm 6,3 230 pounds in really good shape you skinny little prick bahahahahahhaahha

Anonymous · Answer

you my friend are a toolbag, you do not judge a woman on her looks. What are you?

emzy-89 · Answer

you're an ass.

Anonymous · Answer

You're an ass.

snackeyg · Answer

Beasts hahahaha

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